Ha Wen, a woman reused by CCTV, served as the general director of the Spring Festival Gala for two consecutive years, known as the "National Virtue and Art Shuangxin TV Artist", and in 2003, as the producer of the civilian talent show "Very 6+1", he was unanimously praised by the audience.
However, she has produced many excellent shows on the screen that make people laugh, but in reality she has suffered a lot. She is a strong woman in her career, but she also has to become a passive bearer of suffering.
"In the United States, after 17 months of anti-cancer treatment, on September 25, 2018, at 5:20 a.m., I will never lose my love..."
The famous female director Ha Wen issued the heaviest condolences a few days after the death of her husband Li Yong from cancer, and the short four words of "Never Lose My Love" already contained Ha Wen's regret that he could not join hands with her husband in this life.
Once upon a time, the two were not recognized by Li Yong's parents, and because of this, Li Yong at that time did not dare to take her home until she was later licensed to marry.
Now that Li Yong has passed away, leaving the second elder behind, he heard the news of his son's death and once fell into a coma. Ha Wen knew that the pain of losing her son was no less than the pain of losing her husband, so she dialed Li Yong's parents when she was most sad in her own heart and comforted them:
"Mom and Dad, although Li Yong is no longer here, you still have me and your granddaughter." I will always be the daughter-in-law of your Li family. ”
Ha Wen then told Li Yong's parents that in this life, only Li Yong was in his heart, he would not marry again, and would honor them well and give them a pension to send them to the end. Later, whenever the second elder received a call from Ha Wen, he always cried uncontrollably, unable to say a word, which was the grief of losing his son and the guilt of this daughter-in-law.
Later, when they mentioned Ha Wen's daughter-in-law, Li Yong's parents always proudly told them that Ha Wen was a good daughter-in-law in the world. But it is also true that she chose to be widowed for her deceased husband, and treated her in-laws as if they were her own children, so affectionate and righteous, virtuous and filial, and also rich in learning and knowledgeable, like her daughter-in-law, it is difficult to find in the world.
Now that her husband Li Yong has died for 3 years, and in these more than 1,000 days and nights, Ha Wen constantly recalls the past, recalls the love that began with a bouquet of flowers that year, and falls into the whirlpool of memories to find the shadow of her husband's past.
In 1987, Ha Wen and Li Yong were both admitted to the broadcasting department of the Communication University of China, and the fate quietly came, and this year the two became classmates, and the story of the first opening of the love dou also began.
At that time, Ha Wen did not understand what love was, but was bent on his own profession and studied well; and Li Yong also liked to be alone, and the happiest thing was to carry his drawing board to CAFA to learn to paint.
Until one time, when Li Yong was in a professional class, he noticed this girl named Haven, and his eyes stayed on her delicate face and gentle smile, and he felt very attractive to see Ha Wen's serious class, and the appearance of Ha Wen that day projected a ray of light on his lonely days.
In order to attract Ha Wen's attention, Li Yong, who has never liked to speak in class, began to become active and active, and after a period of unrequited love, he finally began to take the initiative to talk, but he was always shy and timid to say a few words to Ha Wen, but it was such a few sentences, and the two gradually became more familiar than before.
But if you really like a person, how can you be willing to become just ordinary friends with each other? So at a class reunion, Li Yong tried to summon up the courage to invite Harvin to dance together, and Harvin agreed.
He also took the opportunity to ask her about the ideal type in her heart, and Ha Wen decisively said that he had to get at least one meter and eight standards, and Li Yong was slightly disappointed after hearing this answer. But after a while, he asked Harvin again about the minimum standard, but in fact, she had already seen through his mind in her heart, and bluntly said that one meter seventy-five could also be.
"I just finished my physical examination last week, and I happened to be 1.75 meters tall," Li Yong said happily like a child. But in the face of such an indirect confession, Harvin was overwhelmed for a moment, and did not respond directly to him, but instead smiled and did not speak.
Later, Li Yong sought various reasons to ask Hawen to go out for a walk together, but he was rejected several times, and later Hawen directly confessed to him that his father would not let her fall in love at school.
At that time, Li Yong did not know that Ha Wen's father was a high-ranking official, and his family was far richer than his family. As a hairy boy with a buddy heart, where will he know that love and door to door are this thing.
It's just that I feel in my heart that I especially like the girl in front of me and hope to be able to be with her. In his opinion, consensuality is the right thing he thinks, and it is also the most extreme romance.
"You think I'm good, I think you're good, what could be more appropriate than that?" Li Yong seriously told Harvin that he really liked her, and also claimed that he would not delay her studies, at this time, Harvin looked at the serious boy with a shy look, and his heart could not help but start to stir.
