Children always feel that they can't learn what to do

Zhiya deeply raises the score

The child is in his third year of high school, and he comes home and says that his mother does not want to go to school, this learning will not be my learning, and your collapse as a mother is not it?

There are many such children, especially the children in the second year, the third year, the second year of high school, and the third year of high school, and these children are mainly emotional problems. Don't you feel good about studying! Today the teacher takes you to analyze the reasons, other children, faster than him, learning better, ah, but your children do not have confidence. Children love to compare with others, in fact, this is the norm, because when people survive in this society, they will compare with their peers, peer pressure is always there, and it is impossible not to care about others at all.

The problem of children's mentality is greatly affected by parents, and parents must have a growth mindset. Don't be afraid to encounter problems and analyze how to solve them. Don't care about the result, give the child a little more confidence, a little more patience, don't drag the child forward, the more the child learns, the more the child learns, the more the child is not far from the collapse. The problem of mentality is also a problem of parents, parents often pay special attention to the results, pay attention to the score, never pay attention to the learning process, and some parents will pay more attention to the external view of the child, the good side of the parent will affect the child Oh. If the child is very good, the parent's colleagues, relatives said: your child is very good, very well-behaved, very obedient, the grades are very good, the parents hear such information, parents especially hope that their face will always be saved, thinking that the children are so good, we can't shame people, right? But if the parents have this kind of thinking, the child will be stressed and will care about the opinions of others. Parents face is not important, the child's happiness is the most important, do not use other people's ideas to influence the child's behavior, do not face, do not consider being ridiculed by others. Don't care what others say about you. This is aimed at the family as a parent. The mindset of our parents is particularly important. If you are very concerned about other people's praise for you, when you point at you, the child will care, especially the parents' mouths of those other people's children, when you intentionally or unintentionally say about other people's children to your own children, the child will invisibly feel that I am not good, I am not good enough, I am not as good as her. The core point is. Parents should not be too much in a face problem, children learn that the child is more important face is not important. Because the learning process is something you can control yourself, the result is something you can't control. After you work hard, you will definitely be able to get a good exam, and the results are certain, but you are not hard, and there will definitely be no results. But now many parents and children are too concerned about the result, the child will feel that the effort is useless in the future, I have worked hard like this, I will not work hard in the future, you will form that kind of rollercoaster fluctuations. The child said that the recent exam was not good, the mood is particularly sad; this exam is particularly good and special hi, in fact, the most taboo to learn is this. The child's mentality will rise and fall, this mentality is only bad for the child's learning is not good, we need a normal heart, then how to let the child get this ordinary mind is very important, very heavy point is to let the child put his focus on his own behavior, put on some of his own learning content, rather than pay attention to whether he can take the exam well in the future? What results must I get in this exam, how many places must I rank, and what results must I emphasize? None of this matters. As long as your habits are OK, the methods are used, the knowledge points you will be, you will not have those big problems, your habits are better. Ok, how could you possibly take the exam badly? It is impossible to pass the exam. You will all be, you will do how the questions come out, and you do not have these sloppy questions, how can you take the low score? It's hard, it's impossible if you want to get a low score. You figured out the process, we have the result of this, how do those children usually come to him, the pressure of his peers is very large, and the teacher will have a variety of exams after high school, a small exam a week, a big exam a month, and then what? What exams are there once a semester and a half, right? As long as there is an exam, there is a score and a ranking. Originally, the pressure of peer competition is very large, and parents should not give pressure anymore. Instead, it is to give him a comprehensive role. Make your mentality more normal, don't pay more attention to the results and pay more attention to the process, and the child's mentality will stabilize.