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In the past two days, I believe that many people have stood on the front line of eating melons, and many people have also seen Li Lianglei's long complaint.
For the controversy of derailment, By2 Studio hammered itself and said that it had called the police, and then Li Lianglei forwarded that she was willing to provide evidence, which can be said to once again imply that By2_Yumi Sun Yu is one of the objects of Wang Lihong's derailment.
At 19:49 on December 19, @ By2_Yumi Sun Yu sent a long response: she had never intervened in Wang Lihong's marriage with Li Lianglei, and said that she and Wang Lihong had been in contact in 2012, and had deleted WeChat friends with Wang Lihong in 2015.
At 20:39 on December 19, Li Lianglei blogged that Yumi and Wang Lihong had already deleted WeChat because they had changed to Whatsapp.
Subsequently, at 22:28, Li Lianglei responded again: Wang Lihong did not tell her that Yumi was his ex-girlfriend, but only called Yumi a "friend" who had a relationship.
In Li Lianglei's response to Wang Lihong's father's handwritten long article, Li Lianglei said: I hope Wang Lihong will publicly apologize at 3 p.m. on the 19th, and until 11:09 p.m. that night, Wang Lihong responded, saying in response: He himself was not unfaithful to the marriage.
The response highlights are as follows:
1. He and Li Lianglei met at the concert site in 2003, and then there was no contact for ten years, and when the first email contact, Li Lianglei was 26 years old;
2. Wang Lihong also said that in the 5 years and 8 months of marriage, he lived under the fear of blackmail and danger, and once again stressed that marriage was threatened by Li Lianglei with children;
3. On August 5, 2019, the two separated, and began to negotiate a divorce agreement in December 2020, saying that Li Lianglei did not want a dime after the divorce, and the two parties finally signed 150 million yuan, including half of the Los Angeles house, half of the investment stock, and 210,000 yuan of living expenses per month;
4. At the same time, Wang Lihong hopes that Li Lianglei can let him see the child;
5. In the small essay, Wang Lihong also mentioned that Li Lianglei's original name was Xichun Michiko.
At 1:31 a.m. today, Li Lianglei responded to the rebuttal that Wang Lihong was unrepentant and continued to lie to deceive the public to confuse the public, asking "Have you been unfaithful to our marriage?" And posted relevant screenshots to respond to issues such as property division and psychological counseling.
1. She expects Wang Lihong's follow-up response to the lack of marital infidelity.
2, she angrily accused Wang Lihong of lying, the two are not in contact for ten years after 2003, she said that the two have a series of contacts, but also when Wang Lihong has a girlfriend, eat sushi and watch movies together. This was indeed filmed by Taiwan media in 2003.
3, Li Lianglei posted a statement agreement on giving up the maintenance fee, saying that she did not want a dime, Wang Lihong said that the so-called real estate and stocks are the original property, as for the so-called break-up fee, Li Lianglei said that it is the benefits of the two people working together to distribute their own income, and have nothing to do with divorce. But Li Lianglei admitted that the child's living expenses and education expenses did have to be discussed.
4, about living in fear after marriage, Li Lianglei directly called the complete opposite. Li Lianglei directly posted the analysis given by the two after seeing a psychologist, clearly mentioning that Li Lianglei had suffered long-term mental abuse and was manipulated by Wang Lihong's feelings, in addition, the psychologist also believed that Wang Lihong had X addiction and narcissistic personality. As for the change of 5 psychologists, it is because every psychologist sees that it is Wang Lihong's problem, and Wang Lihong insists that he has no problem. Li Lianglei shouted at Wang Lihong at the same time, if there is a recording, it is illegal.
Li Lianglei's brother also angrily accused Wang Lihong of lying.
At 10:41 today, Li Lianglei listed 5 questions and shouted Wang Lihong again: Whether it is before or after marriage, the truth is needed.
For Li Lianglei's five questions, Wang Lihong responded at 12:09: he said that he would no longer make any explanations and defenses, apologized, and said that he would suspend his work.
Subsequently, on the afternoon of the 20th, after Wang Lihong apologized and announced his temporary withdrawal from work, some media asked Li Lianglei whether she would still file a complaint against Wang Lihong and Wang Father, and she replied: "I will not sue." "It's also a conclusion to this matter...
In this incident, the topic of "full-time mother" has once again aroused heated discussion among netizens, and China Women's Daily has also commented: to prevent harm in the name of "love" and to be vigilant against the risk of leaving the workplace.
In fact, the controversy of full-time mothers has always existed, and this time Wang Lihong's collapse is also known as "the counterattack of a full-time mother".
