In the hit drama "Little Shede", Nan Li once asked the father played by Zhang Guoguo, why was he in a hurry to get a divorce that year?
Nan Li's question actually asked a lot of doubts from the audience.
Why did Nan Jianlong, a high-knowledgeable element, abandon the original princess of the rich birth and the knowledgeable Dali, and choose Cai Juying, a nanny who was illiterate, talentless, wealthy, and even dragged her children and daughters?
In fact, if we analyze it carefully, we will find that Nan Jianlong's choice is very reasonable for him personally.
Most of a person's life is to go through the process of birth, old age, illness and death.
And we always say that staying and supporting each other is often the three links of "old", "sick" and "dead" in the back.
Nan Jianlong and the eldest princess, knowing and falling in love, jointly conceived the child of Nan Li, and the small family of the two also had a tasteful life, which was the "birth" they experienced together. If things go well, they can also calmly face enron's "old".
However, very few people's lives can be as they wish. When "illness" appears in the marriage of two people, this test is not everyone's ability to carry.
At least the eldest princess, who has been dressed in fine clothes and jade since childhood and suffers from dizziness from time to time, really cannot withstand the test of this level.
Although the eldest princess's "inability to bear it" is not out of his subjective will, but because his ability is really impossible.
So when Nan Jianlong fell ill and suffered in the hospital, and the closest people around him could not accompany him, he suddenly woke up: the wind and snow in love really can't be eaten as food.
Of course, this is not to say that their love is fake, but when it comes to entering marriage, love and marriage really cannot be equated.
The eldest princess, who has no way to resist the responsibility of marriage, and Nan Jianlong, who cannot rebel against human nature, left each other at a time when a marriage needed each other's company and protection most.
A marriage without risk resistance is very fragile.
Therefore, when Nan Jianlong faces his own life and death juncture, out of the instinct to survive or out of self-interested thinking, he will also choose Cai Juying, who can give himself a busy time.
Just like he said to his daughter Nanli: The appearance of Aunt Cai is to send charcoal in the snow, I have served your mother for many years, tired, I also want others to serve me.
This sentence is not good, but it is true.
The marriage between Nan Jianlong and the eldest princess can share happiness, but it is impossible to share hardships.
So in the second half of the marriage, he chose Cai Juying, who could serve him.
When Nan Jianlong understood that his "shared pleasure" and "common suffering" could not be realized in the same woman.
He chose the option to maximize the benefits, greedily dividing it in two, taking some from this person and asking for some more from that person.
Why are there fewer people getting married and more divorced now?
Because everyone may also want to understand that they do not have enough ability to deal with marriage problems. Rushing into marriage will often become a chicken feather, and finally secretly hurt the spirit, it is better to stop the loss in time.
As Li Zhongying, a psychologist with application, said: It is not enough to have love in marriage, but also to have the willingness and ability to live together.
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