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As the saying goes, to know what is natural is to know why it is so, to use theory to support action, but also to test the theory with practice, to know what causes in life will cause individual behavior deviations.
In modern society, the elderly group has long been disliked by the surrounding people, and the reasons are very complex, and in the final analysis, the reason is probably that the individual's ability to pay in life has declined, and the demand for it has risen.
Many elderly people have strange personalities and unusually large tempers when they are young, but when they are young, they can support themselves, they can be self-sufficient, and they do not need the care and companionship of others, so that they will not cause them to cause excessive disgust from those around them.
There are also some people who cannot keep up with the development of the times, only maintain their existing cognition, and are self-contained. Not accepting new things and learning new knowledge leads to a serious disconnection of these people's cognitive structure from society and difficulty in communication.
When these people are old, life will not be able to take care of themselves, they must have their own children to support themselves, and will bring a lot of trouble to the people around them, occupying a lot of other people's time and energy, so if you want to change the status quo of the elderly group being rejected, it is better to correct it from the reason.
Decreased ability to give
If you want to correct bad results, you are not just talking, good habits need to be cultivated as soon as possible, and everyone living in society should consciously improve their ability to pay.
In terms of individual temperament, many people do not know how to improve and do not know where to start. But in fact, the personality and temper of the individual itself are not good or bad, they all rely on the individual's subjective consciousness for the cognition and habits of society and things.
The cultivation of human character and temper is similar to emotional intelligence, which requires a long period of study and practice, and the pattern is very important for its cultivation, and a person needs to have a long-term vision.
No matter what gender, what age group, if the pattern is not large enough, the vision is not long-term enough, they will be obsessed with the small things around them, like to be preoccupied and unlikable. On the contrary, it will give people a feeling of open-mindedness and open-mindedness.
In addition, in addition to the problem of time, we must also pay attention to the nature of the income, not only to see the benefits of money, but also to understand more deeply what is hidden behind the interests.
In general, money or other material interests are productive forces, and the cause of productivity is to serve the individual, so the individual is the source of material things and the main source of emotions, and those who can grasp the human heart can grasp the whole world.
When the goal in your life is to give to others, what you give will come back to you at some point, and you will also be able to gain the respect and love of those around you.
Those personalities and tempers that are liked in life are actually cultivated in constant positive interactions.
In daily learning and life, in fact, not only the elderly will appear to be stuck in the phenomenon, everyone is actually inert, will be accustomed to relying on the original way of cognition to see the world and solve problems.
It is just that the way and ability of the elderly to receive information are more slow, and the acquaintances around them will continue to leave and gradually lose the source of information, so the disconnect between the elderly and the times is more obvious.
So, how should individuals try to keep their minds as open as possible? This requires people to learn more from now on, try to absorb new things as much as possible, and constantly revise their original cognitive methods.
When alone, individuals can read more books, read the news and even watch more movies, and in these things they can absorb different aspects of knowledge.
Life is hard to take care of
Finally, the elderly with the increase of age physical function will continue to decline, life gradually can not take care of themselves, this problem can also be solved from the individual when they are young, pay attention to diet, adhere to exercise, increase their own physique, reduce the incidence of diseases, delay the speed of their own body aging, so that their physical function as far as possible to maintain a state of self-care.
However, the degradation of physical functions is unavoidable, life, old age, illness and death are also natural laws, if you have enough ability to pay, even if you will rely on others in life, you will be understood by the people around you.
If you are old enough to exercise anymore, try to be careful not to rely too much on the people around you.
Whether materially, financially, or informatively, try to ask as little as possible from others when your ability to pay is insufficient. Doing so can greatly reduce the dislike of those around you.
If the individual can be both at the same time, the people around him will also be gradually infected by him, bring happiness to others, and become a person who is loved and respected in the crowd.
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参考资料：Bruk, A., Scholl, S. G., & Bless, H. (2018). Beautiful mess effect: Self–other differences in evaluation of showing vulnerability. Journal of personality and social psychology, 115(2), 192-205