Zhang Min is married?
Brushing Weibo today, I found that #Zhang Min was exploded and married # rushed to the top of the hot search list.
Taking a closer look, I found that in the comment area, most netizens are not concerned about whether Zhang Min is married or not, but her so-called "husband" - whether she is worthy of Zhang Min.
01.
Here's the thing.
A few days ago, an Internet celebrity anchor and Zhang Min's "husband" broadcast live together.
During the live broadcast, the male anchor said bluntly to the camera: "This is Minge's husband, a well-known director, I Am Van Brother." ”
The introduction of the male anchor did not get the denial of Zhang Min's "husband", he seemed to be joking and seemed to swear sovereignty: "Zhang Min's husband is not Liu Yonghui (the anchor) Ah, thank you." ”
Hearing this sentence, the anchor on the side immediately added:
"This is the real husband, this is really the husband who sleeps with her Well, officially certified, live well and not sticky."
What many people who watch live broadcasts did not expect was that the male anchor's controversial remarks had just been said for a long time, and more controversial operations than it had come.
Still in the live broadcast, Zhang Min's "husband" took out his mobile phone video to connect Zhang Min, allowing Zhang Min and fans to say hello. However, Zhang Min on the other end of the phone did not agree, she told her "husband" that she was wearing pajamas and it was inconvenient to appear on camera.
Obviously, Zhang Min's "husband" does not care about Zhang Min's so-called "twisting", and he asks Zhang Min several times: sit up, sit up.
After the requirements were not met, Zhang Min's "husband" directly pointed Zhang Min in the mobile phone screen at the camera.
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After the live video spread online, the crusade against Zhang Min's "husband" also followed.
In the eyes of most netizens, Zhang Min's marriage is not unexpected, and the unexpected is that she married such a "husband":
"It's very interesting, the wife is lying down into the bed, I have to call the wife to show her face to other men, to show the netizens a glance, not to say that it can't be photogenic, wait for people to change the time is appropriate to see it, the evil man is thinking of nothing, don't pretend, that dirty mind who doesn't know."
"This man looks very clever."
"If it's true, find something."
“......”
To be honest, it is very painful to see this hot search, and these comments.
Presumably, many people who sigh for Zhang Min are the same as I thought:
"What is more difficult to accept than the appearance of aging is:
Once shone a pearl of an era, married to a non-human. ”
02.
Zhang Min, the well-deserved Hong Kong goddess in the hearts of the 8090 generation.
No matter how the era and aesthetic change, Zhang Min's "looking back and smiling" on a white horse in the movie can still amaze everyone who has seen her.
Having seen Gu Tianle, it was a sight of Yang's mistake for life.
I have seen Zhang Min, and I have seen Zhao Min mistakenly for life.
But who could have imagined that many years later, breaking this beautiful thing was Actually Zhang Min's pillow person?
This master brother Fan is not sure whether he is Zhang Min's husband, but it is certain that he is indeed Zhang Min's close lover.
As early as 2019, Zhang Min made a clarification for him:
"I got to know my brother Fan because they shared a common belief, and I want to clarify that I haven't raised him, don't say it so ugly, he's a producer and director, he has his own job, I'm very compatible with him, please give us space."
It is reported that Zhang Min's brother Fan, who is very compatible in his mouth, is a full ten years younger than Zhang Min. Just last month, Zhang Min also brought his brother Fan and Zhang Jizhong to dinner, exchanging calligraphy and so on.
It can be seen that Zhang Min is very protective of him, but this kind of maintenance is one-way.
We all know that truely maintained love must go hand in hand with respect.
As Busquets said in "This Too" says:
"Perhaps the noblest feelings that one person can have for another person is respect, not love or liking."
If a man always asks you to do things against your will, and you don't feel the slightest respect for him.
That can only be said that His love for you is full of selfishness.
At this point, I just hope you understand:
In this life, people can be wrong for life, but don't be wrong for life.
After all, the former is a lack of beauty.
The latter, on the other hand, is remorse for not having the beginning.
03.
Under the hot search of Zhang Min's marriage, many people began to miss the former Hong Kong circle goddesses and their love life.