I can't say which moment it was, or maybe it was at this moment that he quietly slipped into Harvin's heart and provoked her to run wild.
In 1988, Li Yong confessed to Haven again, he picked up a bouquet of wild flowers he had personally picked, and told Harvin that if he wanted to be his girlfriend, he would pick up the flower and stay still if he didn't want to. Haven hesitated for a long time, and did not want to miss this long-term boy, went out to pick up the bouquet of flowers, and soon the two entered a state of hot love, becoming the most important first love in each other's lives.
After graduating from college, Li Yong wanted to take Ha Wen to meet her parents, but Li Yong's family was far less wealthy than Ha Wen's family.
In the face of such a "golden and expensive" daughter-in-law, the second elder who has always had traditional ideas, was very afraid that Ha Wen, the big miss, would bully his own son, and bluntly said that he did not agree with them and hung up the phone immediately, so Li Yong did not take Ha Wen there for a long time, nor did he dare to mention it to the second elder.
The denial of this determination is indeed a bit disappointing, but perhaps it is well-educated, perhaps it is loving The House and Wu, Ha Wen is particularly able to understand the decision of Li Yong's parents at that time, and has never quarreled with Li Yong because of this. It was not until 1992 that the two decided to get a license to marry, and Ha Wen followed Li Yong back home to meet the second elder.
She has always had a frank personality, and the first sentence she said when she met Li Yong's parents was: "In the future, as long as he does not leave me, I will definitely not fail him." Harvin is also determined to prove his commitment at this moment with practical actions in the future.
Li Yong's two sisters listened to her and admired her generous speech, so they constantly urged their parents to relax and accept this future daughter-in-law.
Facts have proved that people who love each other are never separated by the disparity of identity, and the best door-to-door pair in the world is not the equality of materials, but the same of the three views.
On September 26, 1992, with the efforts of the two, they finally ended their love run, registered their marriage, and officially became husband and wife.
At that time, the two of them had nothing, and Li Yong could not afford to buy anything particularly valuable for Ha Wen; but then Li Yong and Ha Wen had everything, and under each other's encouragement, they became better people, Li Yong became an excellent host of CCTV, and Ha Wen also became a director from the editor-in-chief of the column.
"When we first married me, we didn't have anything, which really wronged you, and now I want you to marry me again."
In 1996, After li yong got married, she confessed to Ha Wen again, and bought a diamond ring for Ha Wen to make up a set of wedding photos for her. Over the years, from nothing to everything, harvin's company is indispensable, and he will definitely not live up to this woman who accompanies him to suffer.
In 2002, the two also ushered in the birth of their daughter Fatoumai Lee, adding a lot of joy to the family. But later, they had everything, but because Li Yong was unfortunate to have cancer, they once struggled on the edge of pain.
In the end, the couple decided to take their daughter to the United States, where the daughter studied, and Li Yong continued to receive treatment in the hospital during this period.
At the same time, the two did not want their parents to worry, so Li Yong and Ha Wen unanimously decided not to tell the two elderly people in the family for the time being, but since their family went to the United States, the second elder missed it very much, so in order not to let them worry, Ha Wen called them as soon as he got free to report that he was safe.
But Li Yong's body deteriorated day by day, and whenever he answered the phone, Ha Wen always couldn't help but want to cry, but he had to pretend to be strong and hold back tears to say something happy to the second elder. After the fight, there were unstoppable tears, but she didn't want Li Yong to see it, and every time she dried her tears, she smiled and went in to take care of him and tell him about the latest situation of her parents.
Strong in front of people, tears after people, this is the state of Ha Wen's period, the heart is stinging with the deterioration of Li Yong's condition countless times, and then her husband Li Yong died in the world, she was very sad, but life still has to go on, can only swallow all kinds of sad tears in the stomach, clenched his teeth, took care of his daughter, and also followed her husband's will to do a simple funeral.
When he was young, he promised the second elder, but later he also achieved perfection, and he was devoted to taking good care of them and the daughter of her husband Li Yong. After Li Yong's death, Ha Wen replaced her husband Li Yong and gave them money on time every month.
Now 3 years later, the pain is still faintly painful in the hearts of Ha Wen and Li Yong's parents, but death does not mean the end. Although the departure of her husband has brought him a painful blow, but As a wife, but also as a mother and a daughter-in-law, this family still needs her to support, so in the past three years, Ha Wen has constantly comforted the second elder and given Li Yong's parents meticulous care, just like treating their parents.
