The end of a relationship often stems from perfunctory.
However, people who are caught up in feelings are often not blind, but unwilling to accept the fact that they are perfunctory.
Loving and giving with enthusiasm, but getting a perfunctory word, or all kinds of humble flattery, but not getting a little love.
When he wants to leave, he becomes enthusiastic again, making you feel that you are finally waiting for the spring to reconcile with him, and he becomes perfunctory again.
The things that have been promised, not once have been fulfilled. Open the chat history to find that he has always been the one who took the initiative to find him, and his reply is either um, ah, or expression, the word is too lazy to type one, and finally even perfunctory, often half a day or no reply.
I am constantly disappointed, and I hope that this relationship can be cultivated to a positive result, painful and tangled, it is very painful to love, it seems that I am reluctant to let go of love, I always make excuses for him, I want to try again, in case I am an exception.
Friend Junjun, like a man for three years, the two people have established a relationship, but he always said that he was busy at work, there was no time to take her to see her parents, let her wait, wait until three years passed, the man went home to kiss and proposed to break up, turned around and married another woman.
Looking back, I found that the attitude of the man together was very perfunctory, never cared about her feelings, and the words she said were never fulfilled, they were all painting cakes. Monthly income of more than 10,000 yuan, buy her 20 yuan of jewelry, not even a box, but also joyfully show off to her, think it is very good to her.
She was embarrassed to dislike the cheap gifts he gave to her face, and after receiving them, she didn't know where to throw them, and she never wore them once.
It's not that men don't know what she likes, but they don't care about her needs, want to take the minimum investment in exchange for what he wants, and don't care if it's what she wants.
She was also stupid enough not to even be able to distinguish between perfunctory, and thought that their feelings for each other were weak, and they didn't have so much passion to get along, but they didn't know that he didn't want to marry her at all, and turned around and married someone else.
In fact, in the relationship, the perfunctory man who does not want to marry you at all, don't love.
The perfunctory man who thinks you're "cheap" and he doesn't have to bother to get you.
Why the man who the friend likes dares to send her 20 yuan of jewelry is nothing more than thinking that he can get what he thinks by spending so much money, and the friend will not dislike him because he spends less money, nor does he dislike him for not loving enough.
If a man thinks that you are "cheap" in his heart, he will no longer spend his mind and investment, he can get you for dozens of yuan, and why spend tens of thousands of yuan to create romance for you.
A few sweet words can be confused, he will not reflect on his own behavior, he will not love you with his heart, nor will he put love into action.
Men in the relationship will measure the value of the woman in front of him is not worth his pay, weigh the pros and cons will make the most favorable choice for themselves, will not be like women only love other things are behind.
Once he decides that you are "cheap", his attitude towards you is very perfunctory, you will not be angry about what you do anyway, and you will eventually forgive him, he can easily get it, and how can he cherish it.
Perfunctory your man, eating you without boundaries and principles.
In a relationship, each person is tempting each other, trying to see how the other person reacts, and then deciding whether they want to do anything to maintain the relationship.
The man who dares to perfunctory you, he has become like this after testing your bottom line and principles.
Many women and men do not dare to express their true opinions, nor do they dare to put forward their own needs, because they love someone too much and become without bottom lines and principles.
When men touch their own bottom lines and principles, and dare not let men pay the price, or do not know how to make men pay the price, afraid of losing him, constantly give in and compromise, and turn themselves into a "weak" person, men become more and more intense in constant temptation.
Women who are perfunctory by men will not be valued and cherished, that is, men know that you are very foolish, slap and then reward a sweet date to be satisfied.
Men don't need to spend their minds and energy, and they don't have to care about women's feelings, he just acts according to his own ideas, he doesn't perfunctory who you are perfunctory?
Perfunctory men, the heart does not approve of you.
If a person truly loves you, he will approve of you, even if you have a lot of shortcomings, he can accept it, and he will not feel that there is anything wrong, but from the heart to respect you and appreciate you.
However, the perfunctory man who is miserly with you shows that he doesn't love you very much, but you are too easy to get, and he has not met better before making up with you.
If you don't recognize you, you don't want to pay for you, and you don't care if you leave or not.
If you change a lover he approves of, he will become another person, a person you don't know at all, desperately trying to be nice to others, and what you can't ask for, others can easily get.
This completely different treatment is like the difference between a man's wife and a lover, a man is stingy with his wife to say more than one word, but desperately sends money and gifts to the lover, saying all kinds of meaty love words to the lover.
Because he doesn't approve of you in his heart, no matter how good you are to him, he can't see it, and he won't leave you until you still have use value. When he meets someone he approves of in his heart, he becomes ruthless.
The most important thing about a relationship is actually a response.
If a man is only perfunctory and doesn't respond to you, then stop expecting him to marry you, he doesn't love you, doesn't approve of you, thinks you're "cheap" and he won't marry you.
Even if you love him deeply, you can't withstand his perfunctory blow to you, full of enthusiasm is poured with too much cold water, the heart will be cold, the pain is still yourself.
Writer Wu Tanru said: "Loving only one person in a lifetime is a very beautiful thing, but there is no need to force it, and it is not necessary to be stubborn." You should be in love with your heart, and you can also be obsessed, but you can't be too obsessed. ”
The feelings between people are mutual, they need to be responsive, they need to be sincere for sincerity, rather than perfunctory again and again.
No matter how much you pay, the man does not know to cherish, only knows to be perfunctory, do not expect his response and love, because when two people have nothing to say, they are already strangers.
Then don't love, stop loss in time!
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