Among these people, some of them are married well, such as Zhu Yin, such as Cai Shaofen; some are not married well, such as Zhang Min, who is now at the center of public opinion.
It reminds me of a reader who talked to me about her confusion about some feelings.
Readers told me that she has a very good sister, and in real life, she is also a "goddess" existence. The student sister is very good, beautiful, well-off, and always ranks among the best.
In the reader's heart, xuejie will definitely find a person who is as good as her in the future and step into the palace of marriage. However, three years after graduation, she found that what she thought was different from what her sister thought.
Just last month, she received an electronic invitation from her sister on WeChat.
The moment she opened the invitation, the first emotion she felt was, unbelievable. The man who stood next to the student sister and took wedding photos with her, the reader knew, and she was once the same level student.
And the reason why she still has an impression of him is that this boy's wind evaluation is not good. When I was a student, changing girlfriends such as clothes, and every time I broke up, I was not happy, and I would slander girls behind my back.
It is difficult for the reader to imagine that such a man with flaws in character can marry a student sister who is perfect in her mind and has no flaws.
In the later period, readers also knocked on the side of the reason for the marriage of the student sister.
Xuejie said this at that time:
"I'm Chinese New Year's Eve today, and the friends around me are either married or have children, and no matter how good I am, what can I do, and when I reach thirty or forty, these excellent things are nothing." 」
Hearing such an answer, the reader does not say anything more.
She was confused.
But she remained silent.
04.
Just as confused as the reader is Yang Kasa.
On the talk show, Yang Kasa teased himself:
"It's really too hard to fall in love, is it harder to know than Shangqing? The first and most difficult thing is that you must lower your standards, that is, as a person who has been single for a long time, I often despair of finding that the girls who are much better than me, their boyfriends, I can't even look at them. ”
This is a joke and a social phenomenon.
Many single, unmarried women, when they reach a certain age and do not have a partner around, will always receive a four-word irony: the vision is too high.
In the eyes of these ironic people, single or unmarried women, the partner they want, must have appearance, otherwise they are rich, it is best to have both. It's just that there are very few such people, and some of them may not necessarily look at them. That's why they're alone.
But is that really the case?
Of course not.
Take Chen Farong.
Chen Farong is also a Hong Kong circle goddess, and unlike her friend Cai Shaofen Zhu Yin, she is now in her fifties and is still single.
When she was young, Chen Farong also talked about a lot of love, but there were several paragraphs, all of which ended with the other party splitting his legs. With these lessons from the past, Chen Farong will be cautious and cautious when choosing a partner.
In this way, her "vision" is indeed very high. But it's not how good-looking and rich she is, she just wants to find someone who really understands her.
Many years ago, Chen Farong met a man.
The man proposed to her, and she agreed to the other's proposal, but she always felt that something was wrong:
The other party sent 100 things, 99 of which she did not like;
Don't like red shoes, why do the other party send red;
Why does the other party always like to arrange her life, eat pork and chicken today;
Later she figured out that her fiancé did all this only because he didn't understand himself:
"He's just the me he imagined, would love these things, and if you marry someone who doesn't know you, in his fantasy, you're someone else, then you won't be happy either."
So, what is the point of getting married?
Everyone knows, it's for pleasure.
If it's not for the sake of happiness, but because of age, because the eyes of other people are too high, then get married or get married?
At best, it's about getting things done.
As Chen Farong said:
"I think many people's stereotypes of independent women are single, not married, not dependent on men, strong women with the ability to make money, and have a successful career, but for me, independent women are not necessarily strong women, in fact, they are a person who knows what they want, does not seek perfection, does not lose herself, and has the ability to choose what life she wants." 」
Deeply.
Whether it is Zhang Min or the sisters in the reader's mouth, they have made choices that they feel are right, and we have no right to interfere, but we just sincerely hope that their choices can be worthy of them.
And for those who are free from choice, they also sincerely hope that they can put aside the worldly vision and stick to their hearts.
Or in the words of Chen Farong:
"Only the one you have to marry, not the age you have to marry."
Sweet dreams.
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