It was as if a person sneaked away tears in a 10-square-meter rental house yesterday, and today she has become a mother of a 3-month-old baby.
From the age of 24 to 31, the youngest and most vigorous in life, young and ignorant, naïve, uninhibited seven years have passed, and I have ushered in a new stage of life.
In the past two years, there has become more and more suspicion of lying flat. There are not too many requirements for materials, a lot less stubbornness about themselves, and because of this, the heart is more abundant and happy, more and more can capture a lot of happy moments in life, from the heart to feel that it is living well now, from the heart to be grateful for everything that is now available.
It's clear that in the past 2021, my mentality has become more and more peaceful, less hysterical moments, and I have begun to focus on solving problems instead of venting emotions, in other words, I am starting to become more and more like a silent adult.
I also know myself better, compared to the desperate pursuit of career success, I enjoy the pleasure brought to me by a peaceful life, there are many ways to live in life, not to compare with others is the most important step in living yourself, ask yourself more about what you want, rather than often go to see what others are doing.
I also have some superficial understanding of the various relationships in life, and recording some such thoughts is a spiritual birthday gift to myself.
△ About love
Finding the object of the three views must be placed on the economic basis, which determines the happiness of your small family and everyone in the future.
Don't be stingy about expressing your love, and don't be stingy about responding to the other person's love.
If you fall in love, even if the present life is a little difficult, the future will definitely get better and better.
Still believe in love.
Don't waste every opportunity to get to know each other. If the quarrel is handled correctly, the feelings will heat up, and if it is not handled well, it may part ways and sleep in the same bed
Learn to express your feelings and control your emotions instead of letting the other person guess all the time or thinking that the other person will know.
Don't be too much, even the thickest love will disappear if it is squandered.
△ About family affection
Try to reconcile with our original family, we are all first-time parents, and so are our parents.
We always feel that our parents owe themselves an apology, always try to make their parents admit the failure of their education methods, and when they become parents, they really know that it is not easy to raise children, and they also understand the difficulties of their parents.
After people are middle-aged, after getting married and starting a family, the days we meet with our parents are destined to be less and less, especially those who are far away from home, if their parents are 50 years old now, they can live to 80 years old, even if they go home every year, each time they go back for 5 days, there are only 150 days, less than half a year of time together.
From now on, we will slowly learn to accept the fact that the children we are trying so hard to protect will one day leave us and never look back. As Long Yingtai said in "Seeing", the so-called father-daughter mother-son relationship only means that your fate with him is that you are constantly watching his back in this life and this life. You stand at this end of the path, watching him fade away into the bend of the path, and he silently tells you with his back: no need to chase.
△ About friendship
Friendships that require painstaking thoughts are not friendships.
Friends are the ones who make you feel comfortable when you are together, if you feel uncomfortable, you often need to hide your true self and create a "false prosperity" friendship appearance, then it is better to slowly forget about each other.
Make friends with people who really appreciate you.
High-quality friendship is like a confidant sister, usually may not remember, but when encountering problems, they are always there to take your every talk seriously and give you spiritual comfort.
There are not many friends, it lies in sincerity and friendship, and even if true friends are not in contact for a long time, a casual contact can still pull us back to the most intimate moment.
△ About the work
It is an eternal and unchanging truth that can only be gained by giving.
When you sincerely share and create value, readers can also feel it.
This year's continuous celebrity collapses have made us realize that all attempts to show people with false "human designs" will eventually fail and flee. The same is true for work, never perform for others to see, the most important thing is to improve your own ability, rather than the illusion of performing successful people who work hard.
We're here to work, not to make friends, not everyone we come into contact with can be friends, and when it feels like the magnetic field isn't right, remember that you're only in a temporary working relationship, nothing else, no need to please.
This year's birthday was particularly happy, the family began to buy vegetables early in the morning to prepare lunch, friends in Guangzhou set a somewhat special birthday cake online for me, and also enjoyed a somewhat special "dance".
On my first birthday after my mother, my baby also surprised me. Little Anko, who had just learned to laugh, actually giggled at me at noon, and we all teased her later, and she giggled a lot.
In the afternoon, I "invited" a few hours of vacation, went out shopping with XQ, drank the taro puree barley milk of the ancient tea, bought two Favorite Japanese bowls, and looked for some stationery such as sticky notes and pens, without spending a lot of money, but very happy.
Every year has today, the years have this dynasty, I hope that in the future days, someone can love, be loved, meditate and wish, small but happy.
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