The tricks between the big guys show not financial resources, but emotional intelligence.
Once everyone talked about success, the foothold was mainly on talent and talent. Many people believe that as long as a person has excellent skills, success is only a matter of time. However, with the enrichment of a person's experience and the improvement of cognition, the understanding of success will be more comprehensive and three-dimensional. More and more people realize that only talent is still far from success.
In terms of knowledge, there was once a hot topic: Why are those famous scientists and mathematicians inferior to many businessmen who do not even know basic arithmetic in terms of earning power? One of the respondents' words can be described as a direct attack on the essence: "What the businessman grasps is the production unit condensed by countless productive forces, but what about the scientist?" He's just a relatively powerful productive force. ”
Just as the so-called "ancient heroes are afraid of group fights", a single person can certainly not compete with an organized group of people. So the question arises again, why can businessmen bring a lot of people together? Two words: emotional intelligence.
When people talk about success today, they can't always get around the concept of emotional intelligence. Countless success stories have proved to everyone that only high emotional intelligence is the necessary condition for success. Regarding the performance of high emotional intelligence, from the verbal confrontation between the business tycoon Ma Yun and the "billion film emperor" Huang Bo, we can explore one or two.
One or two rounds of confrontation, see which big guy has high emotional intelligence?
In many industries, businessmen and actors are recognized as high emotional intelligence professions. And Ma Yun and Huang Bo, respectively, are the best among businessmen and actors, if two people fight on the same stage, who will have the upper hand? Some people say that in the matter of Guan Gong's war against Qin Qiong, it is impossible to distinguish between victory and defeat. In fact, the two really had such an interesting experience of talking and talking.
Shortly after Alibaba went public in the United States, Huang Bo and Jack Ma were jointly invited to attend a TV show. Not long after the meeting, the fast-tongued boss Ma took the lead in making a move. Ma Yun smiled and asked Huang Bo: "Is it okay to endorse me?" Huang Bo reacted quickly and immediately replied: "No problem, but you have to send me a car." ”
This sentence is enough to show Huang Bo's agility and wisdom. Commercial endorsement is the main form of cooperation between Party A and the star, but because it will involve specific issues such as the time and remuneration of endorsement, commercial endorsement is generally a private negotiation between the two parties. Talking about this topic in public, especially in public, about pay is a very embarrassing thing for both parties.
Huang Bo's response was just right to resolve this embarrassment. First of all, does endorsement work? Of course. In terms of specific remuneration, Huang Bo humorously replaced the straightforward interest negotiation with "one car". Then the pressure came to Ma Yun's side.
In response to Huang Bo, Ma Yun was also very calm: "What car do you want?" Obviously, this question was completely expected by Huang Bo, only to see him smile and say to Boss Ma: "Help me empty the shopping cart." In a word, it made the audience laugh.
Huang Bo's two responses not only gave Boss Ma face, but also subtly hinted at the issue of the spokesperson's remuneration. Obviously, Ma Yun failed to get any advantage in the first merger. Ma Yun asked a more difficult question to answer: "How do you think I look?" ”
The difficulty with this question is that its general answer is limited to two options: good looking and not looking good. But neither option can be chosen! Saying that Ma Yun is good-looking, Huang Bo will inevitably wear a flattering hat; if he says something unsightly, he will brush the face of Boss Ma.
So how did Huang Bo answer? "I think we look alike."
A frank and witty sentence immediately defused the previous two embarrassing situations. After two rounds of confrontation, Huang Bo's high emotional intelligence was vividly displayed.
Second, from the charm of Huang Bo's language, look at the performance of high emotional intelligence
1. Turn embarrassment into humor:
Regarding the difference between high emotional intelligence and low emotional intelligence, a writer summed it up very appropriately: people with high emotional intelligence can always transform embarrassment and cold scenes into lively and witty conversation scenes; while low emotional intelligence is the opposite, and even warm conversations will be brought into an awkward atmosphere by people with low emotional intelligence.
In the confrontation between Ma Yun and Huang Bo, the two questions raised by "Boss Ma" are quite embarrassing. Of course, this is also deliberately done by Ma Yun. The intention of "Boss Ma" is obviously to test how Huang Bo, the "high emotional intelligence talent" of the show business circle, is. And Huang Bo also used a "textbook-level" response to save the embarrassing scene and verify the real body by the way.
2. Pattern of thinking about others:
People with high emotional intelligence can not only do a good job of avoiding embarrassing topics, but also be good at saving other people who are stuck in topic dilemmas. In the variety show "City of Illusion", Faye Wong found Huang Bo as her partner. At that time, the host He Jiong asked Faye Wong why she was looking for Huang Bo to help herself? And this question, but faye Wong asked confused. Faye Wong pondered for a long time and held out a sentence: "Because Huang Bo is free." ”
Faye Wong's casual answer made the scene a little cold. In order to save the scene, the resourceful He Jiong quickly asked Huang Bo: "Sister Fei has so many friends, why please you?" Definitely not because you're available! In this regard, Huang Bo said very thoughtfully: "Because she has strict requirements for the quality of her partner." ”
This sentence not only helped Faye Wong establish a conscientious artist image, but also showed a personal strength by the way, while also losing humor and humor. As soon as these words came out, the atmosphere at the scene was revitalized.
3. The art of fighting without breaking:
Although people with high emotional intelligence often think of others, they do not blindly act as good old people. When the opponent's words begin to "hide the knife in the smile", it is also very necessary to fight back. Of course, the fight back here is not to argue with people with red ears, but to maintain a fighting and unbroken conversation situation.
At the 2013 Golden Horse Awards, Huang Bo attended as the only mainland guest. Not long after coming to power, Cai Kangyong, who had been presiding over Jinma for a long time, gave Huang Bo a "down ma wei". At that time, Huang Bo and Zheng Yuling laughed, and in the words, Huang Bo said "the stage is the actor's home", and then Cai Kangyong next to him said: "This is my home!" ”
In the face of Cai's pun on the "territorial declaration", Huang Bo naturally wanted to fight back, but did not use a tit-for-tat approach. He glanced at Cai Kangyong from top to bottom, and then ridiculed the costumes that Cai wore that day: "Your clothes are interesting, I have only seen people riding horses, and I have never seen a horse rider." ”
With a pun on a pun, this statement of fighting without breaking not breaking not only achieved the purpose of fighting back, but also gave Cai Kangyong face. Huang Bo became the most high-profile mainland artist in Taiwan that year with "human horseback riding".
III. Conclusion
Summarizing Huang Bo's past, we can see that the significance of high emotional intelligence for us is not limited to the great help of work and entrepreneurship. It also allows us to better integrate into the social environment, help us navigate various occasions, and become a considerate and intelligent person.
On a spiritual level, high emotional intelligence is reflected in a healthy mental state, skillful language skills, and kind character. Friends who want to cultivate emotional intelligence may wish to start from these three dimensions and carry out targeted exercises.