preface:
It is a very normal thing for a husband and wife to quarrel, and there is no couple who does not quarrel.
There will inevitably be bumps in life, and small noises will make feelings more solid.
Each other knows each other's intentions will cherish this relationship more, only those who can't argue and scold are true love.
Two people together need to be slowly run-in,
Only after understanding each other's temper and personality can they occupy a certain position in marriage.
Our tongues will touch our teeth, not to mention the quarrels between husband and wife.
In fact, the quarrel is not terrible depending on how two people resolve the contradiction between them.
Even the best couple can't live without arguing, and when they quarrel, two people need to pay for their words.
And quarrels do not need to be practiced, but the mood and feelings at that time, opening your mouth will be gushing endlessly.
In the process of quarrelling, women's emotional fluctuations are often larger than men's, and the time to be angry will be prolonged.
So it also takes a while to calm the mood.
If there is a contradiction, it will become very simple for both parties to be able to correctly deal with the problem of life.
If two people do not solve the blind cold war, no one cares about the other,
In the end, there will be a crisis in this relationship, and in serious cases, the two people will definitely go their separate ways.
Many women will always do things with a momentary impulse,
Such an approach will only push the man farther and farther away, and finally regret himself.
Smart women know how to grasp the scale because they know that marriage needs to be managed.
1. Divert your attention
Two people just finished arguing, each other are angry at this time do not quarrel with men,
When many women encounter things, they like to reason with men and have to understand this matter.
In fact, just after the fight, this time is not clear at all.
As a result, two people will often become more and more fierce and hate each other more and more.
There are also many women who like a life sullen after quarrelling, and do not choose to continue to entangle with men,
Such a long time will describe this problem, can not come out.
After having become a family with you, the first thing is to divert your attention.
You can think about who is wrong and who is right in this matter, and then listen to songs and watch TV.
Don't let yourself be emotional, if you want things to be handled properly, you must first let yourself go.
After calming down, the two of them will talk about it again.
2. Find the cause of the fight
The first time after the quarrel, we should find the reason for the quarrel.
Because two people can't argue for no reason, it must be a problem in some link.
Think carefully about who caused the quarrel, and how to avoid it in the future.
Different causes will have different solutions, and they may wish to be more tolerant and understanding.
Take the initiative to admit your mistakes to each other, so that the relationship between each other will get better and better,
After the contradiction occurs in the future, the two people will definitely choose to solve it by communication.
3. Take the initiative to break the deadlock
After the quarrel, many women feel that they need a man to coax themselves, whether right or wrong.
In fact, this idea is wrong, in the relationship two people are equal.
Since you cherish this relationship and since you don't feel the need to stick to it, we might as well take the initiative.
Take the first step, calmly go and have a good talk with him, this time just give him a step down,
Two people can be dissolved very quickly, so we don't want to die and face the guilt.
There is no need for husband and wife to quarrel and win or lose, you don't have to divide you high and me low,
You might as well calm down and talk about it to break the deadlock.
There is no husband and wife in the world who do not quarrel and two people will always encounter contradictions together,
And quarrels are a means of solving problems, so quarrels are not terrible, terrible how to solve problems.
Arguing is actually not a wrong thing, and being able to solve each other's problems immediately can promote mutual affection.
It's better than some people networking better at expressing serenity.
And once there is a dispute, two people can know where the contradictions between each other are,
Conclusion:
Smart women know how to use soft kegang to exert women's unique personal charm,
Hopefully all women will be able to have this and not yell at a quarrel like a bitter woman.
This will not only not make men feel sorry for you, but will also make the relationship become estranged.
Therefore, smart women often have to use smart methods to solve their feelings.
The Cold War will make the feelings between two people more and more withered, so that the interaction between two people is more and more qualityless,
Let the love of two people become more and more distant.
END.
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References | Journal of consulting and clinical psychology