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In The Art of Love, Fromm argues that love is not an emotion that has nothing to do with one's maturity and only needs to be invested in the body and mind. Fromm went on to argue that love is an art and requires those who want to master the art to have knowledge and make an effort. Here, love is not just a narrow love between men and women, nor can it be obtained by honing and improving skills. Love is the manifestation of personality as a whole, and to develop the ability to love, it is necessary to strive to develop your own personality and move towards beneficial goals.
Love is an active concern for life and the growth of what we love. If there is a lack of this positive concern, then it's just an emotion, not love.
On the first day of 2021, the first book opened was The Art of Love, which featured love as the theme for January. Many people think that love is an easy thing, but it is not, love is an art, it requires knowledge and effort. And many people often understand love as being loved or the object of love, or confusing the experience of the initial love network with long-lasting love. Re-reading the book, I want to share the three points mentioned in the book.
1. People usually think of love as "being loved", not whether they have the "ability to love".
Most people prefer to think of love as a matter of being loved rather than as a matter of love, i.e., as a question of the ability to love.
For them, love is how to be loved, how to be loved.
Under this perception, people tend to achieve what they think of as "love", that is, how to be loved.
Men will choose to improve their social status and wealth to attract beautiful girls, and women will gain men's favor by grooming their appearance. And mature love is a union under the condition of maintaining one's own dignity and individuality.
Treating love as being loved is often a need for oneself, a conditional love. For in the beginning, the way they receive love is achieved in exchange for mutual superiority.
And once women's youth and beauty are gone, or men experience career changes, the love between them ceases to exist. Such conditional love often does not stand the test of time.
What kind of love can stand the beating of time? It must be an active active activity, a practice of one's faculties, which can only be achieved in freedom.
All forms of love contain the same basic elements: care, responsibility, respect, and understanding. Love is based on self-confidence in one's abilities and the courage to rely on one's own abilities to achieve one's goals.
2. It is not those who have a lot of money that are rich, but those who give generously are rich.
In our understanding all along, love is to get, to enjoy the care and care of being loved, to enjoy the feeling of being loved and cared for, so that we can get love and harvest love.
But in fact, this is a wrong perception, in contrast, love, first of all, to give, not to get.
"Giving" is the highest measure of an individual's strength.
A person who only knows what to have but does not know how to give and does not know how to give is not a true rich person; but a person who is willing to give his things to others is a real rich person.
In the process of giving and giving, he feels that he has the power to help others, and experiences the joy of helping and giving.
We often worry that there is no return for giving, but we do not know that in the process of giving and giving, we ourselves have gained our own value, and we have experienced happiness that only those who take cannot experience.
And believe that love has the power to call for love.
In the process of giving, we share our interests, hobbies, knowledge, and a series of living things, and this is a process of improving the sense of life.
The other party will also evoke the inner vitality and the power of love because of your giving and sharing.
3. A mother must not only be a "good mother", but also a pleasant person.
Maternal love is an unconditional affirmation of a child's survival and his or her needs.
On the one hand, it is an absolutely necessary care and responsibility (milk) for the protection of the child's survival and growth; on the other hand, it goes further than simple protection by instilling in the child the attitude of loving life (honey) and making the child feel that it is beautiful to be alive.
A mother must not only be a "good mother" (milk), but also a pleasant person (honey), which is not an exaggeration of the child's effect, and the mother's love for life can infect the child like a worry.
Both of these attitudes have a profound impact on a child's overall personality development, and it is possible to tell in children or adults who has only received milk and who has received milk and honey.
The essence of maternal love is to care for the child's growth, and this means that the child wants to leave her. This love demands the spirit of being selfless, demanding to give everything, asking for nothing but the happiness of the beloved. It is also at this stage that many mothers fail to fulfill their motherly responsibilities. In this sense, a woman who is incapable of loving is only a tender mother at a very young age, not a loving mother. It is the duty of a loving mother to take on the desire for separation and to continue loving after separation.
Throughout our lives, we live in pursuit of love and happiness. We must understand that love is pure and unconditional, learn to accept and respect, regard love as an art, to revere, to learn, to practice. Five-color books, colorful life! Delighted Reader: Anchovy Dragon Eye
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