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Have parents ever encountered this situation: when our parents are very anxious to wait for their children to go out, while the children are doing their own things in the corner, as if they did not hear the parents.
Parents will guess whether the child ignores them, or is unhappy with the child, in fact, the child may be "non-attention blind".
What is "non-attention blindness"?
"Non-attention blindness" in psychology refers to the phenomenon of not being aware of the conspicuous unexpected stimuli that appear when dealing with complex tasks because of the shift in attention.
So parents should not be too alarmed, the child did not respond, first see if the child is making trouble, and then consider "non-attention blindness".
Children appear "non-attention blindness" is not deliberately ignoring the parents, perhaps the child is not heard, will affect the child's normal life to a certain extent, too immersed in their own small world, in fact, will ignore a lot of scenery and opportunities, so parents should pay attention to it and help their children correct in time.
Children with "non-attention blindness" are not character defects, but children will be more exploratory in research and discussion or interest cultivation, as long as we parents give full play to their children's advantages, "non-attention blindness" to avoid harm, children will certainly be able to become excellent people.
(1) Insensitive to environmental stimuli
Children may be too focused on one thing and will be insensitive to the stimuli of their surroundings. For example, the child will play with his own toys or focus on observing a certain creature, at this time the parents suddenly talk to the child, the child will not respond for a while, the external stimulus shows a state of neglect, so that the parents will feel that the child does not respect or ignore them, in fact, the child is really not heard.
(2) The child stays in his own ideas and does not cooperate with the parents
When the child stays in his own small world, and for the parents' words or parents' guidance, they will choose to ignore, because the child is still stuck in his own ideas and ideas, and the child is more willing to do things according to his own ideas, so the child shows that he is indifferent to the parents' suggestions and ideas, and does not cooperate with the parents.
(3) The child is tired of disturbing
"Non-attention blindness" children especially have the spirit of exploration and research, once the child focuses on doing something, although the parents want to stop the child's behavior with various shouts to the child, in fact, the child especially does not like to be disturbed, and the child will be bored.
Therefore, when parents disturb the activities of "non-attention blind" children, most of them are exchanged for the child's reluctance and crying response.
There was a video of a "cash cow" on youtube, so Heyman and his colleagues tied $3 to a fork in a campus path to see if anyone could see the money or bypass the branches.
After observation, a total of 396 people passed under the tree, but only 12 people approached the branches, and everyone still bypassed the branches to ensure safety. This small experiment also enlightens us that people will only act according to their own needs, so "non-attention blindness" is also a child's choice to ignore external stimuli according to their own needs.
(1) Physiological causes
Because the child is still weak and the child's prefrontal cortex is not yet mature, the child's cerebral cortex is often in a state of excitement and is full of curiosity about anything.
Sometimes we feel that the child is focusing on one thing, but it is actually the child's curiosity that dominates, resulting in the phenomenon of "non-attention blindness".
(2) There is no context for communicating with the child
This refers to the fact that parents do not maintain effective communication with their children all the time, so that children will immerse themselves in their own small world, thus shielding themselves from external interference.
At this time, parents are suddenly talking to the child, and the child will be insensitive to the parent's instructions, in fact, it does not create a good communication environment for the child.
(3) Children have the habit of procrastination
Children are curious, will maintain a high enthusiasm when they are interested, and there will be delays in other instructions. Once the child has the habit of procrastinating on the parents' instructions, over time, he is not so sensitive to the instructions of the outside world, and he always feels that what he is doing at the moment is the most important.
(1) The child can be interrupted in a gentle way
For children in the "non-attention blindness" situation, parents should not disturb the child in a rough way, which will frighten the child and even make the child have bad emotions.
Parents should use a gentle way to interrupt the child, such as gently tapping the child's shoulder and then expressing it, which can slowly divert the child's attention and enhance the feelings between parents and children.
(2) Understand your child's interests
Children's curiosity is heavy, interests will be very extensive, want to try anything, parents should understand the child's interests and hobbies, play a positive role in "non-attention blindness".
Encourage children's interests and hobbies, so that it is convenient for parents to understand whether there is a danger to things that children are interested in, such as children playing with lighters or knives, parents should stop them in time to ensure their children's personal safety.
(3) Discuss with the child to temporarily suspend the activity
Once the child's activities are disturbed by the parents, the child will fluctuate emotionally. Therefore, in order to win back the child's attention on the one hand, and to appease the child on the other hand, parents can discuss with the child to temporarily stop the activity and play again after a while.
In this way, the child will feel that the parent respects his opinion, and the parent speaks to the child in a consultative tone, which will make the child more receptive and the child can be more cooperative with the parents.
Of course, this article analyzes the phenomenon of "non-attention blindness" that occurs in children, so that parents know that the child's "non-attention blindness" is not a defect, and it is just a good use of the child's "non-attention blindness" to stimulate the child's ability to explore and think about problems.
First of all, the performance of the child's "non-attention blindness" is analyzed, which can allow parents to accurately judge the reasons why the child does not respond to the parents. Then the causes of this phenomenon are analyzed to help parents find out where the root cause of the problem is.
Finally, parents are instructed how to deal with children in "non-attention blindness", so that children can avoid the shortcomings of "non-attention blindness", and can also make family relations more harmonious and conducive to children's growth. Finally, I hope that every child can maintain an exploratory curiosity and grow up actively and healthily!
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