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Whether in love or marriage, I think the most important thing is not how good your feelings are, nor how cute she is now, because these things are changeable, especially affected by life and change, but all feelings come to the end, and there is only this one place.
So you should put life first, and you should also take life as the main consideration standard, to see her attitude to life, her resilience to life, and her independence from life.
Attitude is a down-to-earth, diligent attitude, accepting one's own mediocrity and ordinary people's lives, avoiding the changes in life and life disasters brought about by vanity, impetuosity and greed from this mountain to that mountain.
Resilience determines that she will not encounter a little dissatisfaction, or because of the mutilated parts of life, and there are endless complaints, and know how to think, know how to use effort to change the status quo.
Independence is that she doesn't want to smash herself on someone else's body, a hundred.
If you don't have these three basic points in life, then your relationship can't be good forever, and she can't be lovely in your eyes forever. Unless all you want is a fleeting firework, don't mention the future, don't talk about the future.
Just like chatting with a friend, I especially remembered a sentence he said:
"I hate women who are not capable of their own and who are not working hard enough." Eat his, use his, the result is still looking down on him all day, meeting such a woman, is simply a disaster in life, if encountered, at the beginning to take it out, absolutely can not be lucky to continue to communicate. ”
Low eyes, arrogant, good and bad work, these characteristics will definitely blow you to pieces at a certain moment, and the sadness in front of you is just the beginning.
02
It is said that loving someone is not worth it, even if you are humbled to the dust, you are willing, you are willing, you are willing, feel that you are for love, worth it. Truly healthy love, even if you give and sacrifice everything, is of course worth it, but have you ever thought that it is still love?
True love should be spiritual nourishment, perhaps two people will be noisy and noisy, but in more days, or achieve common growth.
Because of each other, you are all on the road to slowly getting better, and even because of the existence of love, your lives have become abundant.
It's the same with women, it's a life event, even if not getting married is just in love, ask yourself if she's worth it.
If it is not worth it, you still want to communicate, then this life experience, may be to use your life to heal, will fundamentally destroy your passion for life, the belief and vision of love, and the trust between people.
Some people, some feelings, will have an impact on your life so much that even you can't think of it.
For a person who is not worthy, as long as they begin to communicate, the two people will immediately become each other's torture devices, and the feelings will immediately become the double cells of two people, except for endless internal friction and torture, there is nothing else.
So like a woman, but she is not worthy of dating, you must think clearly.
Love is not to die, like her at the moment, endure it will pass, at most it will cost you half a life, it is better than wanting your whole life, or ruining your entire life because of it.
Knowing that it is not worth it, but also saying that it must be together, at best it sounds like this is called love first, obsessive single-mindedness, and at worst it is called mental disability.
When we talk about whether the value is worth it, it may seem very utilitarian and insult to love, but have you ever thought that even if it is a thing of love, its occurrence is not absolutely pure, it is always affected by various factors in the world, and its deep meaning is also mobilized by the value is not worth mobilizing action.
Don't like a woman, you will make the whole world only one woman, do not look at what kind of character, no matter whether you have to love, as if there is a kind of death and life of the grandeur,
This kind of self-touching love is also the most likely to form a deformed love relationship.
In fact, to sum up very simple, the woman who deserves your interaction, in addition to her "sex" charm, should also have the charm of "people", which is often doomed to a great extent, as long as you are still a person, as well as your own feelings, emotions, ideas, emotions of people.
03
Don't ask whether it is worth it, is to love, have to love, such a person is often very terrible, because he is paranoid, when he loves a person, he can be very good to a person, when he does not love a person, he will also be particularly cold and ruthless, and you are never allowed to leave him first.
What's the most critical? Such a person also finds it difficult to maintain a good rational intimate relationship with people, and conversely, it is easy to form an irrational intimate relationship with people.
And this is the sign of love and killing, no longer reasonable, acting entirely according to the instincts of animals.
In fact, for the matter of whether it is worth it, whether it is selfish or self-love, it depends on how the individual understands, after all, in this world, there are always few absolutely objective answers, and more truths are subjective.
Maybe external beauty can bring two people together, but what determines how far two people can go is still inner beauty, she is kind, polite, grateful, and positive. Then even if the two people do not have a happy ending, the experience in the process is enough to amaze the years and last for a long time, which makes you feel beautiful when you think about it.
Whether it is worth it, whether it is worth it or not, although the standards are different, but we never lack judgment, but we lack the fear of things, always feel that it is not a big deal, always feel that they are the exception here, and finally pay for the original fluke psychology.
Don't be self-delusional, don't deceive yourself, even if you have to choose, you should be clearly aware of what you will bear, and be mentally prepared, as long as you are willing to bear, it is understandable.
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