I once felt that the world was very ruthless, there were many people who added flowers to the icing on the cake, there were few people who sent charcoal in the snow, and there were too many unfair things happening to themselves. There was a lot of anger and unwillingness, and finally it was soothed by a peaceful heart.
Without the pain of that fall to the bottom, I would think that I had a successful life, a good job, a lover who was very good to me, a lot of friends around me, and a career, love, and friendship were all running well. I would think that this goodness will last and will not change the day. But that day finally came and took away everything I had. Because of a mistake lost his job, he complained to his lover, only to find that the lover already had someone else and performed a breakup farce. Complaining to friends, I know that those so-called friends can only eat, drink and have fun together, and it is good not to say sarcasm. At that time, I realized that the success I thought was what I thought was, and it was so vulnerable.
So I healed my wounds alone, no longer hoping that someone would understand my pain. In those difficult days, only silence accompanied me. In that atmosphere, I gradually calmed down and began to feel that I did not need to be so sad, but should feel fortunate. Fortunately, after this setback, I saw the people and things around me clearly, no longer naively felt good about myself, and was able to look at myself and the world objectively.
When I climbed out of the trough with my own strength and faced life again, I found that many things do not need to be too concerned, no work is because of lack of experience, no sincere lovers are because fate has not arrived, and no intimate friends are because the people I know are not right. There are too many unsatisfactory things in life, and if you want to live happily, you must have a peaceful heart.
There are many problems that you didn't understand when you were a child, but you will naturally understand them when you grow up. Years will make you understand a lot of things, so don't worry about your ignorance and youthfulness, one day you will suddenly be enlightened.
Instead of envying others, change yourself. There will always be people around you who live better than you, at least in your eyes, their lives are very happy. The more you envy, the more dissatisfied you are with your current situation. After dissatisfaction, more people will choose to complain about themselves, and few people will choose to work hard. Your envy is only the icing on the cake for the happiness of others, and your troubles will not be for you. Therefore, do not waste time on envying others, what kind of life you want to live depends on your own efforts to achieve, rather than regretting the past, it is better to cherish the present. A bad decision led to a series of troubles that you regret. Maybe you will blame others, maybe you will blame yourself, but because you put your mind on regret, it affects the work at hand and causes more losses. When mistakes have been made, regret is useless, and the remedy is to try to minimize the loss from now on, and not to let the past things affect the present.
Instead of waiting for luck, give it your all. Many times you say that you are unlucky and do not succeed in doing anything, in fact, the fundamental reason is that you are not working hard enough, or the direction of your efforts is not right, you will do more with less. So, what you have to do is not wait for luck to come and then work hard, but to immediately reflect on yourself, find a way to change the status quo, and try again.
Years will make you understand that many things are not what you imagined, that they cannot be solved by thinking about it in your head, and that is the reality. When you gradually understand reality, you know how to face the storms in life.