Text | Li Kemo · Sound | Jennings
I've seen a hot question: "A person, a lifetime, what is most important?" ”
There is a high praise that is quite heartfelt:
"In this life, no matter how much wealth, no matter how high the status, no matter how perfect the persona, it is not worth having a warm home."
When you think about it, it is.
In reality, we are constantly walking all day, busy exploring new lives, busy chasing love, busy working hard.
As we bury our heads and run forward, we unconsciously ignore the starting point behind us.
The poet Moore said:
A man who, in search of what he needs, travels all over the world, returns home, and finds it.
A person, a lifetime, the home is in the heart, the home is nowhere to go, and the home is floating without roots.
Home, not in luxury, but in people together
What does the best home look like?
We often think that the best home is a big house, palace-like decoration, open and atmospheric.
However, after actually owning it, many people find out that this is not the case.
This is the case with Mrs. Wang in the TV series "Thirty Only", she lives in a luxurious mansion with the most high-end furniture in her home.
Although the huge house is luxurious and luxurious, the atmosphere is cold and lonely, and there is only her and the nanny in the house.
The husband has not seen anyone for many years, the child is far away, and Mrs. Wang is outside talking and laughing with people, but there is no one to talk when she returns home.
Mrs. Wang can only find a sense of existence in the circle of wives, she brought out a valuable tea set, invited the wives to enjoy the most exclusive afternoon tea, and the result was still ridiculed by the wives.
Home didn't give her warmth, and she didn't find it in outsiders.
In the play, the picture of another ordinary family is diametrically opposed.
Wives make a living selling cakes, husbands are delivery workers, and although they live in cramped rental houses, life is steaming hot.
During the day, the wife sets up a flapjack on the side of the road, the husband runs through the streets to deliver takeaways, and the son goes to school happily.
At night, a family of three sat on a dilapidated tricycle, talking and laughing, and slowly drove towards their home.
They sat around the table eating a fragrant dinner, the room was small, the lights were dim, but the smiles on their faces were bright.
Compared with Mrs. Wang, they are very ordinary, even a little poor, running for life all day, wind and rain.
The difference is that they are warm in their hearts, with a smile on their faces and a light in their eyes.
Wang Zengqi said it well: "The family sits around, and the lights are amiable." ”
An empty and empty home, no matter how luxurious, is just a sleeping house.
I can sit around with my family and laugh about homely things, even if the house is small and simple, there is a warm flow of happiness into the atrium.
The so-called home is not how luxurious the house is and how stable life is, but people together.
Home is not about money, but about love in your heart
In middle age, it is a fortunate thing to have a home to return to, but many people do not want to go back home.
The experience of video blogger @Zhu Baqi has exhausted the pain of countless middle-aged people.
Zhu Baqi and his wife have been married for many years, and their income is good and they are considered to be a well-off family, and the family should be happy and harmonious.
But Zhu Baqi didn't want to go home every day after work, only because his wife valued money above everything, which made him chill.
Once in the New Year, he was distressed that his grandmother took his son weekdays and said that he wanted to buy a good dress for his grandmother.
Grandma was distressed that money said not to buy expensive ones, and the wife immediately said unabashedly: "The clothes set up in the wet market are cheap." ”
Another time, Zhu Baqi's cousin borrowed 5,000 yuan from him, because he was tight on hand and had no money to pay back for the time being, his wife followed Zhu Baqi behind him all day and gave him a look.
Even when Zhu Baqi said that his father was sick and hospitalized and wanted to go back to see him, his wife objected:
"Going back doesn't help much, and it's a waste of travel expenses."
There were many similar things, and whenever Zhu Baqi thought about it, it was like a thorn in his heart, faintly painful.
The wife only wanted to save money, but she did not know that these indifference and ruthlessness had gradually pushed Zhu Baqi out of the house.
Once upon a time, we were overwhelmed by life, thinking that money was the most important thing and could alleviate all bitterness.
But the further back you go, the more you find:
Many times, whether life is good or not, whether the family is warm or not, is not to see how much money there is, but how much love there is.
