Some people say, never fall in love with someone at the age of 17.
Because that person will be the most loved person in your life.
Perhaps it is because at this age, people do not yet have the ability to fully recognize right and wrong and mature the three views.
Therefore, their views on things are often filled with their own first subjectivity.
Wonderful fantasies, simple hopes, passionate hormones intertwined.
It doesn't matter what the ending will be, but the process must be remembered.
Of course, in fact, everyone knows that adolescent love generally does not have results.
Especially when it comes to the Non-Sofis, it usually ends in tragedy.
Recently, the love affair of a 17-year-old teenager in Xi'an has led to a tragedy.
On June 1, a 17-year-old boy Xiao Ren in Xi'an City, Shaanxi Province, reported that he had an unethical relationship with his 38-year-old aunt (Liu Mou).
It is understood that Liu and Xiao Ren's hometown are in the same village, and when they were young, the two also recognized gan relatives (relatives who are not related by blood).
Liu is a teacher and staff of a school, watching Xiao Ren grow up from childhood, before Xiao Ren also called Liu an aunt (equivalent to Xiao Ren is Liu's nephew or nephew).
The two began to fall in love half a year ago, and the chat was full of ambiguous words.
Moreover, in this half a year, Liu mou sent red envelopes to Xiao Ren many times, accumulating more than 5,000 yuan.
But what is even more shocking is that Liu mou is actually a married woman.
Infidelity, sponsorship, incestuous love, teacher-student love...
I have to say that these two are really going to play,
The public's ordinary outlook on life and love has been violently trampled on.
However, the two are still a little ashamed, and they do not make the relationship public, but secretly carry it out.
However, paper can not contain the fire after all.
One day, Liu's husband inadvertently looked over his wife's mobile phone and found this incomparable love affair.
Liu's husband looked at the chat records of the two and trembled with anger.
Since the two families' hometown is a village, Liu's husband not only knows Xiao Ren, but also knows Xiao Ren's father (Mr. Ren).
Subsequently, Liu's husband angrily went to the door, found Mr. Ren and said that his 17-year-old son had an ambiguous relationship with his 38-year-old wife, which had seriously affected his family and marriage relationship.
After Mr. Ren clearly heard Liu's husband's intentions, the whole person was confused.
His 17-year-old child, falling in love with a 38-year-old aunt recognized in his hometown village?
And this aunt is still married!
What's that called?
Mr. Ren hurriedly called his son and asked if this matter was true.
But perhaps out of fluke psychology, or perhaps because of the fear that things will make a big deal, Xiao Ren will not admit it.
In a fit of rage, Mr. Ren beat the child, slapped him twice, and kicked the child.
However, what no one expected was that after being educated by his father,
Xiao Ren embarked on the most extreme path: jumping off a building to commit suicide.
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This is the death certificate of Xiao Ren, 17 years old, on April 5, 2021, fell from a height and was injured.
In an interview with the media, Mr. Ren believed that Xiao Ren's aunt seduced his son and was the main reason for the incident.
Mr. Ren also told reporters: "I really don't know anything, if I knew, I would guide the baby, and talk to the baby, about the two people in love is not common sense this kind of thing." ”
In any case, Xiao Ren's death is still regrettable.
But from another perspective on the matter, the vulnerability of a 17-year-old is palpable.
He simply does not possess the psychological endurance of this ethical relationship when it is exposed.
Or maybe the two slaps under Ren's father's anger became the last straw that crushed the camel.
After Xiao Ren jumped off the building and died, the mobile phone in his pocket was also smashed.
After repairing Xiao Ren's mobile phone, Mr. Ren saw the complete chat history of the two in the mobile phone.
"Whether I'm divorced or not, we can't be together, it's just that now, you feel sorry for you if I don't divorce."
It's true that it's not fair to you now, so you want me to get a divorce and then a guy watching you step into your relationship and get married, are you going to be so cruel? Look at me with nothing, nothing more? ”
In addition to Xiao Ren, Liu Mou is still relatively rational, knowing that the two cannot be together after all, and also knows that the love between the two is a mistake:
"You think it's unfair to you, but I'm a big bad person, I'm on both sides, no matter who I love you now, I'm not right, it's hurtful to either side." 」
I'm sorry, you said you were hurt, why shouldn't I? Whoever we are trapped in, we can feel it ourselves. You used to say you like me, now you say you love me, are you sure? You're afraid that we'll go to public together, and sometimes holding my hand will inadvertently let go, and you know that we can't stand up to the world after all. We were wrong at the beginning, I refused to let go, but I felt more and more that I couldn't go wrong anymore.
And Liu Mou, because of the relationship of cheating, also feels that he hurt Xiao Ren and his husband.
But Liu is 38 years old and should understand the pros and cons.
Falling in love with 17-year-old Xiao Ren, engaging in ambiguity, and sending red envelopes, is this not playing with fire and self-immolation?
Didn't she know how big and terrible this fire was.
They are all decent people who want to face, the cheated husband and the student's father have a good relationship, how should the two families meet in the future?
In reality, when such a thing happens, it is estimated that no adult can bear it, let alone a minor appointment.
17 years old, the best age in life.
It is a bit sad that such a tragedy has occurred today, bringing endless sorrow to the two families.
In fact, this whole thing, Liu should bear more responsibility.
17-year-old boys, a lot of things are half-understood, and self-control is not high.
Underage, the three views are not fixed, where can resist the temptation of mature women?
On the other hand, Liu Mou, a 38-year-old mature woman, faces the little boy of the children's generation,
Whether it is feelings or experiences, it is a kind of dimensionality reduction blow.
Of course, Ren's father's educational methods are also debatable.
Perhaps when communicating, Ren Father can not move, try to be as peaceful as possible, Xiao Ren will not jump off the building.
But the root cause of this matter still lies in liu mou, a "dry aunt" who indulges his own desires, breaks through the moral and ethical bottom line, and does not respect himself and loves himself.
But then again, people are already dead, and there is not much point in pursuing right and wrong.
However, we can learn from this:
Parents should establish a correct outlook on life and love for their children from an early age.
Includes some knowledge of sex education.
Many parents are embarrassed to talk to their children about sex education, worried that their children will be affected by mistakes and make them precocious.
In fact, today's children have learned a lot.
Even if parents don't say it, they will take the initiative to explore on their own.
Instead of letting children explore without protection, learn from their parents.
After all, parents can tell their children the relevant details in a measured manner, which can protect their children to the greatest extent.
In addition, when it is found that children fall in love early (teenagers under the age of 18 fall in love with early love), parents should also be guided in time.
The first is to respect, care for, understand children, and strengthen emotional communication.
In addition, it is also necessary to help children improve their awareness, face up to early love, and contact the teacher in time to guide children to participate in various activities and transfer emotions.
The most important thing is to encourage children to bravely face reality and solve problems.
It is necessary to give children enough time and space to think, face, and solve, so that their own internal factors can be transformed.
Self-change is the most preferred way to cure the root cause.
Finally, do not sneer at your child and use excessive language; or just forbid guidance and limit your child's activities and scope.
After all, it is better to block than to loosen it, and it is a reason for Dayu to rule the water.
Source: Yue Reading Digest, Author: Jiang Huoying, this article was first published by She Yue (ID: yikange)