Everyone has two selves in their hearts, one is a social role and the other is a self.
During the day, we play a social role, as an employee, as a boss, as a social person, and assume various roles.
And at night, we really belong to ourselves, especially in the middle of the night, the inner emotions, loneliness, all came up in one brain.
Only by ourselves, in the darkness, can we discover another self in our hearts.
There is a "dark effect" in psychology, which refers to: people in a dark environment, the frequency of emotional fluctuations is greater, it is easy to fall into the "learned helplessness" state, and become pessimistic, easy to sad, and double the sense of loneliness.
So, do you also find that whenever night falls and you live alone at home, you are particularly eager to confide in people, and if no one listens, you prefer to record it?
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Why do some people like to stay up late?
First: people who are lonely at heart prefer to stay up late
For people who live alone, they wear masks during the day and disguise themselves; they play the role of hard work, they play the role of being conscientious and not allowing themselves to make mistakes.
But back at home, looking at the empty room, only one person lives in a small space, making them feel sad and feel as if they have been "abandoned".
That feeling of loneliness is like: when you wake up outside and it is already dusk, open the window and watch the sunset outside, your whole heart feels very sad; you always feel that there is no one around, you are very lonely.
No one understands you, no one understands your emotions, and no one helps you share the negative emotions.
During the day, you meticulously accomplish what you should do, and at night, you can finally unload all your defenses.
You think, "Why go to bed so early?" So tired, you should feel your true self more. ”
Some people, even if they live with their families, can't change their habit of staying up late.
They find another true self in the middle of staying up late, feeling emotions alone and digesting their own anxieties alone.
Second: Feel the truest emotions and reach a "reconciliation" with the heart
Man's life is spent in constant collapse and self-healing.
Which adult state is not always like this?
Intermittent breakdowns, continuous self-healing; mental stress, physical stress, can easily make a person collapse.
Therefore, everyone needs to choose a "decompression method" that suits them.
At this time, staying up late has become the choice of many people.
They don't stay up late to play games, they don't chase dramas, they are like in a daze, sitting in the study and writing and drawing.
My current habit of resting is to sit in the study for a few hours at night, reading a book and taking notes.
The inspirational fragments in the brain, the emotional fluctuations, and the valuable points in the book will be recorded.
While recording, digest your own negative emotions.
Sometimes, "sad things" that happened many days ago also come up in the dead of night.
Feel yourself in silence and feel the "real emotional life" at night.
Third: Don't want to face the "new day" so quickly
I saw such a sentence on the Internet: "Obviously very sleepy but still unwilling to sleep, insist on staying up late for a while, just don't want time to slip away so quickly; the day does not belong to themselves, only the few hours of late night really belong to themselves, can be themselves." ”
Therefore, when the night comes, they are very eager to try to stay this time, albeit to no avail.
They had to stay up late and use their own sobriety to fight against the passage of time.
Be a "tool man" during the day and be yourself at night.
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"Reconciling" with loneliness in digesting emotions alone
If you look at it realistically: staying up late is really not so much good, it will make you have no energy the next day, groggy, unable to concentrate on completing tasks.
From another point of view, staying up late for a long time will also have a great impact on the human body.
However, from the emotional and inner point of view, staying up late is the process of reconciling and balancing our emotions and loneliness.
For example:
At night, we prefer to "review" and think about our recent work, emotions, and stress.
When we are recalling, in the process of contemplation, emotions quietly fluctuate in our subconscious.
Eventually, all the negative emotions are dissipating at a speed you didn't expect.
But I still recommend that you choose to "stay up late meaningfully" instead of deliberately going to bed late.
Meaningful staying up late:
Digest your negative emotions at night and be able to record your life and feelings in time.
Reading gives you the ability to analyze and solve problems; recording allows you to develop the habit of thinking.
When you think you are under a lot of pressure and can't hold on, you can try to "stay up all night" and let your loneliness, helplessness and emotions reach a reconciliation.
People who are lonely inside are more willing to fight loneliness at night; on the contrary, they are not willing to talk to the outside world in crowds and noisy environments.
Today's Topic:
Why did you choose to "stay up late"?
Do you often feel lonely at night?
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