You Sanjie and her sister You Erjie, also known as "Eryou", are two unmarried young daughters who defected to the stepmother of You clan in Ningguo Province, "Zhenzhen Yi pair of special things" (66th time). Compared with the second sister's thousand charms, You Third Sister is more dazzling, and "a pair of autumn water eyes" hooks people's hearts between "Gu Pan Streamer". The beauty of the third sister lies not only in the "absolute" of color, but also in the "fierceness" of sex, which can be described as "the iron in the Zhengzheng, the best in the mediocre, the only person in the book".
Although "Eryou" is a sister, she has taken a completely different path in life. The second sister captured Jia Lian's heart with her beauty and gentleness, causing Jia Lian to secretly marry her regardless of the consequences. She was full of thought that she had found a home in her life and could be a rich and noble lady, but she underestimated Wang Xifeng's vinegar intentions and means, and after being deceived into jia mansion by Fengjie's sweet words, she was immediately reprimanded and ostracized by Fengjie secretly and had no power to fight back, and finally forced herself to swallow gold and commit suicide. But the third sister is completely different, even if she relies on the Jia family for survival, she also unabashedly shows a fierce and bold personality, and even Jia Zhen and Jia Lian are bothered by it. Therefore, Cao Xueqin's evaluation of the third sister is "Gang".
Emotionally, the "gang" shown by You Sanjie is to uphold the strong and spicy character, dare to rise up against male play, and actively seek happy true love. The sixty-fifth time in "Dream of the Red Chamber", Jia Lian thought that the third sister looked at Baoyu, and the second sister and Elder You listened to it and thought so. Third Sister You took a sip and said, "We have ten sisters, but we can't marry ten of your brothers." Except for your family, there are no good men in the world! You Sanjie's undisguised remarks slapped the self-righteous Jia Fu men with a loud slap, and other women flocked to Jia Fu, but You SanJie was unmoved. It turned out that You Sanjie was looking at Liu Xianglian, who was on the edge of You's birthday party five years ago. On this side, Third Sister You insisted, "If someone with the surname Liu comes, I will marry him." From this day forward, I will eat and pray to the Buddha, only to serve my mother, wait for him to come, marry him, and if I don't come for a hundred years, I will practice myself." Even more, he struck a jade hairpin into two paragraphs, "A sentence is not true, just like this hairpin!" To show mingzhi, it can be seen that Third Sister You's determination is great. The fierce third sister showed unshakable stubbornness in dealing with feelings.
Later, when Liu Xianglian met Jia Lian by chance, she heard about You Sanjie's person, and Jia Lian smiled: "Now that there is no basis for saying that there is no basis for saying that there is no basis for it, when Brother Liu sees it, I will know that my inner di character is unique in ancient and modern times." Xiang Lian listened to Daxi and said, "Even so, if my brother has visited the girl, but he will enter Beijing in the middle of the month, how will he decide then?" Jia Lian was afraid that Liu Xianglian would trace the waves and miss the major events of other people's lives, so she asked Liu Xianglian to leave a fixed gift. Xiang Lian said, "Even so, brother has nothing else, this sword is self-defense, and it cannot be untied." There is also a Mandarin duck sword in the bag, which is the treasure of my family's generation, and my brother does not dare to use it, only to collect it with him, Brother Jia please take it for determination. The younger brother is the nature of the flow of water, but he also refuses to give up this sword. After the third sister got this sword, she was overjoyed, and she quickly collected it, hung it on the bed of her embroidery room, looked at the sword every day, and laughed at herself for life. Unfortunately, contrary to her wishes, You Sanjie, who had been waiting for a long time, ended up with a "crushed peach blossoms on the ground, and the jade mountain was dumped and then difficult to help", and the final achievement of the Mandarin Duck Sword was not a happy couple, but an "outlaw Mandarin Duck".
Liu Xianglian has always been close to Baoyu, so she told Baoyu everything on the road, and Baoyu smiled: "Great joy, great joy!" It is rare that this Peugeot person is indeed a wonderful ancient and modern person, worthy of your personality. Xiang Lian was confused, feeling that he did not know the details, and regretted that he should not leave this sword for determination. Bao Yu persuaded Xiang Lian that since she had gained a perfect color, there was no need to doubt anymore, and Xiang Lian said, "Except for the two stone lions in your East Mansion, I am afraid that even the cats and dogs are not clean." I don't do this leftovers. "Baoyu is also extremely embarrassed. Xiang lian then made up her mind to ask Jia Lian for the return of the gift on the pretext that her aunt had already searched for relatives for him, and even frankly said, "My brother is willing to accept the responsibility and receive the punishment, but this matter does not dare to obey the fate."
