Wen | Mother Alpaca (Original article, copyright belongs to the author)
Classmates often feel distressed because of the child's affairs, because the child always ignores him inexplicably, which makes him feel very difficult. One day a friend came to the classmate's house, and the classmate wanted to find his child to come out and say hello.
However, the child shouted several times as if he had not heard it, and finally the classmate forcibly arrested the child. Although the child also greeted the guest, it was obvious that there was some unpleasant expression on the guest's face.
Obviously, the guest must have felt that his child was rude. Afterwards, classmates also asked their children why they were like this, but the children did not know.
In fact, sometimes children do not care about their parents is not the child's lack of parenting, which is more likely to be "non-attention blindness". The so-called non-attention blindness is to ignore your attitude to a certain extent, because they are not noticed at all. Most children have non-attention blindness, which we usually don't notice.
1. When reading a book
When the child puts all his energy into reading, this time the parents want to let the child do other things, which is likely to make the child ignore the parent's ideas.
Because they did not feel the call of their parents, but put all their energy into reading, so that they have more or less neglect of everything.
2. When studying
When the child is learning, perhaps for reasons of nervousness, he puts all his energy into learning. At this time, if parents want to let their children pay attention to themselves, usually the children will not notice.
Sometimes parents will feel that this is rude to the child, it is not so, it is just that they really do not realize the call of the parents.
3. When playing the game
When children are obsessed with playing games, the call of parents also has no effect. Because at this time, children are putting all their energy into the game, even if the parents come to them, they can still turn a blind eye. So sometimes non-attention blindness is so terrible, and it's not the child's fault alone.
Non-attention blindness is actually a kind of mental fluctuation when children develop, in short, they focus all their energy on one thing, and they are indifferent to everything except this thing.
Even if you are kind enough to mention them countless times, they can still turn a blind eye. Many parents are not aware of whether their children have non-attention blindness, but we should better understand why non-attention blindness occurs.
1. Instinctively, I don't want to pay attention
There are many children who are not paying attention to blindness because they instinctively do not want to pay attention. It's like when we tie our kids' shoelaces, they don't put all their energy into us, but play with this and that.
This is typical of non-attention blindness, after all, they are not interested in the matter of tying shoelaces, so there is no need to concentrate.
2. Explore other things too much
When children explore other things too much, they also show a state of non-attention blindness. At this time, no matter how their parents tried to summon them, they acted as if they had not heard, or they had not heard at all.
It is also normal for children to spend too much energy on one thing, and they will have a side that is not interested in other things.
3. Ignore everything around you because you are curious
Another possibility is that the child is too curious about one thing, so he instinctively ignores everything except this thing.
Just like they especially like a toy, then they can do it, they will ignore the time, and they will ignore whether they have eaten or not. The reason why parents can't move their children is entirely because the children are immersed in curiosity.
Non-inattentive blindness doesn't seem to be too harmful, but once a child focuses on one thing and ignores something else, it's clear that the child's nature changes.
Not only will it be misunderstood as impolite, but too much concentration on one thing can also bring great trouble to daily life.
1. Divert your child's attention
When a child has non-attention blindness, we can also divert the child's attention to us by diverting attention. It's like a child is playing with a toy in his hand all the time, and we want to let the child eat.
We can grab our children's hands, gently pat them on the hand, and tell them, "Baby, it's time to eat, and play after eating." "We use body movements to attract children's attention, which is naturally easier for them to receive our message than verbal transmission.
2. Understand your child's interests
We also need to understand the child's interests, and if we do not understand the child's interests, we cannot change the child's non-attention blindness. Just like if children like to play with toys, then we should respect their ideas.
But while respecting the idea, we also need to let the child complete some beneficial things on their own, which requires our guidance. We watched the child silently, as long as there was no danger. When they get tired of playing, there will be no inattention.
3. Patiently educate children
We must be patient when educating such children, and we need to repeat what we say several times to make these children notice.
So the last thing we should do is to lose your temper, if you always lose your temper in front of the child, non-attention blindness can not be cured, but also because the child is too focused on one thing and does not perceive your anger, and finally scare the child.
Therefore, non-attention blindness requires good education to change, and we must not feel that this spiritual problem is a small problem. If it affects the daily life of children, it is destined to become a big trouble in the future. We need to always care about the child's mentality and emotions, so that we can better care for the child.
Today's Topic Interaction: What do you usually do if your child often reacts slowly and half a beat, or always ignores your answers? Do you choose to warn them directly, or do you educate them in an orderly manner? If you also have a solution to non-attention blindness, please discuss it with us. After all, there are many parents who are troubled by this.
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