Discerning right from wrong and being reasonable, this is a medal for well-educated girls.
Author: and people + chestnuts
Parents Research Institute (ID: mama_cn) original debut
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Is the nutrients of the melon field at the end of the year too much?
Li Lianglei's side has just matured, and the old melon vine from a few months ago has actually borne new fruits.
It was the exposure of Huo Zun's "Shanghai lust flow" chat record, which eventually led to Huo Zun's reputation being discredited and directly withdrawing from the entertainment circle's "Meiqiang miserable" ex-girlfriend - Chen Lu.
This time, she returned to the public eye, but she made the headlines of the rule of law: Chen Lu was taken criminal compulsory measures because of suspected extortion.
Can't help but sigh: the same is the "women's counterattack war", how can Li Lianglei beautifully rely on a few articles to subdue the whole network; but Chen Lu opened high and walked low, and ended up with a lose-lose situation?
On the surface, Chen Lu's greed was not enough for the snake to swallow the elephant, while Li Lianglei took advantage of the time and place, and hammered the other party without the ability to fight back.
But a closer look at the details of the two events reveals that in essence, differences in education lead to different outcomes.
After digging deeper, I can't help but sigh: well-educated girls are really unaffordable.
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Knowledge raises the starting line for girls to see the world
After Chen Lu's arrest this time, with the exposure of more information, Chen Lu's accusations were a bit stretched.
In the article, "words cry gold", in addition to complaints and questions, the whole article revolves around one word: money.
Chen Lu mentioned more than once that she wore two or three hundred Taobao goods and had been "upside down" during her love affair with Huo Zun.
However, when she and Huo Zun were together, not only did she get the living expenses and holiday red envelopes, but even the brand-name bags shared on the Little Red Book were gifts purchased by Huo Zun on her behalf.
But she was not satisfied, and made a national sensation, that is, she wanted to ask for a sky-high breakup fee.
Netizens with fire eyes and golden eyes saw that Chen Lu's evidence was full of loopholes, and the traces of P-chart were also clearly visible.
Fabricating facts and fabricating evidence just so that Huo Zun would not give him money would make him lose his reputation.
For Chen Lu, her world is left with only material interests, and morality and law seem to have no binding force on her.
Time returned to December 17, Li Lianglei wrote a confession letter to blow up Weibo like a thunderbolt.
In her blog post, she calmly complained:
Eight years of marriage, the husband continues to promote internal birth, external private morality, to the last moment of divorce, do not forget to throw the pot to protect themselves, there is really no lower limit.
What is even more surprising is that her self-reflection part is simply a slap in the face to many "housewives" trapped in marriage.
After expressing her dissatisfaction and demands, Li Lianglei stood on a step, stood on the position of the majority of women, and deeply reflected on the plight of countless full-time mothers in society.
This whole paragraph can be described as Li Lianglei's highlight moment.
In the case of such indignation and such unfavorable situation, Li Lianglei can not only clearly understand the mess, but also speak out for women with ease.
This vision, worthy of the name of graduates of famous schools, stands taller and sees farther.
Compared with Li Lianglei's overall view, Chen Lu's starting point is still clumsy.
The height of thought determines a person's vision and pattern, and also foreshadows the girl's life.
But education for girls is much more than that.
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Education gives girls the confidence to be independent
As far as the exposed evidence is concerned, Chen Lu and Huo Zun broke up as early as last August, and Chen Lu has been showing a nearly paranoid "possessiveness" since then.
When the two broke up, Chen Lu asked Huo Zun: You can't talk about your girlfriend in the future, you can only have me in this life.
In Chen Lu's expectations, he had accompanied Huo Zun for so many years but did not even have a "name", and Huo Zun should "die alone" in the future, carrying the guilt of her for many years.
Therefore, after discovering that Huo Zun and his new girlfriend were filmed dating, Chen Lu immediately couldn't sit still.
She scolded Huo Zun for "not having a face" and reprimanded him for not observing "male morality".
There is even more ridiculous, Chen Lu said that he was the youngest deputy senior title professor in the dance troupe, and it was willing to give up everything for Huo Zun during the career promotion period;
However, some netizens pulled out that she only had a secondary school education, and when she first met Huo Zun, she had always been a group dance. After almost 5 years of falling in love with Huo Zun, he became the lead dancer, mixed to 26 years old and did not grow, and could only retire.
Without Huo Zun's money and name, Chen Lu not only had an unsustainable material life, but also the spiritual world was about to collapse.
But the more hysterical Chen Lu is, the more it confirms how "weak" she really is.
Because she couldn't leave Huo Zun anymore.
Only the weak will be trapped by the past, trying to spend the rest of their lives on compassion and charity;
The truly strong, even if injured, still have the ability to heal themselves and the courage to move forward firmly.