Third Sister Na you waited for him so easily, but now that she suddenly saw the remorse, she knew that he had received news in the Jia Mansion, and naturally she felt that she was obscene and shameless, and disdained to be a wife. If he is allowed to go out and talk to Jia Lian about retiring, it is expected that Jia Lian will not be able to go, and he will not be bored. As soon as he heard that Jia Lian was going to go out with him, he quickly took off his sword, hid a female blade in his elbow, and came out and said, "You don't have to go out to discuss it again, and pay back your gift." With tears pouring down his face, he sent the sword and sheath to Xianglian with his left hand, and his right elbow only crossed the neck. When Xianglian saw that Third Sister You was so strong, she sought a short-sighted view of herself, and then she cried, "I didn't know that she was such a strong and virtuous wife, respectable and respectable." Xiang Lian cried against the corpse. When he bought the coffin, he saw the burial and cried again. Going out is doing nothing, drowsy and silent, thinking to himself: "It turns out that such a Peugeot talent, and such a fierce!" "I can't regret myself, and I don't know it when I walk."
You Sanjie's self-inflicted martyrdom to show her innocence and infatuation, from the analysis of her fierce personality, this move can also be understood. In herself, You Sanjie is a fierce woman who dares to resist the flirtation and play of Jia Zhen and Jia Lian. In the sixtieth time of "Dream of the Red Chamber", Jia Zhen and Jia Lian originally wanted to let Sister You accompany her, who knew that Sister You Was actually open enough to let Jia Lian and Jia Zhen have no place to look at themselves, and their boldness and polai even calmed Jia Zhen, and they regretted it so much that they would slip away, where Sister You would let go. On the contrary, she herself talked loudly, squandered and scattered for a while, and laughed at the two brothers for fun, and it was really she who prostituted a man, not a man who fornicated with her. At one point, she was full of wine, and she did not allow his brother to sit more, so she threw herself out and went to sleep behind closed doors. It was really wonderful that he actually played revenge on Jia Zhen and Jia Lian, playing with them in the palm of his hand, and did not look at these alcoholics in the eyes at all.
After that, You Sanjie was even more unscrupulous. Where the lady was slightly missing, she scolded Jia Lian, Jia Zhen, and Jia Rong, saying that his grandfather had deceived her widow and orphan daughter. You Sanjie is more attached to her own style Peugeot, preferring to dress up well, making a wave of obscenity that is beyond the reach of thousands of people, coaxing the men to salivate and fall, wanting to be close, wanting to be far away, confused and upside down, she thinks it is happy. You Sanjie is a strange flower in "Dream of the Red Chamber", and she uses her charm to trample and play with those men who want to play with her.
People with a strong personality like You Sanjie often have a strong sense of self and principle, but they are also prone to overly strong and act recklessly under impulse. You Sanjie's fierceness reflects her infatuation, and she insists on "lifelong events, life to death, not the same child's play." I have now changed my keeping, as long as I choose a person who can be happy with the day to go with him. If by your choice, although it is Fubi Shi Chong, who has only passed the zijian and looks better than Pan An, I will not be able to enter in my heart, and I will have lived a lifetime in vain." (Sixty-fifth time). But in this resolute persistence, it also reflects the biggest weakness of You Sanjie, and it is also the key to her final martyrdom, that is, the lack of love.
