The writer Gorky said: "When work is a pleasure, life is a pleasure; when work is an obligation, life is a kind of hard labor." ”
Today, when the pressure of reality is increasingly great, we always feel very tired, work makes people nervous, it seems that if one is not careful, it will be "rolled in". Exhausted and exhausted, I didn't eat well, I didn't sleep, and my mind was still worried about things at work.
Under pressure, work is not enjoyment, life is not enjoyment, both have become a kind of hard labor, making people tired and tired.
One song says, "We're all living hard, we've won and lost in love and hate..." Without a work-life balance, it's hard for us to be truly free, and living is just living, not living.
Michael Hayat is a globally renowned high-performance expert, he is a particularly enterprising person, because of the busy work and neglect of the family, resulting in a crisis in the marriage, at this time, he reflected on himself, and found a work-life balance, and his daughter Megan Hayat Miller wrote the book "High Performance Life: The Law of Balance".
After reading this book, about work-life balance, we can find ways to make ourselves live a truly free life.
1, in addition to work, there is also happiness
The first rule of balance mentioned in "High-Performance Life" is "the pursuit of a sense of accomplishment outside of work." ”
There is no shortage of career maniacs in life. In the eyes of such a person, work is the whole of life, and if you let him rest, it is simply his life. Work occupies all his thoughts, eating only for the sake of food, and sleeping is reluctant to sleep, as if sleeping is a waste of his life.
Career maniacs regard work as life, because work can bring him infinite happiness, the kind of happiness that can be indulged, and in this continuous work, he not only harvests psychological happiness, but also gains a sense of accomplishment in work.
The author of "High-Performance Life" said: "The quality of work is easy to fascinate people, and it should not be downplayed. ”
Career maniacs are to work as young people who are addicted to games, and once they enter, they are infinitely self-forgetful.
In fact, life is not only work, people who have been addicted to work are often more likely to cause health conditions due to stress, because only pay attention to work, do not pay attention to the establishment of family feelings, and it is easy to affect the intimate relationship between family members, not to mention the impact on health.
"Fast horses, often running only two stations. A calm donkey can travel day and night. "So work is not all, there are more interesting things in life waiting for us to slow down and appreciate."
2. Improve work efficiency
The second rule of balance mentioned in High Performance Life is "Control how long you work." ”
Seriously, career maniacs are after all a part of the people, most of us will not be addicted to so much when working, and even when it comes to overtime, it will cause headaches and will be uncomfortable, at this time, work efficiency will inevitably decrease.
Doing one thing continuously requires great willpower, and some friends forget everything once they are addicted to work, forget to eat, forget to sleep, forget to exercise, and even get up and move their muscles and bones.
The immediate consequence of this is that the body lights up red lights and the health is seriously affected. Especially the work that often uses the computer, it is easy to cause pain in the cervical spine and lumbar spine, and when it really hurts, is this a kind of happiness?
This metaphor is too graphic, which also reminds us that when working, work well, rest time to relax, work to improve efficiency, will set aside more time to enjoy leisure holidays, why not enjoy it?
3. Adjust the target in a timely manner
The third law of balance mentioned in "High-Performance Life" is "lower expectations and adjust goals." ”
We always set a too high goal for ourselves, always think that setting a grand goal, will be more motivated, more likely to succeed, the result of this is to spend most of the time on work, what friends, relatives, parents, can be put aside, everything wait for their own success and then go to accompany them.
The author of "High-Performance Life" believes that this is not the case, the author sees balance as a transaction, the author believes: "Our life has four major assets, namely: health, family, friends and productivity.
In the eyes of the author, production efficiency is the last in line.
As we all know, if a person does not have health, there is nothing, the capital giant Xie Zhikun died at the age of 61, leaving an astronomical amount of capital behind him, people are gone, money is still there, who can say that this is a kind of success?
Albert Einstein once said, "Life is like riding a bicycle, to maintain balance, you must move forward." ”
The best state of work and life is to hold a normal heart, lower expectations, adjust goals, and don't let yourself fall into the cage of desire, because there are more important things in life.
4. Do nothing
The fourth rule of balance proposed in "High-Performance Life" is "Leave idle and learn to do nothing." ”
Hong Yingming's "Vegetable Root Tan" has a saying: "Spoil and not be alarmed, watch the flowers blossom and fall before the court, go to stay unintentional, and look at the sky and the clouds."
The scenery on the road of life is beautiful, not only the tiredness of work, but also the beauty of being alone, and the joy of being with relatives and friends.
The inner volume makes us fall into the bottomless transcendence, beyond colleagues, beyond classmates, beyond the overloaded self, but are you really happy?
Time is indeed precious, but if you only spend time on crazy work, and do not know how to leave yourself a little free time, do not know how to empty your brain, what is the meaning of complicated work? What is the point of work?
Do nothing. Give yourself a little time alone, diversify your imagination, and maybe you'll get more inspiration.
5. Sleep well
The fifth law of balance mentioned in "High-Performance Life" is "Sleep well and nourish God." ”
Sleeping well is the number one priority in life, and if you don't believe it, you're wrong. Many people, especially young people, do not pay attention to the importance of rest, staying up late is a common thing, which day does not stay up late, accidentally sleep early, but also feel very unaccustomed.
As everyone knows, staying up late will make people stupid, this is not alarmist.
Do not improve efficiency, but grind foreign workers, and finally lead to staying up late, but also feel that they are very diligent, very hard, life has no reason to treat themselves not gentle. As everyone knows, the sleep you lack after staying up late is an account, and it will always come to you to settle the account one day in the future, so that you will pay a certain price.
The diseases caused by long-term lack of sleep sound terrible, what do you have to stay up late? "High-performance life" tells us that people who are truly productive will never stay up late to prove that they are diligent.
Sleep well, recuperate well, sleep is a restart process, efficient life, need efficient sleep, remember.
epilogue:
Life needs balance, work needs balance, and life needs balance.
We live not to live, but to live.
Grasp the balance between work and life, the more capable you are to grasp this balance, the more capable people, no matter at any time, not hurried, calm and calm, to meet every sunrise and sunset in life, this is the real skill.
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