The friend who mixes with him all day is a "nickname friend" (according to the classification of Su Jun in the Western Jin Dynasty, it is in line with "willing to talk like a rap, the game is conscripted"). A person with wisdom and humor should not pursue or be satisfied with becoming a "nickname" of others, but should point out when friends have mistakes and be a "fearful friend" of friends (that is, "moral contradictions, fault rules"). However, there are many people who are reluctant to become "fearful friends", the reason is that they are afraid of causing displeasure to each other because of criticism, and then causing rifts in their relationships. This fear is not without merit. But if you sit back and watch your friend go wrong, and wake up when your friend is stuck in a difficult position, it is estimated that your friendship will come to an end.
Therefore, what should be pointed out should still be pointed out, and what should be criticized should still be criticized. However, the way it is softer, more subtle, more interesting - these are the best tricks of "humor".
Oral preparations of proprietary Chinese medicines and Western medicines, because of their bitter taste, are mostly coated with a layer of sugar coating to facilitate oral administration of patients. Humor in modern life can also have the effect of sugar-coating "good words". People use humor to express the meaning of ridicule and criticism is an art of life, and it is the need for harmonious interpersonal relationships.
If the other party is wrong, we should let the other party correct it, but if the method is too extreme, it may make the other party's face hang on, and the person who is embarrassed and angry will insist on his mistake more, which will not help. Therefore, smart people will choose humorous language to remind each other and save face for each other. This is because laughter is the most deprecating thing, and in laughter, stubborn people will also become cute.
A young man took the manuscript of the piece to see the famous composer Rossini and played it on the spot. Rossini took off his hat as he listened. The youth asked, "Is it too hot inside the house?" Rossini said: "No, I have a habit of taking off my hat when I see acquaintances, and in your song, I have met too many acquaintances and have to take off my hat frequently!"
The young man's face blushed, because Rossini used humor to euphemistically tell the fact that he had copied other works.
Using this expression, you can not only use euphemistic and implicit words to set off hints, cleverly use logical concepts to criticize and refute the negotiating opponents, but also ensure that the relationship between the two sides will not immediately become tense due to criticism and rebuttal.
We criticize others, usually motivated by the other person's improvement. Whether the object of criticism is relatives, friends, colleagues, subordinates, or strangers, we should take care not to stab each other's self-esteem, so that it is impossible to be remembered and hated. If the self-esteem of the other party is stabbed, even if the other party is an open-minded person, it will inevitably affect the future relationship with the other party.
Criticizing with humor will minimize the negative effects of criticism. The use of humorous language can imply the original intention of the speaker, and there are words in the words, and the intention is not words.
When a college student graduated, he copied a graduation thesis from an academic website to fool him. He gave the paper to his supervisor. The supervisor flipped through the paper, smiled, and said, "Yes, I think it can be published on the academic network." The college student blushed. The instructor said, "Let's revise it again." The college student went back with shame and gratitude, and finally wrote his thesis seriously.
The desire to use humor is not a patent of adults, and children's use of the power of humor can sometimes be very effective.
There is an alcoholic who covets the contents of the cup and often misleads things when he is drunk. His wife tried to persuade him many times, but he couldn't listen to it. One day, the man's son said something to him, which greatly shocked his soul and resolved not to drink again.
It turned out that his son said, "Daddy, I'm giving you a compass." Boy, you keep it to play, I don't need it.
"Don't you often get lost when you come out of the bar?"
There is also a humorous story about a young couple who are worried about their father and mother, and even give their father and mother some leftovers in broken bowls every day.
The young couple's five-year-old son always said to Grandpa every time he ate, "Be careful! Don't break the bowl. After repeating this sentence many times, the young couple finally asked their son curiously:
"Why do you care so much about those broken bowls?"
"Because I'm going to keep it for you to eat in the future." Son said. The son's words made the young couple wake up.
With sleek technique to express criticism, humor is a good choice, both to point out the other person's mistakes and to maximize the preservation of the other person's self-esteem.