After reading the story of a takeaway brother, I was very moved:
One day, the takeaway brother and his wife went to the supermarket, and the wife saw the newly listed cherries and wanted to buy them, but they immediately put it down when they saw that each box wanted more than 200 pieces.
The takeaway brother knows that his wife loves to eat, but after having children, he has never been willing to buy it for himself.
At the time of checkout, the takeaway guy secretly put the cherry into the shopping cart.
When the wife saw it, although she said "too expensive, wasteful", her face smiled and blossomed.
Yes, when the money is spent, you can earn it again, but it is difficult to warm up when your heart is cold.
Goethe once said, "Whether it is a king or a farmer, family harmony is the happiest." ”
Money is ruthless, it can't warm people's hearts, harmony and love nourish happiness.
If the home cannot be filled with happiness, where should the heart go?
The truest meaning of home is that it is a container of love, filled with tolerance and understanding that the outside world cannot give.
Between families, less calculation, more protection, in order to comfort each other, shelter from the wind and rain.
Home is not in a distant land, but the place where the soul belongs
Li Qian wrote in "Homesickness": "People say that the sunset is the end of the world, and they will not see home when they look at the end of the world." ”
For the sake of life and dreams, too many people carry their bags and go to a foreign land, and their homes have become far away.
It is also this faraway place that is the softest place in the heart of the wandering person.
I remember when I first started working, I was reprimanded by the leader because of the framing of my colleagues, and my heart was extremely wronged.
At night, I didn't even want to eat after work, when my mother called the video and chatted with me about home, while booing and greeting me.
Looking at my mother's smiling face in the camera and the familiar room behind her, I instantly felt like I was back at home.
The knot in my heart was completely forgotten, and instead of the expectation of going home, thinking about the meals my mother made, and reading my mother's kind smile.
After hanging up the phone, I ate a full meal and continued to run to the battlefield the next day.
Home is a pure land in the heart of the wanderer, and it is also the best place for spiritual healing.
The writer Mo Yan is a well-known nianjia and has a deep affection for home.
In 2012, Mo Yan was nominated for the Nobel Prize in Literature, and the voice was very high.
Before the lottery, some people rumored that Mo Yan bribed the Nobel Prize judges and publicly accused him of "moral appearance".
Mo Yan was immediately pushed to the cusp of the storm, attracting endless questions and ridicule.
In the face of the dirty water splashed out of thin air, Mo Yan did not respond to the explanation, but turned off his mobile phone and returned to Gaomi's hometown.
In his hometown, there are not only mo Yan's familiar customs and customs, but also lively and lovely grandsons.
He let others make noise and noise, and he played with his grandson in his hometown while reading and writing.
The harm brought to him by the outside world was naturally healed in his hometown.
The far-reaching of home, as Mo Yan wrote:
Hometown is the warm embrace of mothers, and it is the greatest miss of people who make a living in a foreign country.
The wanderer is outside, but his heart is connected to home.
When sad and sad, thinking of a distant home, there is a little more comfort;
When my career is frustrated, I think that someone at home is waiting, so I have a little more courage;
When the feelings are not smooth, I receive a warm greeting from my parents, and I have a little more warmth.
The tempering of life cannot extinguish the longing for home; the wind and snow you experience will be melted by the gentleness of the home.
The existence of home has never been in a distant land, but the home of the soul.
In this world, it seems to be lively and lively, but in fact it is cold and cold.
Flowers are just illusory, and having a home to return to is real.
The so-called delicious food is not as good as the tea and dinner at home, and the so-called high-level friends are full of seats, and it is ultimately not as good as the company of relatives.
What really soothes you is the door that opens for you, the lamp that lights it up for you, and the people who are waiting for you to come home.
Many decisions in life are just to fight for a warm harbor, and the soberness that adults should have is to put home first.
For the rest of your life, have more love in your heart, don't let the people who love you chill, go home often, and accompany your closest family.
There is a kind of most down-to-earth happiness in the world, called: sitting with your back to your home and squinting at the sunset.
Click [in the watch], may you not forget the way home when you move forward, and may everyone who works hard to live have a home and a warm one.
Author: Li Kemo
Source: Ten Point Reading (ID: duhaoshu)
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