The road of interest is much narrower than reading, and strong family foundation, talent, enthusiasm, and diligence are indispensable. Ordinary people should be cautious in their decision-making, and they must not smash the pot and sell iron on the interests of children, and make desperate bets.
Author: Jing Si, an independent writer, has a son, and has published works such as "Key Breakthroughs: 25 Sharp Tools to Solve the Essence of The Problem" and "A Long Life, To Live a Sense of Luxury" and so on. If you like the Blue Oak article, remember to "star" us!
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In two months, the 2022 Beijing Winter Olympics will open. Currently, the men's ice hockey team is training in Russia.
In this team, there is a person whose name is particularly eye-catching, he is Yingda's younger son - YingruDi, who fought for the country as the captain of the Chinese men's ice hockey team.
Father Indah personally served as team leader
Born in 1998, Ying Rudi is the child of Yingda and his current wife, the famous screenwriter Liang Huan.
Compared to the other star generations, the public knows very little about him. It is not that the Indah couple "hid well" from this son, but that he did not appear in the public eye. Yingru Dysprosium embarked on a career path that was very different from many star generations - ice hockey players.
YingruDi began to learn to skate at the age of 3, and played it for several years. Later, an ice hockey coach felt that his innate conditions were more suitable for engaging in ice hockey with stronger strength, and Yingda suggested that his son turn to ice hockey, but he did not expect that Yingrudi not only liked ice hockey more, but also achieved good results.
Ice hockey is also a niche and high-end sport in China today, not to mention that more than a decade ago, resources and environment were more scarce.
No conditions? Then create the conditions. Yingda united with a group of parents who love ice hockey and spontaneously established the Beijing Tiger Boy Ice Hockey Club in Beijing. The son played in the team and soon became the core of the "Tiger Boy Team", while the old father Yingda personally served as the team leader.
His father became a "migratory bird" and his mother gave up his career
So burn money, all for the child to produce results
The domestic training environment will soon be unable to meet the progress of Yingrudi.
The ice hockey powers are none other than Canada and the United States, and if you want to achieve results, you must come to these two countries to receive professional training, and you must participate in more competitions to be possible.
At the age of 9, Yingrudi was sent by her parents to study and live in Chicago, the United States, where ice hockey is developed.
In the past ten years, we have rarely seen Indah come out as an actor and director, at most participating in or hosting programs. One of the main reasons why he faded from the public eye was that the whole family played ball for the sake of their children, focusing on foreign countries.
Ice hockey comes with a money-burning attribute. More than a decade ago, YingruDi's training fee in China started at 30,000 yuan, and helmets, masks, skates, clubs and other equipment were easily purchased.
Later, he sent his son to the United States to study and train, and all the annual expenditure was not less than 400,000 yuan. In an interview with the media, Yingda also said that from the time his son began to practice ice hockey to now, at least tens of millions have been spent.
Yingda, the main money-making force in the family, began a monthly trip to and from Chicago and Beijing for many years, while receiving programs to earn money to support the family, while also trying not to leave the company of his son.
I know a girl who plays on an ice hockey team at a college in the United States, who grew up practicing ice hockey and often plays in the United States and Canada. She told me that the first meaning of playing hockey is: to have money.
And his wife Liang Huan undertook all the training, study and life of YingruDi in the United States, and contributed almost all of her life.
(Couple watching their son play)
Liang Huan graduated from the Department of Chinese of Peking University, joined Ying's Film and Television Media Company as an artistic director and screenwriter, and successfully created well-known sitcoms such as "I Love My Home" and "Idle Centaur Sister". At first, she did not approve of her only son playing ice hockey, and he was bitter and tired, and he was particularly unpopular.
But later, she gradually put all her energy into her family and son, from a talented girl who did not eat fireworks in the world, to a virtuous mother who washed her hands to make soup and laid a good foundation for her son's hard practice of cooking skills.
Fortunately, Yingrudi did not live up to the expectations and efforts of her parents and made remarkable achievements in ice hockey:
In 2008, when Yingrudi was 10 years old, Yingda served as the team leader at his own expense, and together with the coach, led the Tiger Boys to Canada to participate in the North American Ice Hockey Children's World Championships. Among the more than 100 participating teams, the Tiger Boys stood out and won the championship in one fell swoop, and YingruDi was named the best scorer;
After this battle, in January 2009, the Boston Bears of the NHL (Major Hockey League) League officially issued an invitation to Yingrudi to join the team's junior team;
On the 18th birthday, Yingrudi signed a two-year contract with Beijing Kunlun Hongxing Club, becoming the youngest professional player in the club with a high salary of 980,000 yuan per year;
In July 2020, Yingrudi was selected for the men's ice hockey training list of the Winter Games Center of the General Administration of Sport.
The success of the child,
Behind it are the sacrifices and supports of parents
Yingrudi turned her hobbies into professionals, and behind it was a path paved by a huge amount of money and the sacrifice of her parents' careers. Turning your interest into a professional, or even a skill, is a must.
Just like some time ago, the F1 (Formula 1) race finally ushered in the first Chinese driver, the 22-year-old Zhou Guanyu and his sponsors signed a three-year contract with alfa Romeo team with a sponsorship fee of 30 million euros (about 210 million yuan), becoming China's first F1 driver.
Zhou Guanyu is known as a "paid driver", "paid driver" in the racing industry belongs to the "conventional operation", bringing money into the group does not mean that the driver's skills are not good, racing is a very money-burning sport. From the training of drivers, the cost of the journey to the sponsorship that the team hopes to get, if there is no strong funding, no matter how talented, it is difficult to get ahead in this industry.