Insufficient compression is one of the characteristics of a strong personality, which can easily lead to emotional outbursts and collapses. Psychologically, pressure refers to the ability of individuals to rebound from stress, the ability of individuals to adapt to life adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats, and other major pressures in life, and the ability of individuals to rebound in the face of life pressures and setbacks. Ballistic pressure is a new concept advocated by the international psychological community, which emphasizes the importance of good social adaptability for human health. This process can be described by the "spring effect", when the pressure is too heavy, the spring will lose its effect because the pressure is too large; when the pressure is too light, the spring will not act because the pressure is too small; only when the pressure is moderate, the spring will play a role. Love pressure refers to a person's good ability to adapt to love adversity, and it is also the ability of individuals to rebound in the face of emotional setbacks. Love pressure bomb includes a positive assessment and effective response to the negative emotional experience of love, the negative emotions of love can make people have anxiety, jealousy, despair and other negative emotions, but also can play a role in stimulating potential, invigorating emotions, and even self-sublimation and perfection. In the face of love setbacks and adversities, people need to have both the ability to withstand setbacks and the ability to eliminate setbacks. Among them, the ability to withstand setbacks will make people brave to bear various emotional pressures, not to lose their fighting spirit due to temporary difficulties, or to give up their belief in themselves; and the ability to eliminate setbacks makes people good at resolving various emotional pressures, to turn danger into disaster, and to turn danger into safety. The one who can be flexible and free in this pressure is the master of love pressure.
Looking closely at Third Sister You, she dared to be cold to Jia Zhen and others fornication and coercion, but she could not stand Liu Xianglian's suspicion and contempt, she martyred herself with death, washed her innocence with blood, and sacrificed her steadfastness to love. This attitude of love is admirable and at the same time deeply regrettable.
First, You Sanjie only had a one-sided relationship with Liu Xianglian five years ago, which can be said to be You Sanjie's one-sided love at first sight, Liu Xianglian has never known the existence of You Sanjie, but You Sanjie unswervingly does not marry Liu Xianglian. What an obsession this is! Just like after the engagement, Liu Xianglian doubted: "Even so, he is missing a character?" How to just think of me? Moreover, I have never been very kind to him, and I am concerned about this. Busy on the road just repeatedly asked for a decision, is it not possible for the female family to rush the male family? I wondered myself, regretting that I should not have left this sword to make up my mind. So later, when I think of you, I can ask you carefully. "You Sanjie's love from afar, because of the distance, can infinitely exaggerate each other's advantages and narrow each other's shortcomings in love, thus producing a huge illusion of love, so once they get closer to each other, there may be a huge counter-thrust, for example, because Liu Xianglian thinks that she is lascivious and produces great loss and despair, after the hope is quickly broken, she chose to commit suicide to die Mingzhi.
Second, Liu Xianglian, the sweetheart of You Sanjie, is famous for her "cold face and cold heart", "ruthless and unjust" (the sixty-sixth time), and his willingness to betrothed is nothing more than "I had the wish to be a beautiful woman", it can be said that his initial preference was You Sanjie's "ancient and modern beauty", not character. Therefore, after learning from Bao Yu that You Sanjie lived in Ningguo Mansion, he doubted You Sanjie's character and resolutely withdrew from marriage. Unfortunately, You Sanjie was immersed in the happiness she had fulfilled and turned a blind eye to potential problems. Even if the two walk together, is this marriage based on unrequited love and beauty that is not well understood really solid? In fact, in the end, Liu Xianglian also respected You Sanjie more than she loved. Love not only needs a heart-warming feeling, but also requires understanding, running-in, tolerance and commitment.
Third, From infatuation to despair, You Sanjie has always been so determined and obstinate, but she has forgotten Liu Xianglian's wishes and opinions. From Liu Xianglian's point of view, many people in Jia Fu are indeed adulterous people, such as You Sanjie's beauty, naturally can not escape the clutches of the devil, this is excusable speculation. On the other hand, You Sanjie, in the face of Liu Xianglian's suspicions, she was anxious, disappointed, and even desperate, but she still did not defend and pestered, and washed her innocence with extreme behavior. Obviously, there can be many choices, but You Sanjie chose a dead end, which made people sigh.
You Sanjie takes Liu Xianglian as a confidant, and does not marry Xianglian, and regards Xianglian's ceremony as a treasure, but in exchange for Xianglian's suspicion of her character, and finally the blood splashes the Mandarin Duck Sword. Indignant is the persecution of feudal and obscene forces, indignant is even more Liu Xianglian credulously believes rumors and betrays her faith, and the indignation is also that You Sanjie has just passed through the easy and infatuated return to the prefectural government. All in all, You Sanjie was more than strong and fierce, and the pressure was insufficient, forcing herself into a desperate situation.