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The child's feelings are really the purest, when he was a child, whoever took him with his heart will leave the most precious emotional memory in his heart, and he will kiss whom from the heart. If the mother is busy with work when the child is a child, or wants to be lazy to avoid the hardships of taking the child and throw the child to the elderly, then be prepared for the child not to kiss himself.
A friend of mine went to work after taking maternity leave, and the child followed his grandmother back to his hometown. Due to her busy work and the distance from her hometown, she goes back once a year. Until the child goes to elementary school, the baby is picked up in order to let the child receive a better education.
I found that the child and the two were completely unrelated, and they were very cold and indifferent. It's one thing for a child not to kiss, the key is not to listen to discipline. Children in primary school have their own thoughts, are not disciplined by their parents, say that they cannot be scolded, cannot be beaten, and just started to say two sentences to him and cry to find grandma. There is no way, they gave birth to a second child, and now the friend resigns at home full-time with the baby, and the second parent is not good!
The experience of a friend fully illustrates the importance of high-quality companionship for children as a child. Whoever brings up the child, especially who sleeps with him at night, the child kisses whom. This is what the child feels and gets on his own. Children before the age of 6 and who sleep and grow up to kiss who, there are few exceptions, the mother really can't be lazy.
From birth to the age of 6, from a small baby waiting to be fed to a primary school student with his own independent thoughts. During this period, it is inseparable from the careful companionship and education of the caregiver. The little ones grew up under the care of this caregiver, and their joys and sorrows are closely related to the caregiver. In the child's heart, the person who accompanies him to eat and play is his own world, the source of his sense of security.
They are accustomed to this kind of dependence and companionship, and the feelings they have built up from childhood are irreplaceable by anything. Whether it is a mother or a grandmother, the status of this caregiver in the child's heart is different, and when he grows up, he will only be close to the person who gave him full of love and security when he was a child.
At the same time, because the child believes in this person, he will be willing to listen to this person, and this person will be easier to educate.
Therefore, if parents lack care for their children for some reason when their children are young, or even absent from the growth of their children, they cannot even sleep with their children. So many halves will gain a child who is not close, disobedient, and unconscious. The more the child grows up, the more he does not kiss himself, the more he does not listen to his own words, the child has a series of problems, he has a weak heart, and it is too late to regret it.
For children, the most important thing is still parents. If parents are absent from growth, even if others are good to him, they will be missing a piece in their hearts, affecting their physical and mental health, and affecting their ability to feel happiness on the road of life.
Therefore, since parents intend to have children, they must take responsibility. When the child is 0-6 years old, try to give the child high-quality companionship, if the day work is busy, then use the time at night, sleep with the child at night, and enjoy a quiet parent-child time.
[Topic Discussion: Do you think who has a great influence on children when you are a child? 】
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