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A person's true wisdom is not infinite wisdom, but great wisdom and foolishness.
Socrates said, "The only thing I know is that I know nothing." ”
It is true that only by lowering one's posture and integrating into society can we hear the truest voice, see the most real life, and gather more wisdom.
Not exposing the ugliness of the family, not looking at people short, and not counting right and wrong, is a person's cultivation and a way to deal with the world.
02
Keep your mouth shut and don't expose the ugliness of the family.
The ancients said, "The mouth can spit out roses, and it can also spit out tribulus terrestris." ”
In a word, everyone is happy, and it is not good to say, just like the sharp edge, piercing everyone's heartache.
If you are not sure in your words, bad things will follow.
In the novel of the writer Feng Menglong, there is a man named Wei Pengju, a Song Dynasty man. He was young and ambitious, won the jackpot, and married a beautiful wife.
One year, he bid farewell to his wife, took the scientific expedition again, and won the list.
Wei Pengju was momentarily happy and invited several friends to drink a lot of wine. After drinking, he picked up a pen and wrote to his wife: "I am in the capital, there is no one to accompany me, and I found a concubine." Hurry up and enjoy the riches together. ”
"Find a concubine", originally a joke, was quickly seen through by his wife. The wife also "calculated" and replied: "I am at home, looking for a small husband, in a few days, we will go to the capital together and meet with you." ”
Unexpectedly, their letters were seen by a good man and shown to the people in the court. The emperor was indignant, believing that Wei Peng had a problem with his character and revoking the results of the list.
"Drama has a degree, and words have a ruler", some absurd words, once they become the handle, they are indefensible.
Someone said: "In the gorgeous cheongsam, there are also lice." ”
Family harmony and happiness are a kind of appearance, can not be 100% certain, there is no broken thing in the family. But we must know how to maintain the family, distinguish between "inside and outside", the words in the family, and do not pass them on.
You know, outside of a happy family, there are always people who can't see "you" well.
Exposing the ugliness of the family is to create scars, the pain is oneself, and it is others who sit on the mountain and watch the tiger fight.
03
Manage good eyes, do not look at people short.
As the saying goes: "Knowing people does not judge people, only people are superior." ”
The interaction between people, feelings are very delicate. If you have thorns in your eyes, then everything you see will have thorns; you look at people with sunglasses, and other people's faces are black.
People who are really smart will take care of people who are inferior to themselves and will encourage others to move forward.
Make others comfortable, you will be comfortable yourself, and you can get benefits from it.
There was a celebrity who went to Brazil and found that most of the domestic flights here have no business class, only economy class.
After some analysis, he found that Brazil's economic level is not high, and the land area is not large. Travelers are short-haul passengers and need to be fast and convenient.
On the other hand, passengers are all in economy class, there is no sense of distance, reflecting equality and taking care of the face of the poor.
A person's shortcomings are exactly where he "has no face", and if you always stare at it, it will embarrass him. If he tries to cover up, the end is counterproductive.
If you stare at his strengths, he will have a lot of face and his self-confidence will quickly rise.
For example, a person with an ugly looking and beautiful singing voice, you can give him a thumbs up and smile at him; a child who walks precariously, you don't complain about his slow walking, but encourage him to keep practicing.
"Vote for me with a wooden peach, and repay it with Qiong Yao." You are good at discovering the strengths of others, then others will appreciate you, and find your strengths, interact with each other, and form a pattern of mutual help.
With a pair of eyes that discover beauty, you are using wisdom to find the essence of the world, not simply looking at the appearance.
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Make good use of wisdom, regardless of right and wrong.
The ancients said, "Without others, no one else is wrong." ”
Right and wrong, in any place, there are. If you're going to remember it, your mind will be filled. Only by forgetting can we live easily.
Some people believe that the root cause of a person's endless troubles is that he is not wise enough.
One thing, thinking about it seven times, good things become bad things; a person who has no luck, thinking about it, becomes a heart disease.
Many times, we have to think like this: not all people and things must be seen through; if they can't see through, let it go, forget it.
During the Jin Dynasty, the artist Dai Andao decided to return to the hidden mountains, but his brother Dai Lu insisted on becoming an official in the imperial court.
Xie Taifu, the minister of the DPRK, asked Dai Lu, "How come you two brothers are so different?" ”
Dai Lu replied, "I can't stand the hardships of the countryside, but my brother is happy to do it." ”
Compared with people, there is a big gap, so most of the right and wrong is because of your "psychological imbalance", unable to think from the perspective of others, and anxious to express it.
Let's say your friend is out of love and borrows wine to pour sorrow, and you say he's not out of the woods. If this word goes out, your friends will think that you are not righteous enough, and even make enemies with you.
The source of right and wrong is actually "yourself."
In the past, forget, the present is unpleasant, just let go, who you are with, go anywhere, will become simple and beautiful.
Can't think straight, but angry, just blame yourself a few words, dare to blade inward, is smart.
05
The ruler is shorter, the inch is longer.
No matter how smart you are, there are times when you can't think, can't see clearly, can't say it thoroughly, and can't make sense of it.
Therefore, at any time, put away your "cleverness" in order to avoid "cleverness" from hurting anyone by mistake.
Close your own home, care for your family, love the honor of the family, and the family will be happy and harmonious. Even if everyone has scars, they will turn scars into motivation for growth.
Adjust your gaze and hide a spring in your eyes. In this way, in the winter, you will also find the shadow of spring, open your eyes, and you will find a blooming plum.
Forget right and wrong, know how to laugh through, in order to have space and tolerate the world. Pull out the weeds of the mind and the flowers will take root.
To be a man, to know is to know, not to know is not to know, not to know.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.