A red coat, galloping horses, although a woman, full of heroism!
The Disney version of Mulan has not yet been released to earn enough public expectations.
Unlike the "Mulan Ci" that we have been reciting since childhood, this movie is more about the process of Mulan's military service and achievements.
At the beginning of the movie, Little Mulan catches a chicken on the roof, making the neighbors on the left and right glance and shake their heads, and Mulan's mother clearly expresses this concern: Which man dares to marry such a girl?
Although the father's heart felt that his daughter was the best, helplessly in that war era when men were superior to women, a woman's job was to "marry well."
So although his father was reluctant, he still said to Mulan: You should not show your "anger", you should have the appearance of a girl, marry a good family, and win glory for the family.
Mulan listened, and she followed her parents' arrangement, smeared grease and powder, and took her sister to the appointment to go on a blind date.
Who would have expected the invasion of a spider to break up the blind date.
There was providence in the darkness, when the recruiting team came to give the order, saw the father dragging the mutilated body, and fell to the ground when receiving the will, Mulan was moved.
Father can't even complete the basic walk, how can he go to battle and kill the enemy?
After returning home, my father began to sort out his military equipment, and my mother told the sisters that he would not be able to come back this time, and we should be stronger.
Mulan couldn't help but go to his father, who took out the sword he had treasured for many years, and this sword was a reward for his military exploits for the country.
Mulan saw that her father's hand holding the sword was also trembling, and an unknowable thought silently surged in her heart.
Finally, after her parents and sisters were asleep, she made a bold decision: to join the army for her father!
Later in the plot, we can generally guess that Mulan made a first-class battle merit and was rewarded by Tianzi, but she chose to return to her hometown.
After returning to her hometown, her parents were proud of her, and the neighbors were also shocked by Mulan's heroic deeds.
The movie came to an end, but I kept thinking that Mulan was lucky, and Heaven gave her a chance to prove that she was no worse than a boy, which is a rare kind of egalitarianism.
Back to reality, how many women in the workplace can be treated completely equally?
Not to mention the collective discrimination of employment companies against the "married and childless" group, even in the family, in front of the closest people, married women are still difficult to get equal treatment.
It is the woman's fault that the child is not brought well, the housework is not done well is the woman's fault, and it seems that as long as it is related to the child and the family, it is the woman's responsibility.
People are not machines, everyone's time and energy are limited, since the family involves so much energy of women, then the work is not done well is also forgivable, right?
It is difficult to go to the blue sky.
The company does not like to use such people who can not devote themselves to work, the leader often has to work overtime, you actually told me that you want to go home to see the children?
In fact, standing in the position of the employer, it is also understandable, and the difficulty is the disaster from the family.
If your husband can't move, he says, what's the use of you making so much money? What are you doing every day? Why didn't you do it well?
I believe most women have only one belief in the face of such a family: to hold on for the sake of their children!
So someone on Zhihu posted a brain question and answer: If you could cross over to meet your 18-year-old mother, what would you say to her?
Among them, Gaozan's answers were almost all to persuade his mother not to marry his father, and even one of them said, "I will persuade her to leave the house!" ”
Some people would rather "sacrifice" themselves, "I hope you spend seven or eight years out to see and believe in yourself." Look at the outside world, meet people outside, don't listen to the words of your parents, and don't have to be pushed away. I'd rather I be annihilated in the world! ”
There are also people who say that "don't get married, do whatever you want!" ”
I have observed that many of the authors who answered the questions were just 18 years old, which means that these ideas were definitely not formed overnight, but were seen every day and night when they grew up: their mothers were dragged down by marriage.
If marriage is a siege of the city, then the city is basically full of women and children, and men will return to the city to rest when they are tired, eat and drink enough to go out of the city.
When the boys grow up, they will go out of the city with their fathers to play, and although the girls can go out of the city to see the scenery when they are young, they will eventually stay in the city in peace.
Some would say: the economic base determines the superstructure. It seems that women with good family conditions can make an exception.
I used to think so, but I slowly realized that it wasn't that simple.
Sometimes the drag of marriage on women is not that I can't buy lv and eat Haidilao, but a psychological inability to relax.
If I'm tired today and don't want to wash the dishes, the dishes will be in the sink overnight; if I'm too busy today to wash clothes, the dirty clothes will pile up on the balcony; if I have to work overtime and don't have time to clean up the house, the house is a mess...
And so on, are the "family trivia" that men are very dismissive of, and he can't understand why you should argue with him for these "family trifles"?
I remember when I was in my third year of high school, my mother came to accompany me to read, she told me that she saw that the landlord and his wife often quarreled over the problem of washing dishes, and then every time I wanted to argue with your father, I thought about the two of them, and I thought it was better to wash it myself than to quarrel.
This was when I was 18 years old, my brother was already 28 years old and had a long time ago, and my mother was still constantly compromising and accommodating in the marriage.
It can be seen that the poisoning of marriage by these "family trifles" is by no means as simple as men say.
Once I envied the star model couple Sun Li and Deng Chao, I think Sun Li is so lucky to meet a man who really loves her, this man was once very charming, but now he only loves her.
So much so that whenever the media said that Deng was off track, I didn't believe it, and afterwards it was confirmed that it was a scandal.
However, with the growth of waiting and Xiaohua, when Sun Li's left-handed family and right-handed career were busy, I found that Deng Chao was becoming more and more "childish".
Sun Li asked his gynecologist friend to help him make an appointment for a general physical examination, but he ran to the door of the gynecology department and waited for the old man for half a day, and said that no one paid attention to him, asked him why he did not ask, he said he would not.
I don't know whether Sun Li spoiled him into a big child, or he never grew up, in short, their family seems to have only one adult, Sun Li, and the other three are children.
As the old saying goes, poor couples mourn.
Most families have broken away from the level of "poverty" when they realize today's material conditions, but the sublimation of material conditions does not represent spiritual liberation.
In the 5G era of such a developed technology, how many excellent women are still troubled by marriage, tied by "family trivia", and imprisoned by "husbands and godsons"?