In Li Lianglei's long essay, she wrote: "Women, whether in the past or in modern times, choose to be housewives who dedicate themselves to their families, although in essence they belong to unpaid work. But this is only the distribution of family members' roles, but also an important support for the family, even a year-round, 24-hour multiple roles (e.g., nanny, teacher, cleaning aunt, driver, manager, partner, special assistant, etc.). ”
Indeed, the role of housewife is not so easy, when we say 996, 007 such work, housewife work is probably all year round, non-stop. But sometimes even if you dedicate yourself to your family like this, you may get very little.
The labor of housewives is valuable, but this value is ignored in some families, and even women are disadvantaged in marriage and dare not ask for anything. Because "if you don't make money, you have no right to speak."
Clinical psychologist Judith Sears once said: "Power comes with making money", "When one spouse starts to make money or stops making money, the marital power relationship begins to change".
What is the feeling of being a full-time mother, "Usually with the money earned by Mr. Will feel embarrassed, with money also to see the face of Mr., but also dare not open their mouths to ask for money to take care of their parents, for fear of being ridiculed by others as a gold worshipper."
In fact, such a mentality, to a certain extent, not only others, but even the full-time wife herself, do not recognize their own efforts. All year round, the focus of their lives is on the family, and gradually let some full-time mothers get out of society and gradually inferior, which is the dilemma encountered by many full-time mothers at present.
If you choose to be a stay-at-home mom, then you must try to defend your power, face up to your own efforts, put yourself on the scale of equality with your husband, and you yourself are actually creating value.
However, when you are not a stay-at-home mother, it depends on your personal choice. But it's important to shift mindsets and face up to the value of stay-at-home moms in the family. In "Jin Zhiying in 82 Years", Jin Zhiying was too depressed to get sick, and her husband said: "Then rest at home for a while and take the child", and Jin Zhiying asked angrily: "Is it a rest to take the child?" ”
Is it a break with children? In the recent videos of parents who often collapse tutoring homework, it is a particularly expensive thing to help children with homework, plus sending children to school, cooking for children, doing housework, etc., the work of full-time mothers is trivial, and the trivialities that cannot be done are endless.
Then, the role of the husband is very important, you need to affirm the wife's efforts, should not blindly ask for it. No job is easy, whether it's a husband struggling to make money outside the home or a stay-at-home mom who works hard at home, it shouldn't be measured by who works harder and who has more power.
No matter what kind of identity is for the family, the family needs to be maintained with love. Wives and husbands affirm each other and understand each other, which is the foundation on which a family can go on.
In Li Lianglei's self-description, "Because you are ten years older than me and I very much hope to have many children, one after another is constantly giving birth, so I gave up my job and my personal life, and everything is centered on you and your children." Most of the time we get married, I'm either trying to conceive, getting pregnant, or breastfeeding and having children after childbirth. ”
Li Lianglei and Wang Lihong were married for 8 years, and they had three children in 5 years, which can be said to be very hard. So what did she do before she married Wang Lihong? She is a graduate student in Colombia, and after graduating, she worked at JPMorgan Chase & Co. for 4 years, and also worked in luxury operations management in Hermès and Estée Lauder related companies. It is undeniable that Li Lianglei herself is quite excellent.
With high IQ and high education, she chose to be a stay-at-home mother, and for such a choice, she also said in an interview: "I believe that Lihong has a great mission to complete in this world, then I believe that this is a very important thing, there will be a lot of sacrifices, those things I think are worth it." "It's just that Maybe Li Lianglei herself didn't expect her sacrifice, and didn't get her husband's thoughtfulness, in exchange for a broken family and a cheating husband."
Xiao S once commented on Li Lianglei in the show: Miss Li is not too many people who talk, but as soon as she says it, she pokes at the point. And when she encountered her husband's cheating and helpless divorce, she did not become a silent lamb this time, which can be said to be very rigid.
In her long essays, whether it is empathy, her own widowed marriage, or her husband's infidelity history, it is very clearly described. It can be said that Li Lianglei's accusation and Wang Lihong's typo response form a sharp contrast, and Wang Lihong did not make a specific response to the multiple derailments pointed out by Li Lianglei in the long article.
Some people may say that Li Lianglei ruined Wang Lihong's acting career, but if there is no Wang Lihong's behavior, then how can it be destroyed?
I hope that every stay-at-home mother can be herself and dare to be strong! Of course, I also hope that all girls can meet the right person, do not be kidnapped by love, and do not give up their jobs easily.