Freud has a very classic story: a three-year-old child in a dark room, the child shouted: Auntie, you talk to me, I am afraid.
Auntie said: You can't see me, what is the use of me talking?
The child said, "When you talk to me, there is light."
That is to say, when I am in the room and I talk to you and you respond to me, then I feel that although I am in the dark, I feel as if there is light in the room. So, that's the difference between responding and not responding.
When you live in a responsive home, it means you live in the Light. And if you live in a family that doesn't respond, you're living in a desperate situation.
Cai Kangyong, in an interview, mentioned the idea that I encourage everyone to be a cold person, and being too enthusiastic is not a way for a person to maintain a good relationship.
Coldness is not indifference, coldness is not as ruthless and cruel as indifference, and even no emotion at all.
The novel "The Indifferent Man" is written about the tragedy caused by indifference of a family, when indifference is manifested in a person, there may be room for salvation, when a family member cares for each other and ignores each other, this is the fatal poison.
1) Indifference is a sin
"This is my real crime... I am guilty of indifference...", it was no one else who said this, it was Michelet, the protagonist of "The Indifferent Man".
The Indifferent Man is a classic that has been circulating for nearly a century and has been hailed as the first existentialist novel in Europe.
Its author is alberto Moravia, a famous Italian novelist of the twentieth century, whose works have had a major impact on Italian literature and even in the world literary world, and many films have been made into films.
He has written nearly eighteen novels and twelve short story collections in his lifetime, which dissect people's despair and anxiety, explore the value of human social existence, and reveal the absurdity of the world and life.
Michelet has long been tormented by the spirit of high society. There is no passion, lack of faith, muddled life, in the face of changes in the family, he shows indifference, blindness, indifference. In the midst of bitter doubt, he judged himself: I have committed the sin of indifference.
2, apathy is because there is no sense of responsibility
Some people say that indifference is innate, and some people say that indifference is acquired. Whether born or acquired, indifference has become the state of life of modern people.
For Michelet, he was not born cold, becoming more and more indifferent because of his insecurity and love.
Leo is a spoon drill, cunning, absurd and shameless, the driving force of life is wealth and femininity, he coldly sees through the contradictions of this family, knows the weakness and weakness of Michelet's mother, and uses all means to trick their mother and daughter, while Michelet is blind to everything happening, indifferent and indifferent.
His indifference comes from a selfish mother and sister, from an emotionless family atmosphere; from an insensitive world.
He knew his mother's relationship with Leo's lover, and he knew that his mother's friend Lisa wanted to seduce him, and he knew even more that Leo coveted and possessed his sister, and he felt that he should not be so numb, they could sell the mansion to pay off Leo's arrears and live an ordinary life, but his mother and sister, who had become accustomed to the upper class, would only think he was childish and ridiculous.
Everything he did was motivated by action because of himself, not because of his responsibilities to his mother and family.
He wanted to put on a mask and pretend, to be as hypocritical as the people around him, but he hated it all from the bottom of his heart.
Once he was brave, he was actually the work of inner selfishness, so he became more and more indifferent.
3) The weaknesses of human nature are often fatal
The author himself puts it: "I wrote this book trying to solve my own problems without realizing that it was precisely the problem of the whole century. ”
Indifferent people are because of the lack of love in their hearts, for a family and society, there is no warmth and happiness, only selfishness and greed, and eventually they will be separated.
The root of indifference lies in one's own inner thoughts, and when money is becoming the yardstick by which all values are measured, one becomes very indifferent.
The house, family affection, love in the face of indifference, becomes the most worthwhile thing, then the brilliance of human nature will also be worthless.
Apathy is a social phenomenon and something that everyone should be vigilant about.
It is human nature to seek advantage and avoid harm, and people always like to accept things and ideas that make them comfortable.
When you really don't want to face it, you will take the initiative to choose to ignore reality, dilute it, and make everything look less important, so you will see some people who see injuries and do not help, and see death without saving.
Isn't this a lack of social responsibility?
Others simply choose to give up their vitality, have no vitality in their hearts, and let their inner world become dead and silent.
Without vitality, life will no longer be tossed, it will be quiet, and there will not be so many new hurts to bother your heart.
Born as a human being, living should be steaming, trying your best, rather than giving up coldly, it is better to enjoy a bo.