In every family, there will be a bear child.
For example, Sophie's younger brother, Noah.
Sophie built a tall skyscraper and was about to call her mother to see her when Noah kicked the ball and ran in.
Just listening to the "whoosh" sound, the skyscraper collapsed.
Looking at the skyscraper that she had worked so hard to build, and before she could call her mother to see it, she was damaged by Noah, and Sophie was very angry.
"Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
After the roar, she grabbed Noah by the collar again and tried to slap him.
Fortunately, Mom arrived in time to stop the impulsive Sophie.
Sophie was so aggrieved that she cried and told her mother that Noah had done something bad.
Mom didn't let Sophie let Noah be her brother, she gently comforted Sophie: "I can understand why you are so angry, you took a lot of effort to build a skyscraper, but your brother broke it." "
Sophie cried and told her mother, "I want to give Noah a slap." "
Mom hugged Sophie and patted Sophie's back lightly, "You can feel angry if someone breaks your thing, but you can't hit someone." You can try to do things that don't hurt others and calm yourself down. "
Sophie's mother, who likes Sophie, does not take sides when dealing with the child's problems, and does not blame anyone, but guides Sophie to learn to deal with her own bad emotions. But instead of telling Sophie how to do it, she let her think for herself and decide for herself, which exercised Sophie's independence very well.
So, can Sophie think of a way?
Clever Sophie has thought of many, many ways to do it!
When angry, twist the pillow hard;
It is also possible to blow all the anger into the balloon;
You can also dance, you can dance as much as you want;
Of course, anger can also be drawn.
The more the cerebellum melon seeds think, the more they think.
Mom told her: "These attentions are all good, but they are easy to forget, is there any way to remember them?" "
It's not hard for little Sophie, "Mom, I can draw them all." "
Mom continued to guide Sophie, "That's a good idea, how do you think it would be to make a pie chart disc?" Then you can write an idea on each pie chart. "
Little Sophie liked her mother's idea very much. When she said that she was done, she immediately found all the materials and seriously made a pie chart.
The pie chart was beautiful, like a big pizza, and Sophie drew pictures of every idea.
Looking at the pie chart, Sophie gave it a name, "Anger Choice Wheel." When she is angry, she can choose what she wants to do.
But is the selection wheel really useful?
Noah broke Sophie's rag doll again, and Noah screamed angrily. As she grabbed Noah, who was trying to escape, and was ready to smash Noah with a rag doll, she thought of the wheel of choice.
So she left a confused Noah, ran to the room, carefully watched the selection wheel, and finally she chose to blow the balloon.
However, this method still did not work, because it was not long before Sophie blew a room full of balloons.
That's the end of the story.
But the author is very thoughtful to make 16 explanations for this story,
The author tells us that to teach children, there can be any emotion, including good and bad, but no bad behavior. And to help children learn to self-regulate, and do not help children make selection wheels, let children make their own evolution theory can make children feel that it belongs to themselves. Wait a minute.
However, in these 16 instructions, I think the ultimate thing to do is how mom should deal with noah's liking for sabotage.
As the author says, Noah is a curious two- or three-year-old boy who doesn't understand that he's destroying Sophie's toys. At this time, the mother should cultivate Noah's sense of responsibility, empathy, and appropriate social behavior.
In fact, reading picture books with children is not only teaching children, but also teaching parents how to be a qualified parent.
Because it's not just children who need to learn, parents who also need to learn.