Many netizens have lamented that Ha Wen, as a daughter-in-law, can still do so much after the death of her husband, while a large part of the children of today's society do not know what filial piety to the elders, and even harshly criticize their parents, in fact, they should feel ashamed of their behavior, which is true.
At the same time, Harvin also taught his daughter with his own practical deeds, which is more useful than the teachings of a thousand words in the world.
The daughter of the two, named Fatoumai Lee, was also admitted to Columbia University last year, and now she can be called blue and better than blue, and she has achieved academic success, but Harvin's education for her daughter is more than that.
Under The reminder of Ha Wen, the daughter often calls her grandparents in addition to studying, gossiping about her daily study, making the second elder often laugh.
Under the affectionate infection of the daughter-in-law Ha wen and the granddaughter, the pain of the loss of the son of the second elder has been slightly alleviated, otherwise this long road of life, how to ignite hope. After all, the greatest sorrow in this world is that the white-haired person sends the black-haired person.
Now, when Ha Wen and his daughter return to China to visit their relatives, they follow the tradition of Li Yong's lifetime, first going to her in-laws' house and then to her own mother's house. And Ha Wen's title for the in-laws is always the original "mom and dad", and every time the second elder listens, he always can't help but cry, which is touched and is also an expectation for the family reunion.
Since the death of their son Li Yong, the second elder has no idea what reunion is, but fortunately, with Ha Wen, a good daughter-in-law, they have new expectations for reunion. The reunion that used to be waiting for the son's family to return is now waiting for a phone call between this daughter-in-law and granddaughter, and a return home.
In this regard, it also verifies what Ha Wen once said: Li Yong will never marry again after leaving, so that the in-laws who have lost their children will not shed tears in their old age.
Life, old age, illness and death are the laws of life, but tomorrow and accidents we never know which comes first, so living well in the present is the advice given by the old man to our younger generation; but the sorrows and joys of human beings are not the same, and only those who have experienced it can feel it.
Li Yong died for 3 years, his wife Hawen, daughter Fatoumai Li and Li Yong's parents all missed him, but when Li Yong's most beloved daughter, a girl who lost her father at a very young age, wanted to live well with her father's love, she was constantly criticized by netizens, accusing her of not living so luxuriously, and even engraved a tattoo of the moon.
But there is more in this world than they know, Li Yong's daughter, this seemingly rebellious girl in her bones, is just thinking about her father in her own way.
Hawen sent out a set of moon photos a hundred days after her husband's death to express his thoughts about her husband, Fatoumai Lee was not as subtle as his mother Havin, but boldly showed the crescent moon tattoo around his waist that day to express his love for his father Li Yong.
"I gave all the good in the world to my daughter, loved her in a different way, and finally raised her to become the smartest, happiest, happiest, and most beautiful girl in the world."
This is the biggest expectation that Li Yong gave her daughter before she died. How could the "happiest and prettiest girl" stop? Fatoumai Lee comforted his deceased father with his most stubborn and strong side.
The girl's mind is so simple, but a moon representing acacia in the traditional Chinese sense is regarded by netizens as too indifferent to her father's death, and even stands on the moral high ground to criticize this daughter who was deeply loved by Li Yong before she died, which can't help but make people chill. Perhaps only through personal experience can there be empathy.
In the year of Li Yong's life, in 2017, their family of three was also questioned like that. At that time, Li Yong's family of three appeared on the streets of the United States, and the media made up facts, and many netizens commented on liu Yong's family for making enough money on CCTV and moving abroad.
However, facts speak louder than words, and Li Yong and his wife, who have always been innocent, did not stand up and respond, but lived their own lives, after all, time will prove everything.
It wasn't until the "death notice" in 2018 that netizens understood why Liu Yong's family appeared on the streets of the United States in the first place. However, during Li Yong's 17 months of anti-cancer treatment, he was greatly questioned by the outside world.
So now when her daughter is under attack, Harvin gives her the greatest tenderness, affirms her, encourages her, and after the death of her husband Li Yong, daughter Fatoumai Lee has become the only sustenance in her life.
The greatest love given to the child in this world is not to make her become the look of her parents' blind expectations, but to protect her while giving her the greatest freedom, so that she can love, to experience, to feel the truth, goodness and beauty of all things in this world, so that she can obtain spiritual wealth and soul sublimation, so as to be independent and friendly and generous.
"Good parents are watching over their children and letting their children grow up on their own initiative; bad parents do things on behalf of their children and let their children grow passively."
Harvin was both a good wife and daughter-in-law and a great mother.
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