Zhou Guanyu was born into a non-professional racing family, as a layman who spent more than ten years to the position of F1 professional racing driver, indispensable talent and hard work, but more inseparable from strong capital support.
At the age of 8, Zhou Guanyu tried to ride a two-seater kart for the first time in the company of his father, and he liked it very much, and since then he has started his racing dream. In order to facilitate the training of the car, Dad built a karting track for him for professional training. However, in more than two years, 10-year-old Zhou Guanyu won all eight races of the National Karting Championship, showing the talent of the driver.
At the age of 11, he went to Sheffield, England, while studying abroad and training professionally, and with his excellent results in british and European junior karting competitions, he eventually became a Ferrari youth driver, and all the way to become today's F1 professional racing driver.
Over the past fourteen years, Zhou Guanyu's progress is inseparable from the financial support of his parents. Building a driveway for his son, buying him an F2 UNI-Virtuosi team ("UNI" stands for "Universe"), pulling sponsorship, at least "burning" hundreds of millions of dollars. Without this money, it is impossible to cultivate the current "first person in China's F1"
Zhou Guanyu's parents
But in the middle of the transition from hobbies to professional players, it is enough to pay more than just picking up and dropping off children to and from interest classes every week, and spending more than 100,000 yuan to teach children every year. It often requires at least one parent to give up a lot of things and devote themselves to the cultivation of their children.
The father of the famous swimmer Fu Yuanhui gave up his job very early in order to take care of his daughter. In order to facilitate the care of her daughter, she walks around her every day and works for her daughter. Her daughter follows wherever she goes, rents a house wherever she trains, and serves as her private life consultant, massage therapist and other multiple identities.
Zhou Zhifang, a 16-year-old Chinese figure skater who won the World Youth Championships figure skating championships, and his mother is a high-achieving computer student from Tsinghua University who worked at Silicon Valley Oracle. Such a promising woman, in order to be able to drive 6 hours a day to train him, gave up her career when the child was eight years old.
Later, in order to let her son concentrate on training, the mother took Zhou Zhifang to move to Southern California, and her father and sister stayed in Northern California, and the family lived separately.
The wife resigns and devotes herself to the cultivation of the children, the family income is sharply reduced, and the high risk of investing in all that may not have results. Parents need to pay the strength of the flood to cultivate the courage, ability and boldness of professional players, which not every family can afford.
Zhou Zhifang's mother was interviewed
Ordinary families cultivate children's interests
To have a strategy, but also to let go of obsession,
We spend 20,000 or 30,000 yuan a year on the cultivation of children's interests is the starting price, and the cost of middle-class families to report interest classes to their children every year is as high as 100,000 yuan, hundreds of thousands of yuan is not a minority. We inevitably cling to a utilitarian spirit, hoping that the time, energy and money invested will be rewarded, and we will be able to pass the examination, participate in the competition, win the prize, and even become a professional player. But more often than not, it backfires.
Professor Ronald Ferguson, who has been teaching at Harvard University for nearly 40 years, mentioned in the book "Parenting Rules for High-Achieving Children" that most parents rely on tactics to raise children, such as buying school district houses, cultivating specialties, and enrolling in tutoring classes; but excellent parents rely on strategic and tactical parenting methods.
There are two main pillars for parents who strategically raise babies:
The first pillar: full knowledge of the child.
Many parents apply for interest classes for their children, although they have invested time, energy and money, most of them hold the psychology of "following the trend", "following the crowd", and adding points to entering a good school.
Over the past fifteen years, the authors have interviewed nearly 200 high-achievers whose parents, without exception, recognize their children's uniqueness and are good at discovering their children's potential. As Professor Ronald said, "Parents are first and foremost students of their children". More important than throwing money at it is to strategically understand your child's interests and tap into their potential.
Just like Zhou Zhifang's parents once reported to him baseball, basketball, swimming, tennis, skiing, chess and many other interest classes, finally the parents saw the child's talent and enthusiasm, and asked him to choose one of his long-term hobbies in football and figure skating.
Before playing ice hockey full-time, Ying Rudi also showed a superhuman talent in piano. But considering the limited energy of people, Indah finally persuaded his son to give up the piano and devote himself to ice hockey training.
The second pillar: the timely upgrade of the character.
Parents of high-achieving children will never have only one kind of "human design", they are in the role of "flight engineer" and "rescuer" at some stage of the child, find that the child needs help, intervene immediately at the right time, and ensure that everything is normal; in another stage of the child's growth, it will become a "philosopher", "global positioning system" and other roles, telling the child how to see the world, how to recognize value, how to live a good life, or when the child is alone, to echo to show the child the direction.
Eight roles of parents
In other words, parents should not see themselves as an executor in nurturing their children's interests, but as an organizer, constantly seeking and reaching cooperation. As children learn better, the role of parents continues to escalate, and they must know how to advance and retreat. Pay attention to the transformation of your own role. For example, from "organizer" and "overseer" to facilitator, resource provider, etc.
Whether it is to explore the uniqueness of children or to be able to change their roles in a timely manner, this is a high demand for parents. Therefore, in the matter of cultivating interests, if the child can become a professional and live on this, it is of course very good, but parents do not have to hold too strong utilitarianism. From interest to specialty, to professional skills, it is a difficult road that requires many elements and full efforts.
We spend money and time cultivating these interests of our children, even if they cannot be made to live in the future, at least they can become an embellishment on the future life path of children. When they need it, they can find another channel of expression and expression for their lives through notes, colors, and sweaty movements, and enrich their spiritual world.
That's enough!