Emotional intelligence is needed at any time to get along with each other. In fact, this kind of emotional intelligence can also be called good personality, good temperament and so on.
Of course, wisdom and skill are also needed. But in terms of family affection, in addition to these, it also needs love, and it needs a delicacy and thoughtfulness that is considered from the perspective of the other party.
Many family conflicts are not easy to resolve, one is because there is not enough love, so there is not enough patience. The second reason is that the personality or mentality is not good, the temper is impatient, and the problem is more complicated.
And in a family, the biggest problem is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. If the relationship between these two women is not handled well, the atmosphere in this home will naturally not be better. And the relationship between these two people is also an extremely sensitive matter.
When you meet a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law who are in tune, you can get along as casually as a friend or mother and daughter, but people have different personalities, some are easy to get along with, some are not easy to get along with. Even if the heart is good, but the personality is not good, it will also produce contradictions.
Therefore, if you want to have a good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, you sometimes need the help of the men in this family. That is to say, when a man's mother and wife have conflicts, the role of the man is very important.
He wants to reconcile the relationship between the two of them, and if he is not careful, both sides will be offended, or he will make sandwich cookies and be wronged from them, which will not play any easing role, or even intensify the contradiction.
Watching "My Favorite Women", the crew arranged a scene where the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law deliberately contradicted each other to see how the men in their family handled it. Four men in four families, each in a different way, each in a different style.
The most touching thing is Yuan Chengjie. After the mother and wife returned from play, the mother hid in the room and shed tears, saying that it was raining outside, the shoes were wet, and the socks could squeeze the water, which made her feel bad stomach pain.
She wanted to buy shoe covers, but her daughter-in-law Qianqian wanted to eat ice cream, and the crew did not give more money, so she had to let Qianqian.
Seeing his mother's aggrieved look, Yuan Chengjie quickly said that it was his fault that he should not let his mother wear those shoes. Then he said to his mother: I will scold her (Qianqian).
When he came to his wife, of course, he could not scold, he was a man who spoiled his wife as his life, and he could not give up or dare not scold his wife. I had to tell my wife about this, and my wife said that my mother didn't say that she wanted to buy it, and she didn't say that I knew.
Yuan Chengjie quietly consulted with his wife, pretending to scold her a few words, letting his mother hear it and dissipate his anger. So he raised his voice to accuse his wife of not understanding things and not taking good care of his mother.
As a result, the wife was not happy again, saying that he was very serious about killing himself, so he had to patiently coax his wife.
Watching him coax two women running around on both sides, I feel funny and pitiful, many family men, have to be in such a role, while coaxing their mothers, while coaxing their wives, they obviously have nothing wrong.
But because he loves both women, he doesn't want any one to be wronged, so he can only be a little more wronged.
In this process, it does require high emotional intelligence, good manners, good attitude, and good patience. Otherwise, the two women are endless, and the man can easily lose patience and start to get bored.
And Yuan Chengjie's way of admitting his mistakes first can make the mother's heart soften at once, and the mother will generally forgive her son easily, and she does not want to embarrass him, and naturally begins to let go.
And in front of the mother, but also to show that they will "teach" the wife, the mother to see this situation, worried about the son's husband and wife feelings affected, generally will in turn stop him, do not let him find trouble with the daughter-in-law.
If he directly helped his wife say nice things and explain in front of his mother, his mother would be even more unhappy. Therefore, Yuan Chengjie's handling is indeed correct.
However, he was not confident, he was actually nervous and scared when he saw such a scene, because he did not want them to be unhappy because of these two women.
So later, when he learned that his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law were arranged to act, his emotions suddenly collapsed, and he couldn't help but cry. Because of grievances, because of too much nervousness, it is really not easy to think.
Of course, it's all because he loves these two women and doesn't want to lose either of them or want to be sad about either. If he selfishly only cares about his own feelings, he will not be so patient to solve and communicate to deal with and reconcile.
Therefore, it is only natural that Yuan Chengjie was praised for this hot search. There are also many people who say that it will be really good to marry a husband like Yuan Chengjie.
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