There is no need to look at themselves only through relationships and other people's evaluation preferences, whether others are satisfied, whether they like themselves, (and let all others like just to satisfy narcissism) is their business, and has nothing to do with "me". It is important to give yourself a fair and confident definition with the help of strong facts.
Kind, serious, devoted, hardworking, professional, optimistic, positive, humorous. These are all advantages that everyone may have, and there are many. It is also enough positive energy for those around you to feel. There is no need to just get caught up in emotional feelings, just as children expect the satisfaction and joy of their parents. I have grown up with enough ability to eat on my own. Please compromise and get out. The desired harmony does not exist at all. It's a fantasy
Always wanting to get permission and approval from authority in everything is really a child's psychology. This is playing a psychological game again, because some authorities are themselves narcissistic, like self-righteous control, command, and advice to others, so it just caters to the psychology of people who are eager to appreciate praise and affirmation. Both sides are satisfied with each other, satisfied with their own psychological emptiness, but they both feel good about each other.
Feel that everything is right, others are wrong, they are all good, others are useless, feel that they are victims, the responsibility is someone else's, such a person, still in the narcissistic period, can not and is not willing to take responsibility for their own choices and actions in life and work, but in this way to evade responsibility, and blame others. I also clumsily want to make the other party feel guilty in this way, and leave the person who was "harmed" by him to his side. Because ta really can't rely on strength to retain people. If the other person feels guilty, the purpose is achieved, what a perfect mental game.
Therefore, the other side of the game must also be an individual with a rescue plot, no self, the inner self does not know who he is, relying on the evaluation and dependence of this person on the outside, to find a little sense of existence (in fact, the other party is also through the only remaining childish denial of this kind of denial to suppress judgment and victim psychology to shirk responsibility, to obtain a little bit or self-confidence). Therefore, the two people who are mentally depleted internally need each other and try to falsely support themselves.
