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It is understandable for a person to make mistakes at a young age, after all, there was little or no experience in the world at that time. In this case, it is impossible to make correct judgments and choices, which leads to detours, which is a necessary and unavoidable life course.
But after reaching middle age, if you still make mistakes, it is a matter of personal ability, pattern, and cultivation.
Especially after the age of forty, for their own life should have the most basic planning and arrangement, what kind of things are worth doing, should be done, what kind of things can not be done in any case, should be clear and clear.
If you are still muddy and live a good life, then in your old age, it is almost doomed to be miserable. After all, what kind of causes are planted when you are young, what kind of fruits will be eaten when you are old.
When people reach middle age, they must understand that it is better to rely on others than on themselves.
Whether you have money or not, mixed well or badly, you must firmly hold on to the following three things, which is the biggest confidence and blessing for the rest of your life.
One: There is a freedom to take and put down, to let go of the deep obsession in the heart
Let go, these two words seem simple, but it is really difficult to do, how many people can not put down in their entire lives? Those who can't love, those things full of regrets, and those deeply buried obsessions will be integrated into the blood, and the longer the time, the more profound the influence.
However, people who can afford to take it but can't put it down will only live more and more tired, after all, people's ability to bear it is limited. Life is like climbing a mountain, only by letting go, the pace of moving forward can be relaxed.
However, this is not an easy task, it may take many years, and even a lot of courage and effort, to make all those who are sad, sad, and unwilling to sit down and shake hands with themselves.
Although it is not easy, this is a very necessary thing, after all, the past is not advised, and those who come can be traced. In middle age, when you are still obsessed with the past, you can't get out of the sadness of the past in old age.
If a person experiences some heavy things in his youth, and then spends middle age in regret and in sadness in his old age, it is better to say that this person has actually died in his youth, because his subsequent life is only repeating the regrets of youth.
Let those bad things experienced in their youth pass, let yourself pick up hope and enthusiasm for life in middle age, is the best health.
No matter how old you are at this time, I hope you can have the freedom to take and put down.
Second: Have a correct three views, and calmly look at the gains and losses of life and various feelings
The correct three views run through and affect a person's life, if the three views are not correct, it is impossible to live smoothly no matter what, because he cannot make the right choices and cannot have good interpersonal relationships.
And these, all directly determine a person's life direction and living conditions, is an extremely critical link.
After reaching middle age, people must look at the right way in three ways, do not try to take some crooked and evil ways, and still less mistakenly think that there are shortcuts in life and go astray.
We must know how to cherish the people around us, and we must do things in a down-to-earth manner, only in this way can we walk more steadily.
In addition, we must also calmly look at the gains and losses in life and various feelings, those who are not worthy of contact should not continue to communicate, and those feelings outside marriage can be broken.
Having a harmonious family and a stable marriage is the greatest guarantee for the rest of our lives, and once we lose it, all the operations in the first half of life and all the support in the second half of life will be in vain.
Three: Have a positive and optimistic attitude, can make yourself live easily and freely
In the movie "Angel Amelie", the heroine Emily is a person who always looks at things positively, she likes to punish evil and promote good, and likes to actively help many people.
Her mother died unexpectedly when she was eight years old, and her father has since been immersed in his own world and indifferent to her.
Even so, she still lives optimistically, making her life and even the lives of others beautiful because of her.
A positive, optimistic person can not only influence yourself and make yourself a very happy person, but also influence others and affect the atmosphere of the environment in which you are in.
Middle age is the time when various diseases occur the most, how a person's mentality is, how the environment and atmosphere he is in, in fact, also affects the incidence of various physiological diseases.
People with a bad mentality and people who look at things negatively will always suffer from more pain in middle-aged and elderly people, and even when they suffer from some diseases, they are not defeated by diseases, but they are defeated by their own fears.
The angle and way of looking at things can be changed, and a positive attitude can be exercised. In middle age, people must cultivate their own positive mentality and make themselves an optimistic person.
When people reach middle age, it is better to rely on others than on themselves, let themselves have a better mentality, and deal with people in a down-to-earth manner, so that the road in the second half of life can go more and more smoothly.
Otherwise, the more anxious you are, the easier it is to take the wrong path, if there is a shortcut in life, then it must be down-to-earth.
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