Some people say that a good marriage is a backstroke, leisurely, comfortable, and can see the vast world.
A bad marriage is a powerless and consternation-filled process, a person who struggles there, who cries out, where he gradually falls silent.
Yes, a drowning marriage, no sound, no matter how you struggle, he, can't hear, can't see.
Marriage, from the day of its birth, is full of utilitarian overtones, a contract, a sign of the ownership of property, the product of private property.
It's just that human beings are always full of all kinds of ideas, and all kinds of reasons, or myths, woven to cover up some kind of real intention. These reasons, or myths, are love.
Marriage, therefore, was loved by both sexes, and was praised and beautified for tens of thousands of years, so it became an evolution with expectations.
To this day, we still hate those things that talk about money in marriage, because marriage is love, and how can love be measured by money.
However, there are still so many ancient sages who say that marriage is the graveyard of love, poor and lowly couples mourn, marriage is to live together...
Really, whether marriage is good or bad, it's just because, man himself. A good marriage must have met the right person. A bad marriage must have met the wrong person.
It's just that there is a kind of marriage that cannot be defined in terms of good and bad. It's like drowning, you're alone, you have nowhere to argue.
A drowning marriage is often a person suffering.
You see, in this world, no one can drown in place of another person, and then say, I know what it's like to drown. If there is such a person, everything has a chance to be saved.
In a drowning marriage, one party can't say that the other party is really bad, but it feels that everywhere is wrong.
For example, one party says I'm tired, the other says Oh.
For example, one party says you go and pour a glass of water, and after half an hour, you see the other party standing up.
For example, one party says you are driving too fast and turning too quickly, and the other party says that next time you will drive.
For example, one party said that it was going to be a holiday, and the other party said that there were so many stupid festivals.
For example, one party says that he has gotten up, and the other party has not moved for an hour.
For example, one party says.... The other side says you're set.
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Yes, there is no question of principle in the secular sense, but it is really full of holes. This kind of devastation is that there is no echo, it is sluggish, it is lazy to operate, it is the dilution of the role of marriage until it is absent.
This kind of marriage, as everyone says, died in a chicken feather, chicken pieces and dogs.
In fact, this kind of drowning, however, is that the marriage is empty. It is the deviation of the demands of both sides, and it is the perseverance of one party and the laziness of the other party that leads to obstacles to dialogue.
The long-term comfort of marriage must come from each other's accurate response. Once there is no accurate response, the enthusiasm of each other is lost.
Enthusiasm, yes, this kind of thing is just a little bit of a loss in the neglect of the other side again and again. This kind of marriage is like taking a chronic poison, and then you start to enter a state of silence, and then, it is silence.
No matter how hard you try to break this silence, as long as the other side is sluggish, then you will enter a state of drowning.
When you drown, you struggle and shout desperately, but people on the surface of the water cannot see or hear.
The feeling of powerlessness and panic probably stems from this.
In marriage, the party with a sense of drowning always has a heavier sense of responsibility, more expectation, and a more enthusiastic passion for life. However, this good boy can't even sort out the reasons for leaving.
This is the most incomprehensible place in a drowning marriage.
Because, once you complain one by one, others will say that you are too pretentious. That's all.