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Male, 45 years old, university culture, career manager. Female, 42 years old, nurse, technical secondary school education. 15 years of marriage, 12-year-old boy. The man complained that in the past year, the sexual function situation has deteriorated, and due to the increase in work tension and social interaction, the fatigue after returning home is obviously wanting to sleep.
In the past, I could basically live a sexual life every 2 weeks, the time of sexual intercourse could be maintained at about 5 minutes, and the wife could basically meet, but now the hardness and duration of penis erections have declined, and the regular situation is that the penis enters the vagina for less than 1 minute, and the penis is weak before ejaculation.
The patient himself also realized that there must be a problem with the sexual aspect, probably because of the stress of work and poor rest, so he deliberately took a leave of absence for a month and went out on vacation with his wife. During the break, although his wife was gentle and considerate, his penis erection did not improve much, and after several failures, he was very depressed, irritable, and often lost his temper.
After the end of the vacation, after returning to the company, he was emotionally unstable, often reprimanded his subordinates, and sometimes became angry with customers for no reason, and the company colleagues felt as if he had changed into a person, very incomprehensible. Because of his sexual obstacles, he was reluctant to face his wife, and often went to bars at night to drink and returned late at night. Sexual dysfunction caused a bad mood, which directly affected his work and family. His boss talks to him, and if this situation continues, it will affect his future and his job. So he walked into the clinic with a very complicated mood, he said that he is not like a man now, sorry for his wife and family, but also lost his initiative and work motivation, and even wanted to become a monk.
The above example is a situation that we often encounter in outpatient clinics, where many men do not properly deal with their sexual problems, and at the same time they are ashamed to talk about it and avoid medical treatment. Push yourself from a sexless man to a "sub-man". "Sub-men" is a concept proposed in recent years to refer to such a group of men who have been in a state of sexual dysfunction for some time or all the time.
This state makes them have a low quality of sexual life and are unable to even have sex. This disorder leads to a series of physical and psychological problems. It is mainly manifested as guilt, inferiority and lack of self-confidence and the resulting abnormal mental symptoms such as anxiety, impatience, pessimism, and depression, which in turn produces a great negative effect on their families, careers and interpersonal relationships.
Our definition here is very clear if sexual dysfunction does not have a negative impact on a man's survival status. They are not "sub-men", for example, many elderly people, they are not sexually capable, but they are still living well, then this group does not include them.
For young and middle-aged people, losing sexual ability without affecting the quality of life is generally impossible. Sex refers not only to the art of making love, but also to personality, emotion and wisdom. When a man's sex is problematic, their value orientation will change, thus losing the inherent "personality mask" of men. Sex is instinctive and original, and its duty is to pursue pleasure. This piece occupies a large part of a person's psychological structure, and the loss of sex will inevitably lead to serious anxiety, irritability, low self-evaluation, and lack of self-confidence.
For men with sex loss, we must give treatment from both psychological and physiological aspects. Physiological treatments are now abundant. The development of oral medicines, injections, external drugs and traditional Chinese medicines is changing with each passing day. The vast majority of psychological and mixed and organic erectile dysfunction can be treated well.
We face more or patients' psychological problems, a big feature of men when they have sexual disorders is depressed mood, no confidence, he is afraid of not being able to cure the disease, unable to face the family and the future, which makes his situation more bad. We say that building your confidence is a good cure for sexual disorders.
Living in modern society, men will always encounter pressure from all directions, whether it is emotional, family, social pressure or work, life, environmental pressure makes people feel limited, bound, and produce countless troubles and worries. Short and longer periods of sexual dysfunction occur more or less throughout a man's life, so you must learn how to reduce your stress and worries, face reality, cannot escape, actively seek medical advice, and seek advice from a doctor.
At the same time, you must be kind to negative emotions, when you are in the low tide of emotions, you must be good at digesting and transferring this emotion. Sex is very important for men, but it is not the only one, and it cannot bring about the loss of self-confidence, values, and personality because of the loss of sex. Asexual men are unhappy, but if you push yourself to sub-men, it is a lifelong sadness.
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Jiangmen Central Hospital Reproductive Medicine Diagnosis and Treatment Center
Brief introduction: Liao Yongbin, male, chief physician of urology, vice president, general manager of the reproductive center, doctor of medicine, enjoys special allowance of the State Council. Lingnan famous doctor, standing committee member of Guangdong Urology Society, vice chairman of Guangdong Andrology Society, member of Guangdong Organ Transplant Committee, standing committee member of Guangdong Provincial Association of Integrated Traditional chinese and Western Medicine, vice chairman of Jiangmen Medical Association Surgical Society, chairman of Urology Branch of Jiangmen Medical Association, member of Asian Urology Society. In 1985, he began to engage in research and clinical research and clinical andrology in Shanghai Renji Hospital, and in 1996, he went to Shanghai Renji Hospital to study andrology, and systematically studied the basics of male endocrinology, spermology, reproductive genetics, embryology, sexual psychology, and human assisted reproductive technology. Initial knowledge of georology related to artificial insemination, clinical skills and laboratory procedures and specifications. In 1997, he went to Peking University Hospital for further study, and mastered the diagnosis of male infertility and male sexual dysfunction and various clinical operation skills. In 2000, he visited Yingge Hospital in Singapore and Chang Gung Linkou Hospital in Taiwan to learn human assisted reproductive technology. He also visited the First Affiliated Hospital of CUHK, Chongqing Maternity Hospital, Xi'an Tangdu Hospital, and the Affiliated Hospital of Hainan Medical College to learn about the construction and management of reproductive centers. He has published many andrological papers and medical experience in magazines and newspapers.