Feelings are mutual, only one party pays, that is wishful thinking, only two feelings are pleasing to each other, it is possible to last forever.
Especially if you know that he doesn't love you, you shouldn't let go of more hope in him, which will only make you more disappointed.
Some feelings are reluctant, like a person who does not love you, you are no matter what, you can not make him fall in love with you, so if so, then forget it, there is no point in demanding.
If a person is not willing to take the initiative to pay for you, to give you warmth, not even to give you a little love, then you should understand that there is no you in his heart, so let it go.
You just need to understand that not everyone you meet is the right person, calmly face it, and slowly you can survive this period of time, and if a person is not willing to give it to you, don't cling to it anymore, barely come!
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Reluctant to give you the initiative
People who like you will take the initiative for you, and those who say they like it but never take the initiative to you, even if it is, their love is only superficial, not sincere.
A person who is not willing to take the initiative to pay for you, nor is willing to take the initiative to chat with you, your position in his heart is also dispensable, he may only look for you when he needs you, and will not think of you at other times.
Sometimes you will ask him why he did not take the initiative to find you, and he will answer that you are too busy, but you must know that this is just a reasonable excuse for himself, if he loves you, no matter how busy he is, he will have time for you and will also take the initiative to greet you.
So, don't believe his so-called busyness, he just doesn't want to give you the initiative, maybe when you think he is such a clumsy person, he gave the initiative to someone else.
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Reluctant to give you warmth
There is a line in "Passing Through Your Whole World": "I hope that there is a person like you, like the refreshing wind in the mountains, like the warm light of the ancient city, as long as it is you in the end." ”
Women want to meet someone who gives them warmth, who pampers themselves, loves themselves, and treats himself as a treasure in the palm of his hand, but not everyone can do it.
If the person you meet is unwilling to give you warmth, or even gives you the indifferent side, then you should understand that he does not love you, and how can the person who loves you be willing to treat you like this?
If he is only willing to give you indifference, speak coldly to you, and meet you is perfunctory, then don't be reluctant anymore, and find the person who belongs to you again.
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Unwilling to give you love
There are also some men who will always hang your appetite, he does not like you much in his heart, but he must not let you go, so he has been hanging you.
And you still foolishly think that as long as you try your best to be good to him and humble him, he will slowly be moved and will fall in love with you, but in the end, you find that this is just your wishful thinking.
It is already obvious that a person is not willing to give you love, he is not without love, but he has no love for you, and naturally there will not be too much expression.
In this case, you don't have to continue to insist, and it is futile to persist any longer, if he loves you, he will already give you everything you want, and will not let you down again and again.
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Conclusion
If a person is not willing to give you the initiative, nor is he willing to give you warmth, and he is not willing to give you love, then you should understand that he does not have you in his heart.
If he really cares about you, he will not do this to you, he will take the initiative to find you, he will give you all the warmth, and he will also give all the love.
Since he is not willing to do anything, then forget it, don't cling, don't force it, from now on to leave him, it is better than reluctant happiness.
One day, you will meet the right person, you will meet someone who is willing to give your whole body and mind to you.