The Reconstruction of Life (Self-Love): Louise Hay teaches you how to love yourself

I first encountered Louise Hay's Reconstruction of Life in 2013.

When I first saw a picture of Louise Hay, I was impressed by her spiritual smile.

She was the first person to teach me to reconcile with my past self, and it can be said that the book "The Reconstruction of Life" has rebuilt my life.

There is a saying that goes: "Lucky people are cured of childhood all their lives, and unfortunate people are cured of childhood all their lives." ”

In The Reconstruction of Life (Self-Love), Louise Hay gives us a third option—to love ourselves.

Louise Hay repeatedly emphasizes in her book that there is only one way to solve all problems, and that is: to love yourself.

Love yourself is the cure for all problems.

Born to be human, we spend our whole lives learning how to get ahead and be the best version of ourselves in the eyes of others.

However, in the dead of night, no one is willing to love us unconditionally, to love us as we are.

We put the right to love ourselves in the hands of others, so we are always suspicious, suffering from gain and loss, and hysteria.

Maybe not loving yourself is the test of the world for the unfortunate.

Loving yourself is the password.

Loving oneself is the weapon of all unfortunate people against all the misfortunes of the world, and it contains endless power to return to us everything we need and want.

Until then, we need to examine a set of thoughts and behavior patterns that we once believed in, create new thoughts and behaviors, and then remove obstacles on the way forward and start a new life of loving ourselves wholeheartedly.

In life, there is always an external set of thoughts and codes of conduct that we should think and do. If we don't think that way and do this, we're wrong, unwelcome, and failed.

However, have we ever paused to think about who set these so-called standards?

For these so-called standards, we spend a lot of money to transform ourselves and make our appearance conform to the aesthetics of the public;

For these so-called standards, we try our best to succeed, only to find that this success is not necessarily what we really want;

For the sake of these so-called standards, day after day, year after year, we wear false masks to usher in the delivery, but there is no happiness in our hearts.

Sometimes, we simply don't know whether we are living for ourselves or for others in this life.

This kind of questioning is to break the shackles of the outside world and enter the powerful force of loving ourselves, and we need to thank it for asking us questions and teaching us new patterns of behavior and thinking, and starting a new life.

10 Ways to Love Yourself

Just as we learned how not to love ourselves from the outside, we need some time and methods to learn how to love ourselves.

1. Stop self-blame

We've heard too many people deny, criticize, and criticize us, but none of this is true. We may still be a long way from our ideal selves, but self-blame is useless. Stop having negative comments about yourself, replace it with some positive and beautiful language and behavior, and then observe what happens.

2. Stop intimidating yourself

Nine times out of ten things are not satisfactory in life, so we must always think about the good things that are eleven-twelfths.

Negative and broken thoughts are always lingering, but we can choose to face them bravely, and then let them go, find something beautiful to replace them, such as inviting ourselves to eat a favorite cake, partying with like-minded friends, and going to nature to breathe fresh air.

3. Treat yourself gently, friendly and patiently

Treat ourselves as gently, friendly, and patiently as we treat our loved ones. I know it's hard and it looks silly, but it's definitely worth it. You know, we have come to love ourselves in this life, and it is not too much to love ourselves no matter how much.

4. Be kind to your heart

We tidy up our rooms every day and clean our bodies. We loved the clean, tidy environment and thought we deserved the best in everything. There's nothing wrong with that. It's just that we need to give ourselves a little more time now, to clean up the weeds of the mind and the mind, and then to build a quiet, beautiful, peaceful garden of the mind with our own hands.

5. Praise yourself

Please go out of your way every day to praise yourself, the harmony of causes and conditions in the universe that created us, which is a great miracle in itself.

Don't wait for praise from others, always be the first person to praise yourself.

Only when we appreciate ourselves more and more and love ourselves, those lovely people and things will come.

6. Loving yourself means supporting yourself

Supporting your every decision, patiently cultivating your every hobby, loving what you love, and joining like-minded small groups can also help practice loving yourself.

When needed, we can seek the support and help of our peers.

7. Love your flaws

The downsides are part of us. We don't need to wait for ourselves to become perfect before loving ourselves, our existence shows that we are lovely people. Life is a great miracle, and this miracle tells us that acceptance and love are the main themes of existence, and shortcomings are also part of existence, an inseparable part of us. Shortcomings allow us to understand ourselves more clearly and embrace the unknown.

8. Take care of your body

When we feel that we are not good enough, or believe that we are not worthy of being loved, we use abuse of the body, such as overeating, drinking, staying up late...

Be your own family doctor, pay attention to your diet and sleep, and patiently observe how they affect our bodies.

We also need to be our own close friends, pay attention to the coming and going of our various emotions, and observe how our bodies feel.

Regardless of what our bodies are like in the moment, believe we have another option, which is to actively choose to love ourselves and then establish new, healthy patterns of habits and behaviors.

9. Look in the mirror often

Look in the mirror, look at your true self in the mirror, and then say to yourself with love, "No matter what, I love you!" ”

Can you do it?

I know it's hard, but it's worth trying.

I did this exercise and it took me almost two years to accept my true self without any negative emotions.

Loving yourself is something worth doing with all your might, but that doesn't mean the whole process is easy and easy.

Because too many people tell us that we are not good enough to be loved, it becomes difficult to love ourselves.

Time and again, we need to banish negative evaluations of us, clear up the influence of the past on us, and worry about the future.

However, no matter what, loving ourselves is the only way we can regain our freedom and happiness, and it is worth pursuing throughout our lives.

10. Love yourself now

Please love yourself from now on, there are no conditions for loving yourself, there is no need to take any responsibility, we just need to love ourselves wholeheartedly.

Believe that all the sufferings we have faced or are about to face are not reasons why we do not love ourselves, but a stepping stone to loving ourselves.

No matter how much reality gives us reasons to believe that we are unlovable, please love yourself firmly.

Love is the final destination.

The road to love yourself is lonely, winding and long, but don't be afraid!

Louise Hay has already prepared a travel guide for us, please open this book, let us set sail together, and open a new chapter of life through love!