Time is like flowing water, yesterday's dancing teenager, now has entered middle age, people have a lot of things in middle age, but also lost a lot of things.
It is said that thirty stands, forty is not confused, fifty is known to heaven, what is established in the end, what is not confused, and what is known, many people do not understand.
In fact, thirty and standing is not a simple career, but after thirty years of life, you should have summed up a set of your own thoughts and values, so that you can better stand in the world.
However, the ancients often entered the society earlier, and now many people are still studying in their 30s, many people are no different from children in their 20s, and now the years of the establishment of many people are estimated to be greatly delayed.
The next forty are not confused, fifty and know the destiny of heaven is also a similar truth, after experiencing a lot of things, you can slowly see through the essence of some things, so you are no longer confused.
This kind of confusion with the accumulation of time, the final quantitative change produces qualitative change, which is to know the destiny, find their own life goals, and understand why they live.
When there is sustenance in the heart, the heart is no longer confused, and when a person sees through the prosperity and loneliness of the world, there is more calmness and calmness.
In fact, the most important thing that people need to learn in middle age is the word "rejection", because rejection is also a choice, a choice to become better.
Sometimes it is clear that the other party comes to ask for his own affairs, and he is just kind enough to help, and the other party does not even give himself a little benefit.
As a result, there is no gratitude for the final good job, and if it is not done well, there will be a lot of complaints, and finally it will become like I owe others.
Although it sounds magical, there are too many such things, and the reason for this situation is that many people do not know how to reject others.
To know that many people in this world do not owe each other, others to help is a sentiment, to be grateful, the other party does not help nor can not blame each other.
Rejection is not unforgivable, rejection is just a choice, a choice to follow your heart, respect your feelings, and make yourself better.
When people reach middle age, the burden on everyone is very heavy, and there are parents above who need to be taken care of, and there are children below who need to be raised.
If you don't work hard to earn money to support your family one day, you may not be able to eat tomorrow, maybe some people think this is exaggerated, but life is actually more magical.
At this age, everyone can live their own life well, do what they can do as much as they can, don't easily trouble others, it is not easy for everyone.
So someone is going to say, aren't you teaching everyone to sweep the snow in front of the door? It's a bit too selfish.
But whether it is the snow in front of each door, or someone who wants to take advantage, everyone has their own answer in their hearts, but it is good to be ashamed.
If you don't know how to refuse, not only will you live a very tired life, but the people around you will also live a very tired life, and there is no sense of happiness in life.
Some people don't know how to refuse purely good face, they actually don't have much ability, but they like to go out and brag, make themselves as capable as much, and take everything over.
If you don't know how to put down your face, you can only ask for food in the end.
There are also some people who are too thin-skinned, do not know how to reject others, or are embarrassed to reject others, and eventually have a lot of troubles and burdens in vain, and may also be kidnapped by morality.
There must be something hateful about the poor.
Of course, whether the skin is too thick or the skin is too thin, in fact, it is a little too extreme, and it is already very remarkable to be able to live your own little life well.
I hope that everyone will do good deeds and do not ask about the future.