Men focus on how to solve problems when they encounter problems, and this not only for themselves, but also for others. When he encounters a problem, he will lock himself up alone, think, think. When the lover encounters a problem, he will rush to give his own advice, teach the lover how to solve the problem, let the lover out, this is very right for the man, but for the woman, this is not what she wants.
Differences between men and women
When a woman sees that a man's approach is not right or makes herself dissatisfied, she will continue to talk nonsense, point, and even give her own advice, for women this is her care and concern for her lover, but men will feel that this is a kind of bondage, feel that they are manipulating themselves, and transforming themselves.
Men and women
There will also be such a situation between me and my mother, first of all, for our performance on the issue, for example, if I lose my ID card, my mother will say to me: Why are you so careless, why not put it away? How many times have I told you, don't throw things away, you are so careless.... Hearing these answers, I have been silent, I am also very impatient, my mother's answer has always been saying my question, how I am, I have also recognized my own problem, but my mother has been nagging, this is the reason for my impatience. My thoughts were to recall where I lost my ID and what I did after I lost it, and I was always looking for answers. This is the way I approach problems, and I'm more rational.
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Another example is my father and mother, they will also have a different way to face the problem, once lost a chicken in the chicken pen at home, the mother likes to blame the father: you always like to procrastinate, careless, and so careless, now it's good, the chicken is lost, it's really angry. Mother means that it is your responsibility to lose the chicken, and you are fully responsible, because your carelessness and lack of seriousness have led to the current results, and you have to correct your shortcomings. And the mother's words say a word "always", which is an exaggeration of the father's behavior, a denial of the father. In the face of his mother's rebuke, the father will retort: If you lose it, you will lose it! No chicken can't live anymore, right? The father's words are a kind of dissatisfaction with the mother, he does not like the way the mother speaks, but also expressed his own views on the matter, thinking that it is no big deal, there is no longer a need to raise, this is to focus on the problem, but also show the father's more rational side.
To understand each other is to cherish each other
Just mentioned a word "always", this deliberate exaggeration is also a common way for women, and men are also very repulsive to this way of speaking, so sometimes when arguing, both sides will not stop. Like me, after playing games for a day, my mother would scold me and say: Play games every day, it is not good to learn what will happen in the future? I will retort: Where there is a day, isn't it just a day? I will not accept this kind of nonsense, and my mother's intention is not to chew words, but to tell me not to play games, to do something else! This is also another difference between men and women.
Like the little friends can click a note, we will continue to take you to explore the differences between men and women in the next issue.