Li Dong was a classmate of mine in high school, and these days Qingming returned to his hometown early and talked about him and his leaders during small talk.
In the early years, Li Dong was still working in the workshop, once the company organized staff activities, Li Dong's writing ability played very well, was favored by Minister Liu of the Propaganda Department, so soon after Minister Liu under pressure transferred Li Dong to the Propaganda Department as an officer, Li Dong was very grateful to Minister Liu for this matter. The year before, Li Dong was transferred to the factory office because of his outstanding ability and became a subordinate of Director Shen of the factory office, who also liked Li Dong very much.
But recently he found that Minister Liu had alienated him... As soon as I learned about it, I learned that the two leaders had a personal grudge very early, so Minister Liu thought that Li Dong had fallen to Director Shen.
In fact, the trigger for this incident was after the annual meeting at the end of last year, when it rained, Li Dong gave Director Shen an umbrella, but he did not see Minister Liu who was raining in the distance, and the misunderstanding began. Moreover, Minister Liu also said on many occasions that he had seen the wrong person, saying that Li Dong was ungrateful... Li Dong was very sad after knowing this.
Working hard in the workplace, we will inevitably encounter this situation, and those who handle it well are happy, and those who do not handle it well will even intensify contradictions and disperse without joy.
Something similar happened to me, and once the leader instructed our group to do a good job of sanitating the gymnasium and preparing for the inspection of the city. We divided the work in the group, I was in charge of the bathroom, but the cleaning aunt was cleaning that day, and told me that there was no problem, she had been cleaning for four years. Other colleagues were too busy to work, so I helped other colleagues clean up. Later, when the leader came to check, he found that the bottom and corners of the bathroom sink were not cleaned, and immediately blamed me. I am so sad about such a misunderstanding...
Because this matter is still my mistake in the final analysis, I can't shirk responsibility, otherwise it will make the leader think that I am an unreliable person, so I tacitly accept that it is my responsibility.
After returning to the office, I first carefully summarized it and wrote the summary in my work notebook. In the next step, I was more careful to avoid similar problems from happening again. Later, I participated in the county job skills competition and won the "first prize in the comprehensive".
After returning to the unit, I immediately reported to the leader, who was very happy and said that he wanted to reward me. I thanked the leader, and then objectively expressed to him the last "misunderstanding" incident, the leader said that since the matter has passed, I also made a summary, and then do a better job is the key. Finally, my leaders and I successfully turned the gang into a jade vessel.
Years of workplace experience have taught me that misunderstandings are not terrible, and if you do the following 6 points patiently, the leader will look at you with surprise.
1. Face to face, do not refute
As far as I encountered that incident, if I rushed to explain it to the leader in person, the leader would think that my sense of responsibility was not strong and not practical enough, after all, the facts of the work results were in front of me, and if I did not do a good job, I did not do a good job.
The most terrible thing is that some people are eager to refute it, and they have persuaded the leader in front of many people, so that the leader feels that he has lost face, and since then, this person's position in the leader's heart has plummeted.
Leaders least want to hear explanations when you make mistakes, and least like subordinates to shirk responsibility.
Therefore, for any misunderstanding of the leader, don't rush to explain, first.
2. Calm down and reflect on yourself
Many young people in the workplace are post-90s, and there are many people who hold the mentality of "it doesn't matter" and "resign from the big deal", which is really dangerous. When encountering something that has been misunderstood, I will definitely be very depressed and excited. As employees, it is actually a good thing for us to experience such things, which should be understood as a "setback education".
There must be a reason for being misunderstood by the leader, first find the problem from yourself, calm down and seriously reflect on yourself. Li Gan's problem is that he did not maintain contact with the original leader after leaving the original leader, which led to a series of speculations. My problem is that I should have done it myself but didn't do it myself.
A series of questions behind it shows that others will not misunderstand you out of thin air. If we can be more serious and consider more comprehensive when we do things, we may be able to avoid these misunderstandings.
Reflecting on yourself is not just a matter of brainwashing, this kind of reflection should be formed into a paper manuscript, including what happened, why, and what to do in the future... That is to say, it is necessary to form ideas and methods for improving work.
3, do a good job of the original self, do not be misunderstood by misunderstanding
First of all, adjust your mindset and don't immerse yourself in the shadow of being misunderstood for a long time. I am still me, and I can't hold a grudge because I am misunderstood by the leader, and I treat it with a normal heart. What to do, how to face the leadership before, is still the same. See the leader take the initiative to say hello, and the work arranged is completed in quality and quantity.
Second, since misunderstandings have already arisen, we cannot let them get bigger. When others are spreading this misunderstanding, if you still fan the flames, it will only make the situation more serious, escalate the contradictions between you and the leader, and cause serious consequences. Therefore, we must speak according to the facts, and make it clear to others that it is my fault that the leader is right, which also prevents others from saying bad things about you in the leader.
4. Prove yourself with your work performance
Leaders are generally results-oriented leaders, and the results of their work will be very important in their eyes.
If you usually work hard, but can not produce good results, coupled with previous misunderstandings, this will make you in the leader's heart of the score is greatly reduced; if you work hard, many times to complete the work is excellent, then the leader even if it is not appropriate to praise you, will also add points to you.
Be careful, we will find those excellent people around us, what are they doing when they are scolded and misunderstood by the leader? Are you busy explaining to the leader or admitting your mistakes and continuing to work hard? The answer is obvious.
Therefore, don't pay too much attention to the misunderstanding of the leader, and only when the work is successful can there be a good chance to freeze the previous suspicions.
5. Find the right opportunity to have a good chat with the leader
When you have a job to do well, it is a good time for you to explain to the leader.
At this time, you bring the results of your work to report to the leader, and the leader is in a good mood. Then explain to the leader with a sincere attitude that the last misunderstanding was done, and the incident was... The reason is... I have deeply realized my mistakes, and I will...
Imagine when the leader is in a good mood, and then hear you humbly admit your mistakes, what is your feeling in your heart, and you admit your mistakes in person, which shows that you respect the leadership, and at this time you add points.
6, after the fact is still a "good friend", never mention the events of that year again
And the leader "ice release of the previous suspicion" is very valuable, through the misunderstanding of this matter, invisibly enhance the relationship between the leader and you.
Frankly speaking, it is important for people in the workplace to understand that it is important to be low-key, and choosing to forget past misunderstandings and not mention it is a quality. It's hard to get the approval of others, so keep a low profile, even if you're not aggressive when you're reasonable.
It is inevitable to be misunderstood by the leader, and we employees must learn to use reasonable methods to remove the misunderstanding and not let the misunderstanding become a stumbling block on the road to their own workplace growth.
This article provides some practical methods:
If you deal with the matter of lifting the misunderstanding, it will turn into a jade, promote the development of your relationship with the leader, and also benefit your career development, so don't run away from the problem, the solution is another piece of the sky.