"Why do you always meet people who are unladylike?"
"Why do you always suffer grievances in love?"
"Why do you obviously give everything, but you still don't get love?"
This is a question that many girls who have suffered a lot in love will have.
In fact, maybe the problem is really not in other people, but in yourself, of course, we just attribute the cause of the problem, and then find a way to change, rather than accusing whose fault it is. If the feelings between people are right or wrong, then no one can be ashamed.
Girls who are easy to attract scumbags have a common trait: extremely low sense of self-worth, an extreme desire to be loved, and the slightest overture of others is enough to make them move.
So if you're a sucking girl, if you want to change, then think carefully about your relationship with your parents, this is your first line of defense to break through the bad cycle, first you have to be aware of yourself, aware of the self that longs to be pampered and loved but does not get. The Law of Attraction tells us that if you are not a person with a strong heart and abundance, then there is a high probability that you will not meet someone who can truly give you love.
Because of the same frequency, the people who attract a person when they are at a low point are basically saved from others with a thousand and one-sided desires. We can certainly ask for help from others, but remember the "God helpers." Only if you really want to climb out of the mire, others can reach out and pull you, otherwise all the struggle will be in vain.
Many women do not recognize this, every love is doing their best, every time the scar forgets the pain, turns around and plunges into the boundless ocean of love, then it will eventually repeat the same mistakes. Experience is not repeated condensation, it is only experience, after all, it is not wisdom. Is there a kind of person who always changes partners and looks for a lifetime, but still feels unhappy? Maybe he just doesn't know: love is to explore, to find, to discover with the old people, not to repeat the mistakes of the past with one new person after another. When you change partners again and again, maybe you should think: how to change yourself!
Love is not simply giving and receiving, it is a complex game of human nature. This is equivalent to a process of self-reinvention, and this process is long and arduous, and many people cannot break through this problem of life, so they repeat their lives between the pursuit of love and the lack of it. And some people have the courage of a strong man who breaks his wrist, they know how to stitch together that broken self with their own hands, rebuild a new self, and then go on the road to feel the beauty of the world, and meet people who can really get along with each other on the road of the quiet years.
"The Art of Love" says: "Love is not a feeling that has nothing to do with a person's maturity, but only needs to be invested in the body and mind." If you do not strive to develop your full personality and thus reach a creative tendency, then every attempt at love will fail. ”
Love is unconditional and conditional. Contradictory but co-existing, the key is where we are.