The fourth brother is so small [Day 204]: I am all for your own good?

1. I'm all for your own good, which is probably the favorite phrase for Chinese parents. I am all for your own good, this sentence at first sound, there is no problem, but carefully experienced, found that the subtext behind this, the subtext is, you must listen to me, this is mandatory.

2. And this is mandatory, it represents the Chinese parents' desire for control, my judgment is more accurate than your judgment, so I directly help you make a decision. If you don't listen, you're not filial, and if you don't listen, you're rebellious. Parents claim to be for the good of their children, is it difficult for the children themselves not to be for their own good?

3. However, the truth is that parents are also ordinary people, but people make mistakes, so in some respects, children sometimes have more correct judgments than parents.

4. And we say that the life of parents is not the life that parents want? And is the life of a parent a child the life he wants? If not, then this shows that the parents' advice is not absolutely correct. Therefore, parents are self-righteous, helping their children make decisions, helping their children make choices, which is undoubtedly stupid. It's like a fairy tale that says the little rabbit likes the little monkey, so the little rabbit gives the little monkey a cart of carrots, but the little monkey is not happy, why? Because what the little monkey likes, not what the little rabbit likes.

5. Speaking of this, we are not saying that parents must be wrong, but we hope that parents and children can communicate more rationally and understand both sides, rather than condescending, or blindly rebellious confrontation.

6. Because, parents say that this is all for your own good, perhaps just forced by worldly standards, and as children, we sometimes need to give in, but this does not mean that we have to give up our lives. Because, your life belongs only to you.