I found that many boys will become girls' spare tires and lick dogs, not because they do not match each other's conditions and are not good enough. Often due to the lack of experience in love, they have become their targets.
Obviously, for scumbags, honest boys are good at coaxing and cheating and manipulating, just like scumbags who pick honest girls to start. In front of scum people, both boys and girls are likely to become victims. So this time to talk about a few of the scumbags commonly used to manipulate the means, if you hit one of them, just run away~
1. Serious double standard + evasion of communication + selling miserably
For example, she will chat with different members of the opposite sex, even in the middle of the night, and will go out to eat and play alone with other boys behind your back, but will not let you talk to other girls.
When you are unhappy and angry because of these, she will not communicate with you to explain and eliminate your uneasiness. Instead, it is the opposite of making a pitiful appearance to blame you, with words such as not caring enough about you, she is lonely and so on to win your heartache.
In short, whenever she encounters contradictions, she will avoid positive communication and then arouse your guilt in various ways. Makes you feel like "it's because you didn't do a good enough job that caused her to do this"
An audience member shared a similar experience with my contribution. He said he was nice to his ex, but the ex never felt enough and didn't care enough about her to care about her. I felt like I had to put her first in everything. Even every look that the boy has to read is required to read.
This is really raising the ancestors, and the ancestors have not provided such a thing. Normal love is by no means a grievance of one party, but an appropriate concession of both parties.
2. Suppress your self-confidence
She will often compare you with other boys, and even praise other boys in front of you, so that you have a sense of crisis and lose your "psychological advantage" in front of him. In the face of oppression, many boys are prone to doubts about themselves, feel that they are very bad, and lose self-confidence. If you really think so, you have fallen into her trap and trap.
3. Good at using psychological games
For example, not replying to messages for a long time, snubbing you, or smiling happily when you message someone in front of you, makes you wonder if she likes someone else. When you question, she can naturally lose her temper with you, scold you, and even use violence against you, and then coax you later, rationalize everything she does, make you feel like you are thinking wildly, and make you feel that if you don't question her, she won't be so angry with you.
4. Instill in you her ideal boyfriend type.
She will consciously or unconsciously say what she likes about her boyfriend, such as liking gentle and generous boys, liking to cook, liking to have abs, being willing to do things for girls, how much it costs to be a good man, and so on. The goal is to turn you into a good man who obeys him. Or how good the ex is to her, the purpose is also to raise her own value and stimulate you to cater to him.
If you are a love white, you generally do not realize that you are being played, and even become a situation of "one willing to fight and one willing to be beaten".
Especially in the ambiguous period, when the other party delays in giving you a reply, but constantly asks for you, you find that you have less and less wallet, and you gradually lose yourself, but it seems that you have not yet got anything, just take a good look at the relationship and get out of it quickly
Of course, in addition to the above, there are many behaviors that invisibly have the possibility of being slagged, if you feel very tired with girls now, but don't know how to judge and deal with, you can pay attention to me, back: LingLingzi, I will help you solve ~
Speaking of this, it is inevitable that some heartache for male compatriots, because boys are hurt in their feelings and are often easily ignored by society. Girls who are hurt by scumbags will receive a lot of comfort and encouragement. When it comes to boys, they are more either ridiculed or can only heal and digest on their own.
After being suppressed for a long time under the concept of men and women who are self-reliant, they become more inferior, and even fear of marriage, and gradually lose the ability to be happy. However, after all, people are emotional animals, and I believe that after experiencing them, they will learn to distinguish and avoid bad people. When you meet the right person, you will still be healed again