Many original partners who encounter extramarital affairs will obsess over a question, that is, whether men love themselves or love Xiaosan?
Whether the cheating man and Xiao San are true love, and whether the cheating man and Xiao San have a true love should be believed in the end.
Tianshu believes that there is no so-called true love in extramarital affairs, and it is difficult to have true love under normal circumstances, let alone extramarital affairs?
So basically the love in extramarital affairs is pseudo-true love, cheating men and xiaosan under the guise of true love, each has its own purpose,
In order to achieve their own goals by any means, in the end, it is just for true love, to seek comfort in the heart, to alleviate guilt.
Cheating men and Xiao San can cheat on each other and say that it is true love, and the original match should be clear, do not accompany the cheating man and Xiao San into the play.
In addition to being clear that there is no so-called true love in an extramarital affair, the original partner must also know how to deal with the pseudo-true love type of little three.
First of all, the original match should know that all pseudo-true love-type extramarital affairs have a typical feature,
It is also the most effective breaking point that can be used against xiao san and cheating men, which is a kind of psychology,
The cheating man and Xiao San both know that they do not really love each other, but they both feel that the other party believes that they are true love.
Xiao San knows that he is with cheating men for money, for the sake of being in power, and for more benefits.
But in order to make the cheating man willing to divorce herself and help herself achieve her goals, she said to the cheating man that she was true love.
She felt that the cheating man must have believed what he said, so he would really divorce himself and the original partner for himself and protect himself.
The same is true of the cheating man, the cheating man covets the young beauty of the little three, gentle and considerate, willing to coax himself,
Coveting the excitement and freshness that Xiao San can give himself and can't feel in marriage, so he coaxes Xiao San with good words,
Say that he really loves Xiao San, Xiao San is better than his wife, and he will divorce and marry Xiao San and so on.
In fact, the cheating man knows that he does not love Xiao San so much, or just to meet the needs, there is no love at all.
He feels that he has acted well, and the performance of true love is very similar, Xiao San believes it, and he also feels that Xiao San is also true love.
The reality is that Xiao San also has his own purpose is not to really love cheating men, cheating men also have their own needs and do not have any true love for Xiao San.
Basically, ninety-nine percent of extramarital affairs, cheating men and xiao san are all in this situation, all of which are false true love,
But they don't know each other, they are convinced that the other loves themselves, and then they play their own little calculations, thinking about how to calculate each other.
The reason why they can still be together is not that they are emotionally tied to each other, but that they rely on the original external help.
Because the original partner believes that two people are true love, desperately wants to separate these two people, they for their own purposes, in order to keep the extramarital affair,
They will choose to hold together to deal with the original match, and the united front is because they feel that the two people have a common enemy.
And if this enemy disappears and two people begin to be busy achieving their goals, the true love disguise will be consumed,
In the end, the two people will find that the other party does not actually love themselves, as if they have been deceived, they will contradict each other, and finally the relationship will collapse.
This is also why, many extramarital affairs, when the original match did not divorce Andi Xiaosan, the cheating man and Xiaosan loved to die and live and refused to break the relationship.
Wait until the original match gives up, takes the property directly to divorce the stop loss, and is too lazy to care about the cheating man and the little three love do not love,
The cheating man and the little three will have a contradiction, and the little three will not be driven away by the cheating man for a long time.
This is also why extramarital affairs are vigorous, but the vast majority of cheating men will not marry Xiao San when they are divorced.
Therefore, in the face of the pseudo-true love type of cheating man and the extramarital affair of Xiao San, what the original match needs to do is not to do everything possible to separate the two people.
Instead, it is to retreat into the advance, let two people be together, even if it is not really divorced, to complete the cheating man and the little three,
The original match also needs to learn, stabilize their mentality, and ignore the cheating man and the little three or two people.
The original should live their own life, take care of the children, as long as the original match is not a problem, the cheating man will not divorce.
The purpose of cheating men not divorcing Xiao San and wanting to ascend to the throne cannot be achieved, and Xiao San will not be a little three forever.
When she sought to ascend to the throne, she either tore the mask of her so-called true love or tore the illusion of the true love of the cheating man to pieces.
As long as one party reveals that he is not true love, it is all lies and gestures made for his own purposes,
The cheating man and Xiao San's extramarital affair will face rupture, and it will not end well, and the two people will eventually end up opposite.
Of course, if the original partner does not want to passively wait for the cheating man and the internal disintegration of the little three, there is also a corresponding way to take the initiative.
Fake is fake, real can't, the original as long as you find a way to directly tear through two people, you can,
Compared with debunking Xiao San, it is simpler to debunk the cheating man, and as for how to debunk Tianshu, you can also give you some advice.
The first method is to condone Xiao San, to retreat into the advance, take the initiative to find Xiao San to say that he wants a divorce, let Xiao San go to the cheating man to force a divorce,
The basis of this method, the original match is better than the small three conditions, is to determine the cheating man is not willing to divorce the situation.
Cheating men refuse to divorce, the original should be divorced cheating men do not agree, cheating men also said that they love Xiao San, Xiao San naturally understands that they are fake.
The second method is to use all aspects to unite to oppress cheating men, so that cheating men have to give up the little three.
This requires the original to prepare in advance, collect evidence of infidelity, control economic power, and build a good relationship with relatives and friends.
Let the cheating man have to return to the family, let the cheating man have to separate the little three.
The third method is to stimulate Xiao San, make Xiao San suspicious of the cheating man, and find a way to make the cheating man prove that he loves her.
Although Xiao San is not a true love cheating man, Xiao San also has jealousy of the original match, and the original match is intimate with the cheating man.
Let the cheating man show a deep affection for the original, the little three will be jealous and uneasy, will be afraid, and will try to make the cheating man prove that he loves himself.
But cheating men don't really love Xiao San, Xiao San is always making trouble, and cheating men will get bored.
Finally, Tianshu wanted to say that love is a very sacred and solemn word, and the feelings of extramarital affairs really do not fit into this word.
There is no true love in extramarital affairs, some are self-interested and mutually exploited under the guise of true love.
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