Li Lianglei confessed that she never "clings" to who survives.
Whether it is dating, career or raising children, she has not relied on in the past, nor can she expect to expect in the future, clarifying everything is just to defend her rights and the bottom line.
"I can raise my children well by my own efforts."
Such confidence, all from the already tough experience.
Not only was he able to gain a foothold in JPMorgan Chase at a young age, but he was also preoccupied with a ph.D. when talking about marriage.
It is said that the books I have read and the words I have heard will be inadvertently carved into my bones.
Even after being a housewife for eight years, Li Lianglei still has the ability to make a beautiful turnaround and maintain her own strength.
And once an already powerful person has made up his mind, even if he starts from scratch, what is he afraid of?
Education may not necessarily make girls strong women, but it will certainly allow us to have the capital and power of not being dependent and humble.
04Min thinking and acting cautiously is a weapon to protect oneself
Chen Lu is not only involved in creating false evidence to manipulate public opinion, but also extorting Huo Zun's huge breakup fee.
As everyone knows, Chen Lu first spread rumors and then blackmailed, which is tantamount to self-destruction of the future.
In a surveillance video that broke out, Chen Lu and his friend Wang Meng threatened Huo Zun with carefully edited, PS-passed "evidence" and asked for 9 million yuan.
In Chen Lu's description, this extortion turned out to be Huo Zun's "initiative" compensation?
What's even more outrageous is that after Huo Zun confessed that he didn't have so much money, Chen Lu actually let him borrow, mortgage, and pay in installments, eager to buy out all his financial channels.
Chen Lu couldn't have been unaware that everything she did was illegal.
Her friend Wang Meng knew better how fake this matter was, but she not only did not reflect, but also proudly lamented that her means were clever.
At the beginning of the dispute, Huo Zun probably did not want to call the police because of his decency, but he could not withstand the suicide style of Chen Lu and Wang Meng.
It is said that girls read to better protect themselves, but Chen Lu mistakenly believes her friends' words, thinking that she can fool the eyes of the public to attack others.
But the wrong spear hurt others and defeated themselves.
On the other hand, from the beginning of "falling in love" with Wang Lihong, Li Lianglei has been at a disadvantage in this relationship.
This disadvantage is embodied in her wholehearted admiration and trust in Wang Lihong, while Wang Lihong and her family use her as a reproductive tool.
Until she was abandoned by Wang Lihong like an outcast, she woke up like a dream.
As mentioned above, all the counterattacks made by Li Lianglei were forced to do so.
The so-called "Hammer of LeiShen" named by netizens, the reason why all of Li Lianglei's speeches are so powerful is because they are based on the fact that they are nailed down.
And crucially, her facts are not her own words, but the evidence is conclusive.
Therefore, even if Wang Lihong withdraws the hot search and tries to avoid the heavy and respond lightly, there is absolutely no possibility of overturning.
What is even more valuable is Li Lianglei's last speech: even if she has taken advantage of public opinion from beginning to end, she still has to spare people and spare people, decent and atmospheric.
It is impossible for a truly sober person to cross the line between morality and law.
Education is the armor of girls, protecting girls from the pain of attack and protecting girls from stepping out of bounds;
Education can be more of a weapon and, when necessary, a weapon for counter-offensives.
05
Chen Lu was caught and blamed for himself, and Lei Shen killed Nirvana and was reborn.
For Chen Lu, she who clung to Huo Zun to make a living, from the moment she broke up, was doomed to only go downhill step by step;
For Li Lianglei, after getting her "big heroine" script back after getting divorced, it belongs to her good play, but it has just begun.
Remember that there is a sentence in the article "The Meaning of Reading":
"There are two meanings of reading: one is to make people live without humility, and the other is to make people's hearts clean. After reading a book, it may soon be forgotten, just like a bamboo basket to fetch water, it is an empty. But the bamboo basket will be cleaner than ever after being baptized with water again and again. A person who reads a book every day may not be able to remember anything, but subconsciously he will understand what is right and what is wrong. ”
For girls, gaining knowledge and insights from books is an important way to educate themselves.
The process of education is silent, we may not feel its power, but at the critical juncture of determining fate, this kind of education from the inside out can help us make the most correct choice in the first time.
It is said that girls must be gentle as water and hard as steel.
Education is our strongest armor.
Arm yourself with knowledge, and use strong strength to hold the initiative in life.
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Parents Research Institute (ID: mama_cn), research on new knowledge of family education for 1-6 years old, is the mother's educational notes, is the father's baby guide, is the child's growth energy station. Please contact the Parents Institute for reproduction. Author: and people + chestnuts.
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