It is not easy to have a good marriage, because in the process of running a marriage, couples will encounter various problems, if they cannot be properly solved, the ultimate harm must be the feelings of husband and wife, so many couples live carefully.
Regarding this state of marriage, some people do not approve, such as Qin Hailu, a prominent figure in the entertainment industry, she has a different view of marriage, and she feels that the two should not live so carefully.
You know, when a couple decides to enter the marriage, it means that the couple has gone through a lot of choices, and in these choices, the two people are still married, which is enough to prove their feelings.
Since the two have this kind of feeling, after entering the marriage together, there is no need to be too tired, it should be rational. In this regard, Qin Hailu once said: "Marriage is like entering the stock market, we should treat it rationally." ”
At first glance, everyone may feel that there is no reason, because after entering marriage, there will be all kinds of contradictions and accidents, which cause us to be unable to remain rational, so this sentence has no effect.
If you can only think of this, then you may wish to continue to look at Qin Hailu's love life, since Qin Hailu has this point of view, she is more rational in marriage, which makes her and Wang Xinjun like "old husband and wife".
In her conception, although two people are married, it does not mean that they should be tied together, especially couples with their own ideas, should continue to maintain their own ideas, continue to maintain certain aspects of independence, such as personality.
When people have this kind of thinking, it may feel that it is difficult for couples to integrate together and understand each other. It is true, but when you understand it from a different perspective, you will find that this kind of getting along makes a lot of sense.
In one episode, Qin Hailu and her husband Wang Xinjun sat in the car, accompanied by another young man. Because Qin Hailu was unwilling to communicate with others, as soon as she got into the car, she took her mobile phone to read the novel, and there was no sign of wanting to talk to the other party.
Seeing that Qin Hailu was doing this, Wang Xinjun persuaded him on the spot, saying that Qin Hailu's personality was not good and he had to change it. From this point, we can see that after the two married, Qin Hailu still maintained his own personality, and only at the right time would heed her husband's advice and make appropriate changes.
Some people may think that if this is the case, it will be difficult to change after two people are actually married. In fact, in the process of getting along, husband and wife have always tolerated each other, not to let each other make changes, nor to let each other become what they want.
It is precisely because of this that women do not have to live carefully after entering marriage, and in some ways, they can still maintain their unique personality. In the same way, men can do the same, and they can also treat this marriage with reason.
As Leo Tolstoy once said, "Husband and wife must respect each other, not chain each other." If we take this sentence apart and understand it, we will find that in his view of feelings, he is also rational.
If everyone can't stay rational and make a big fuss when they encounter something, it can only hurt the feelings of both parties. On the contrary, in a marriage, if everyone can remain rational, it will be very fun even if it is rice, oil and salt.