Text: Cradle of Love
Use the simplest words to give you warmth, give you companionship, lead you to grow, and help you be strong.
Love is a double-edged sword, which will give people both beauty and pain.
If you can't grasp love, if you can't become the master of love, you will be hurt by it.
In love, if you lose your principles and have no bottom line, you will definitely be disappointed, trampled on, and hurt.
No matter in what kind of relationship, it is not true that sincerity can be exchanged for sincerity, and not all efforts can be rewarded.
Many times, the more passive and weaker in the relationship, the less likely it is to have good results.
Losing the bottom line and principles is a trampling on the self, and it will make it cheaper and not be cherished at all.
Someone once said: "When you are young, you feel that love is more important than life, and when you are older, you will feel that life is more important." ”
Love is only a part of life, and you can't lose yourself and lose yourself because of love.
A person, once blindly overwhelmed by love, blindly accommodating and forbearing will only backfire and be hurt and abandoned by men.
No matter how much you love someone, you can't let love surpass herself, only if you love yourself, men will love you more.
Many times the rejection is not absolute and ruthless, but the adherence to the bottom line, but also the reservation of nobility.
For women, if they love a man again, they must also reject these few things, so that they can love with a bottom line, have dignity, and have long-term feelings.
Refuse to give in and humble yourself to the dust
Many women, in their feelings, like to swallow their breath and silently endure everything about men.
No matter what men do to her, she doesn't get angry and doesn't resist.
Even if men lose their temper for no reason, they choose to endure it, and even take the initiative to apologize: "I was wrong".
The weaker the woman, the more she will be stomped on by the man, and she will not care at all, let alone take it seriously.
Even if men do something wrong, there is no blame and no anger.
Excessive tolerance will only make men more aggressive and unscrupulous.
Men face your weakness, not only will not repent, but also no apology, but continue to make mistakes, even more serious than the last time.
Good feelings are not put up with, but reasonably fought for.
The more humble the woman in the relationship, the more she puts herself in a relatively low position, the more she will become the most pitiful role.
There is no temper at all, which will only encourage men's arrogance, and there is no benefit at all.
Blindly endure, hurt yourself, and finally can not retain feelings.
Reject his poor heart, do not work hard and do not progress
Love someone, be willing to do everything for him, and of course be willing to raise him.
Women really fall in love with a person, never dislike his poverty, men are poor, they are willing to follow him.
A poor person is not terrible. The terrible thing is that the heart is poor, there is no ideal, and there is no progress.
Men with poor hearts, to put it bluntly, are not thinking of making progress and are degenerate in thought.
As the saying goes: "Mud can't hold up the wall." ”
Once a man is poor, he is a pool of mud, and life is decadent.
Men with poor hearts often have no pattern, love to complain, love to calculate.
With a man with a poor heart, not only can there be no hope, living a poor life, but the two people are full of contradictions and quarrels.
Living with a man with a poor heart, having an endless heart, everything is in a hurry, and it is bitter and tired.
If you love a man again, you must reject his poor heart, do not work hard, do not progress, and live a life of muddled nightmares.
Reject him without special affection, and get into trouble everywhere
When many women love a man, they especially like to get used to him and indulge him.
Even if he is ambiguous everywhere and stirs up flowers and weeds, he chooses to turn a blind eye and ignore it.
Women think that as long as they don't leave themselves, it doesn't matter who they am ambiguous with.
But in fact, such a cheap feeling is not worth paying at all.
Men are not dedicated, women will certainly be sad, heartache, will be painful.
Moreover, the matter of feelings cannot allow a third person to intervene.
Feelings, which are inherently exclusive, should remain specific.
No matter how much you love someone, you can't allow his heart to spend, you can't allow him to be unfaithful to his feelings.
Especially when men say, "We are just friends", women are more willing to choose to believe, rather than pursue, deliberately turn a blind eye, to deceive themselves.
Men who are not dedicated, even if they do not leave you at this time, will one day leave you and abandon you.
You have to make him understand that he must be single-minded, otherwise he will leave and lose you.
Many women, for the feelings are desperate, do not leave themselves a way out.
Once there is no way back, at the critical moment, it can really only become more and more humble, because it is too afraid of loss.
Excessive loss in love will only make yourself more aggrieved, more painful, and break off love little by little.
No matter how much you love a man, you must keep your bottom line, and you must refuse when it is time to refuse.
Learning to refuse is a woman's sobriety, and it is also a compulsory course for women.
In feelings, only by knowing how to refuse can we love noblely, and can we be cared for and cherished.
May you be able to swallow your breath in your feelings, not to bend over backwards, to live out your true self, and to live your own wonderfulness.
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Author: Love to read, love to write, love to think, dare to love and dare to hate the northern girl. A freelance writer, an emotional mentor who has helped countless people out of psychological difficulties.