The Chinese nation has a long history of more than 5,000 years, not only has far-reaching cultural inheritance, but also has many principles of being a human being that have been passed down to this day. After thousands of years of sand and sand, what can still be remembered by people is the truth. Some very classic sayings, although there is a certain degree of sexism, but these sayings are the ancestors from many real people and real events, and are still the direction of our life.
For example
"Men are afraid of three nods, women are afraid of striding forward", what does this saying refer to? What's the story behind it?
"Men are afraid to nod their heads", literally we can guess that this sentence is warning male compatriots not to nod their heads no matter what they are doing. It is often said that men have gold under their knees, and men cannot kneel casually, and in the same way, men's heads cannot be easily lowered and nodded casually.
In ancient times, the requirements for men were still very high, from birth, men were given family expectations and the future, from a young age began to teach men to do things seriously, responsible, and men mostly need to socialize outside, deal with affairs, if you casually agree to others conditions, it is likely to bring disaster to yourself and the family.
Image: Stills of the man who was given expectations by his family
There is such a big official in history, because of his perfunctory and irresponsible work attitude, he jokes about his future, and eventually becomes a negative teaching material for everyone.
This person is the grandfather of the famous lyricist Li Qingzhao, Wang Jue. Li Qingzhao had such a high level of literary attainment, her elders were certainly not far behind, especially her grandfather Wang Jue, but at that time, the prime minister of Song Shenzong, one person was above ten thousand people, according to reason, this reader must be sensible and understand the weight, but Wang Jue was an exception.
Wang Jue became prime minister at that time, but did not share any sorrow for Song Shenzong. At that time, when the emperor was in the dynasty, if there was an official who presented a problematic recital to Song Shenzong, Wang Jue took the recital fold to Song Shenzong, and then shouted from the side: Take the holy will, just wait next to it.
When Song Shenzong had finished dealing with the problem and had written down his opinions and handling methods on it, Wang Jue hurried to take the fold away from Song Shenzong, which was called: Receiving the Holy Will; when it was time to leave work, the officials who came to ask questions in the morning were waiting outside, and Wang Jue took the emperor's approved recital to these officials, and then announced that he would leave work, which was ridiculed as: he had received the Holy Will.
Image: Song Shenzong stills
During the whole process, Wang Jue did not fulfill the responsibilities of the prime minister at all, did not solve any worries for the emperor, and did not advise the emperor, the emperor should also be very depressed, invited a great talent to be the prime minister, and as a result, he did the work of the messenger every day, and all things had to be solved by the emperor himself.
Wang Jue was the prime minister, but because he was timid and afraid of things, he was not even willing to share state affairs, which was really despicable.
After that, some ministers began to ridicule Wang Jue, the nominal prime minister, and also regarded him as a representative figure with three nods and no questions.
If a person wants to create and achieve his own career, he must have his own ideas, adhere to his own goals, and do what he wants to do, in order to be less distant from his dreams, compared with those who need to have a little future through their own efforts.
Wang Jue's starting point was much better, but he never had his own ideas and opinions, naturally he could not contribute to the imperial court, could not get the respect of others, the appreciation of the leaders, and then was abandoned.
In ancient times, when men were so strict, they were actually more cruel to women. Due to the long-term patrilineal clan tradition in our country, the status of men has always been high, while women are lowly and low-status, so for women, the secular world has put forward the requirement that women should be gentle, virtuous, and three from six virtues.
"Women are afraid to walk"
This sentence reflects the ancient requirements for women to be delicate. In the eyes of men's women in ancient times, women are very gentle, delicate, careful, walking gracefully, how can they walk with men?
Although there is a strong sexism here, it has to be said that male aesthetics also occupy a large factor here. No man would like a woman like Sun Erniang, who fights and kills, is it? However, some women can also walk with some cheerfulness and fitness when they are in a hurry, such as Minglan in "Do You Know It or Not", and it is also admirable to walk in a hurry, but the woman who has been criticized for "striding" in history is also a strange thing.
Image: Stills of Minglan: "Know It or Not"
At the beginning of the Western Jin Dynasty, the land of China was in a harmonious state of great unification, and then all this was completely disrupted by a woman who liked to "stride"
。 This woman's name is Jia Nanfeng, according to historical texts and picture records, Jia Nanfeng is very ugly, and the person is tall and tall, and there is no grace at all, just because her father Jia Chong is a hero of the Jin Dynasty, so the political marriage married Sima Zheng and became an empress.
Although Jia Nanfeng is not good on the outside and more like a man on the inside, she is very fierce and has a strong desire for control. Not only did he control Sima Zheng to death and control the harem, but later he also made a mess of the politics of the former dynasty, causing the "Rebellion of the Eight Kings". Because Jia Nanfeng himself could not have children, he was resolutely intolerant of other concubines having children. One concubine was unfortunately pregnant, and did not know how to deal with it, Jia Nanfeng took a long gun and directly killed this concubine's palace, took this concubine as a target, and stabbed her to death.
Therefore, Sima Zheng's heirs were very few, and the only prince was finally killed directly by Jia Nanfeng, holding his sister to be the prince, and she was obedient to the government. Not only that, Jia Nanfeng also put countless green hats on Sima Zheng. She looked at a small fresh meat, so she took it into captivity in the palace to "spoil", and what made people shudder was that once she was tired of this small fresh meat, she would pack it with a futon to the execution ground and kill it directly.
Image: Stills of Jia Nanfeng
At that time, everyone shuddered when they heard Jia Nanfeng. The great rivers and mountains of the Original Great Unification of the Jin Dynasty also fell to pieces, which made the world sigh.
Later, people regarded Jia Nanfeng's behavior as a model of a tough and cruel woman, and also used the five words of "women are afraid to stride forward" to warn future generations that if a woman can take a big stride, her personality must be extremely barbaric, not a good model of a virtuous wife.
There are many more folk sayings about this kind, of course, after the changes of the times, some of the sayings can no longer use the original meaning, but the reason is still very far-reaching.
Article author: Dahui
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