Hello teacher, I am a female, 160 in height and 56 kg in weight.
I am not an only child, I have an older brother, but I am a single-parent family, 27 years old, after graduating from college, I worked in finance in a company in a small county, and the blind date is an only child, 28 years old, 180 tall, not very fat.
He works within the system, but there is no establishment, and his parents are also in the system. The boy has two apartments and a car at home and currently lives alone.
The two of us have known each other for about 10 days, during which time we have been out twice, I feel that I don't like this boy very much, the first time we met, he talked very intimately, I felt greasy and greasy.
For example, he will say that he can't wait to message you just after the meeting. Or, when I'm about to fall asleep, he'll say, go to sleep, and I'll review the sweetness of today myself.
Now I don't know if I should continue with him, and if I have problems, I want to ask the teacher to help me wake me up.
Hello, after reading the chat history, I found that the expression of the other party is indeed more greasy. For women who only met twice in ten days of acquaintance, there is no step-by-step process of promoting the relationship, and they have casually crossed the woman's comfort zone and directly communicated with girls in an ambiguous way, which is really inappropriate. But for the current situation, we still need to discuss it on a case-by-case basis.
First, first of all, from the perspective of the man, there will probably be two situations for this kind of man. First, the other person has low emotional intelligence or is not experienced enough in love. However, he is more recognizable to your value. At least after meeting each other and during the two meetings, there is an element of pursuit and liking for you.
It is only that the ability to control speech is weak, and it is easy to pull the relationship between language to an ambiguous stage in the initial stage. To put it bluntly, it is at an inappropriate stage, using an overly radical expression.
The second is an endorsement of the value you have shown. The other party has a certain amount of love experience, and after the acquaintance, during the two meetings, you have not shown a clear sense of disgust with his ambiguous language and greasy language.
Therefore, this ambiguous language is a recognition of the value you have shown at your current stage, so that you hope to use such language so that you can cross the level into the ambiguous stage as soon as possible, or directly establish a romantic relationship.
Either way, it comes down to being an indicator of interest released by the other person, indicating that the other person is interested in you, at least for now. It's just that in a way, it's the wrong way to advance the relationship, or you don't perceive your dislike of his expression.
The second point, from your point of view, for you, if it is only because the other party appears in the short term more aggressive greasy, ambiguous language is more disgusting, resulting in a sense of test dislike. Of course this can be your personal choice. But if you want to give each other a chance, you don't have to make up your mind at this point. Because in the chat history, in the face of the other party's greasy language, you have not clearly expressed your disgust and disgust, you just made a relatively bland response.
Maybe you didn't explicitly object to the language during your two meetings and dates with him, so the other person will always use it and be happy.
That being the case, whether the other person has low emotional intelligence or is eager to move forward with the relationship, you can tell the other person clearly first. Our relationship wasn't that deep yet, and now we're just friends. It makes me feel embarrassed that you talk like this, and I hope you don't talk like that again.
This will give him a change at the same time, but also as your first time to screen the other party by making a request. If the other party changes, it shows that he is willing to listen to your opinion, indicating that at least your value is there, and he still seems to have power.
If you want to ask whether you should continue, as far as the current situation is concerned, as long as the other party is willing to change the way you speak, the subsequent willingness to invest in you is not indispensable, giving each other the opportunity to continue to deepen.
No one says you have to get married and have kids as long as you date, right? If the subsequent behavior of the other party cannot meet your requirements and standards, then being a friend is not a big problem. The current marriage market itself pays attention to two-way choices, without in-depth understanding, you will not know whether the other party is suitable for you.
Only met twice in ten days, the other party's behavior can not be fully presented, and it is not certain whether he is reliable. Looking at yourself, you're not fully presenting yourself to the other person at the moment, are you?
Don't immediately deny because of the other party's expression, as long as you have your own standards and bottom line, it is not harmful for you to know more.
I wish you happiness!