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Love is often a game of the brave, timid people often because of their own hesitation and cowardice to rub shoulders with true love, many times obviously met the person who really likes, but always dare not take that step, watching the other party disappear from their own world.
The pursuit of love requires the initiative, if two people are waiting for each other to open their mouths to express their likes, they are trying their best to test, but they dare not take the initiative, then in the end it can only be a regret in vain.
The management of love also needs to take the initiative, the original is a matter of two people, it can not only be handed over to one person, need to spend thoughts on each other, need both parties to keep paying, in this love are becoming a better self, so as to meet better us on the other side, this is the best state of a relationship.
Many people are teaching girls, do not be too active in love, this is an important way of self-protection, too active people often will not have a good end, at this time there are many girls will step into another misunderstanding, always in a passive state, or always in the demand, do not know how to pay, in love when not so happy, wrap themselves in a thick shell, it will indeed make themselves reduce a lot of harm, but will also let the other party because they can not feel your love, so choose to leave.
There may really be some people, when you take the initiative to express their likes, they get all inch-by-inch, but they can't because of this, even the ability to basically love people, they also need to take the initiative to open themselves and invest in a relationship, so that they can hold the sweet love in their hands.
I'm certainly in favor of women not being too proactive, but some basic expressions of love are also necessary. If you want men to love you addictively, women must take the initiative in these three aspects.
Take the initiative to care for him and give him full of warmth and companionship
Women always long to meet a person who holds herself in the palm of her hand and cares, who can know that he is cold and warm, understands his sorrows and joys, and gives himself warm love.
I hope he can pick up when it rains, take the initiative to send food to himself when he has not eaten, work overtime late and go out to see his figure, hope that he remembers every word he has said, remembers his aunt period, detects his bad emotions in time, and hopes that he can be a perfect boyfriend who can do home in all aspects.
In love, women are always the side that is pampered, and they often have high expectations for men, and men, they always play the role of shielding others from the wind and rain, life forces them to become mature and powerful, they are also used to paying to others, accustomed to loving others, to be good to women.
Over time, not only women will ignore that men also need to be loved and hurt, but even men themselves are about to forget what it feels like to be put on the tip of their hearts by a person to love and warm.
But in fact, their hearts are also eager to be remembered by a person, and they also hope that someone can take the initiative to care for him and love him. He will be tired after taking the initiative to pay for a long time. If you always have requirements for him and never take the initiative to care about him, the man will be sad and will consider taking back his efforts, only if you also take the initiative to care for him and give him warm and deep love, he will be more willing to hurt you, and he will be willing to continue to play the giving party in a relationship.
Take the initiative to express your needs and eliminate the needs of those who guess me
Sometimes, what makes us feel tired in emotional relationships is not others, but ourselves.
If you think about it, many times, the reason why we are disappointed in a person is nothing more than because we have too high expectations of him. This expectation comes from one's own imagination.
You want him to be a roundworm in your stomach, to understand your unspoken meaning, to know your desires and stops, to understand your hints, to know all your girlish thoughts. But everyone has their own way of thinking, so how can they fully understand your ideas?
In the end, you feel that he is disappointed that he is not in place, and he does not know your thoughts, and he still thinks that you are inexplicable, so contradictions breed.
In fact, it is not that men do not do it, but they do not understand, do not know how to do, men are such a straight line of creatures, not that they do not care about you do not love you, but do not care about you in the way you want.
As long as you take the initiative to put forward your own ideas, the people who love you will do it, and do not spend all your time in the part of guessing my guess, eliminating the extra steps, and you will get closer.
Take the initiative to improve yourself, no man will reject the better you
There are two sides to love, one side is romantic and the other is reality.
Love for a person often stems from the breeding of hormones, some people want to have it when they see him, you can't say why, it's like it.
Such unexplained liking is the origin of love, but it is by no means the key to maintaining love, and such a vague thing cannot stand up to scrutiny, and it will disappear over time.
No matter what the reason a person loves you in the first place, it will eventually return to reality, that is, to see your personal value.
A lot of men start with you in their eyes and end up with disgust. When you get worse and worse and live as someone else's background board, then sooner or later it will be replaced.
Don't give up the creation of self by the man's temporary liking, only by constantly improving the self and making yourself better and better can you attract the attention of men for a long time.
You have value, men will be reluctant to leave you, otherwise the last thing you get is abandonment. Don't wait for the day when you are rejected and looked down upon to take care of yourself, take the initiative to improve yourself, the better you are, the more men love you.
Many people persuade you not to take the initiative, and then see the method of teaching you to take the initiative, there may be some people who will play drums in their hearts, do not know how to follow, in fact, everything is not separated from its origin, its purpose is to teach you to put yourself first, and not to put all your energy into men.
There is a certain standard for not taking the initiative, not so that you do not even have a basic concern for the other party, no one teaches you to manage love, is to tell you not to take the initiative to care about the other half, if you can't even do the basic care, still expect others to love you?
Take the initiative to care for each other, this is the basis of loving a person, take the initiative to express personal needs, do not let the other party guess, take the initiative to improve yourself, when you become better, you are not afraid of anyone's departure.
It is indeed difficult to have a perfect love, but as long as you use the right method, grasp the scale of payment, do not love too much, and do not wrap yourself too tightly, then you will definitely meet a person who loves you wholeheartedly.