Every encounter in life is a fate arranged by Heaven.
Because of the fate, they appeared in each other's world and came to each other's eyes.
Whether it is friendship or love, there are always a few people that you care about from the bottom of your heart.
You appreciate each other's personalities and value your contacts, so no matter how busy your life is, you don't want to break off contact with each other.
Sometimes, even if the other person does not take the initiative, you will try to maintain your relationship.
Greetings and care every three to five, as well as unsparing efforts, are all manifestations of your cherishing of the other party.
You originally thought that as long as you insisted on it, you could be a confidant for a lifetime, and who expected that on the road of life, it was inevitable to drift away.
There is a saying:
The world is impermanent, how can it be as good as people want?
The relationship between people perfectly interprets this sentence.
Friendship or love, relying on one person alone cannot be forced. The other person's heart is no longer in you, and it will naturally drift away from you.
At that time, you will find that the relationship that has deteriorated will not go back to the beginning in any case.
No matter how unwilling you are, you can't make a person who has already looked down on you to re-emphasize you.
I want to tell you: If there is a person who gradually becomes estranged from you, remember to deal with it like the following.
Don't regret it, don't dwell on it, don't feel like you can't live without the other person.
People can take the initiative to give you up, indicating that you are no longer important, with that long sigh, it is better to live your own life.
01 Don't regret it, some losses are not wrong with you
Milan Kundera said: Meeting is a matter of two people, but leaving is a decision of one person.
Some relationships break up, not because you're not good enough, but because the other person no longer needs you.
In the case of friendship, it is common to do things like this:
Once a very good friend, when one party soared, suddenly there was less intersection between the two people.
If you go to someone else, they will feel that they have no common topic with you;
If you are kind to others, they will feel that you are deliberately trying to make a fuss.
The difference in personal circumstances will change a person's attitude towards things, and when you can't bring any benefits to the other party, you become a "useless person".
In the adult world, most people are very realistic, especially those who hate the poor and love the rich, often do not value friends who are worse than themselves.
I don't need you anymore, I don't care about you, and naturally I will gradually alienate you.
So, stop blaming yourself for not being good enough to cause some people to leave you.
You are still the original you, and you have become a human heart. You've never played mind-to-heart with anyone, so you don't owe anyone anything.
02 Don't dwell on it, it's not your compulsion not to come
Nostalgic people always like to live in the past.
I like to interact with friends I have known for a long time, especially cherish each other's feelings, and will regard "many friends" as a success.
Sometimes, when you feel that the other party is deliberately alienating yourself, you will be particularly nervous in your heart, afraid that you will lose the other party from now on.
Therefore, while carefully testing the other party's attitude towards himself, he tried his best to please others.
The message sent out obviously did not get a reply, but it still continued to ask questions without interest.
As a result, in the end, he still failed to get the other party's attention.
People, once there is less contact, the feelings will slowly become thin.
No matter how much you remember each other in your heart, as long as people are too lazy to interact with you, then you will not be able to ask for it no matter what.
Repeatedly disturbing the other party has been ignored, indicating that people have completely rejected you as a person.
Instead of pestering, it is better to stop being sentimental, leave yourself some decency, and let the other party be clean.
The 03 road is still long, tell yourself to look forward
In this life, whoever leaves can live.
The reason why you care so much about so-called friendship, love, is because all along, you have lived in the world of those people.
You don't find your heart, so you are always not confident, and you always see the loss as a regret in life.
In fact, in this life, people do not live for anyone, nor should they pay too much attention to their relationship with others.
Whoever you lose, your days will have to go on, you are depressed and entangled, and those people will not return to you.
When you're sad about the other person's departure, do you know what they're doing?
People are working hard, meeting new friends, and making calculations for their own good life in the future.
So, please also wake up and stop grieving for those who take the initiative to alienate you.
In this life, you and I always have to learn to say goodbye to some relationships.
From friendship to love, there are always some people who will gradually withdraw from our lives.
Drifting away is inevitable, and when that day really comes, instead of cursing and accusing, it is better to persuade yourself to want to look down.
If the other party is determined not to associate with you again, then your swearing and accusations will not only have no effect, but also make the other party completely disgust you.
Why bother? If people want to leave, they should allow it, and choosing to let go is also to liberate themselves.
Let go of the past, let go of the people who want to go, you live your own life, it is worth it.