Wen | Xiaobei at the end of the day
I like this sentence very much: when in love, how much beauty and sweetness, in the process of getting along, there are many troubles and sorrows.
In fact, falling in love is a very simple thing, two people have a special love for each other, willing to accompany each other, willing to let each other perceive their enthusiasm. This is love.
However, in the process of getting along in life, there will be many different bumps and bumps, and these bumps will make the two people who get along into confusion and struggle. This is the "sorrow and trouble" in getting along.
Marriage is only a carrier that carries the feelings of two people, if it is official, it is marriage that allows two people to legally get along together, and then move forward in the direction of happiness.
Husbands and wives get along in marriage, that is, they need to overcome those "sorrows and troubles" in order to make love easier, thicker, and more able to withstand the wind and rain.
In this world, no one can only enjoy the sweetness without taking on the responsibilities in reality, especially after entering the marriage, the more some responsibilities are evaded, the more they hurt each other. And, in a marriage, no one can guarantee that they will always be happy.
Therefore, learning how to get along with others may be a problem that we will face in our lives.
There are too many people, when they are in love, always think that they will feather into butterflies, but when they fall into real life, they have become ugly mice.
I often write some words, hoping that everyone can see the confusion of couples in marriage through popular stories, and can adjust their mentality in time to say "I love you" to the person who entered middle age with you.
However, in this journey of feelings, people are never more and more frustrated. Especially when a couple enters middle age, you will rarely see them look into each other's eyes affectionately and say "I love you".
I've heard a lot of people say that women should be strong in understanding how to get along with their significant other. It is true that women should improve their strength, but emotions are the run-in between the two sides, and when dealing with these things, they should not only convince themselves to become strong, but also learn to communicate with each other, and you can become strong together.
I've said in words before that only two strong people can sustain a love for a long time. Admittedly, many people have a hard time doing it. Because too many readers have left me messages, telling me about their pain, telling me that they and their partners are not as good as they were in middle age, and they have lost all the passions they once had when they were young.
Why is that?
To put it bluntly, that is, when we all enter middle age, we lose the courage to say "I love you", not that we dare not face our feelings, but that we are afraid of losing, afraid of losing.
In fact, the law of the jungle in feelings can never apply to everyone. Some people, just so special, the more you limit her, the more she is afraid, even afraid.
We all grew up complaining, but don't let yourself become selfish, cold, and desperate people when we get along. Because, if you have one of these emotions, the other person can feel it and will stop conveying his love for you.
In fact, when people reach middle age, they are not terrible. Before, watching a show, Chen Qiaoen said: "People will get old, there is nothing to hide." "You can only face up to your growing age, face up to the fact that you and the other party have gotten along into a bland marriage, then you can quickly introspect yourself, it turns out that everything is not a problem." 」
There are many people who enter middle age and become unwilling to change themselves or accommodate each other. I don't even want to believe that there are good things in this world.
Admittedly, the more you have such thoughts, the more negative your life becomes, and even the courage to continue living at one point. The phrase "I love you" is not terrible, it is only the "fear" in our hearts.
As we see in fairy tales, if we want the Golden Apple, we may have to go through the curse of the witch. Just as if we want to reap the good in life, we must rely on our own efforts to overcome the "troubles and sorrows" that are full of the road of marriage.
Don't forget your original intention, you have to be consistent. When we do, it is nothing more than a "slogan" that hints at your heart, and for the other person, this may be your reward for her.
My friend in the Writers' Association, I often mention her in my writings. Now that she is over half a hundred years old, she still tells her partner the phrase "I love you." "I believe in myself, and I believe he can believe in himself, so we can all afford to say 'I love you', we can all afford to say,' she said. ”
In fact, this is her mentality problem. Is it so scary to lose? Not really. What's scary is just the work of your psyche. When people reach middle age, why can't they afford to lose? As long as you have faith, you are not afraid of not being able to lose; as long as you love yourself, you are not afraid of not being able to lose.
We must take the relationship in marriage as a way for us to refine ourselves, and in the process of refining ourselves, we can also soberly understand ourselves and talk to ourselves. One day, if you can say "I love myself" to yourself ten times in a row, you are confident.
When you are confident, you are not afraid of losing, and you will calmly face the "troubles and sorrows" in your heart. Even if your relationship with the other person has stopped, you still have a wonderful self, don't you?
What are you afraid of? Lonely? But even if people are getting along, if no other person can go to your heart, are you not lonely?
If there is no love, you can stop the loss in time. Even in middle age, each of us has the right to pursue our own happiness. As long as you are confident enough, as long as you dare to face your heart, and face your gains and losses.
Only when we truly learn to accept the trivialities of life and the imperfections in our own feelings can we eliminate the anxiety and fear within you.
In fact, after you figure it out, marriage is also very simple. As long as you are confident enough and the other person is active enough to cooperate, then you are fearless.
Of course, life is indeed cruel. Even if some people show their positivity and courage, they may not be able to get a good ending. However, as we mentioned earlier, if you feel that the other party is not good enough, replace it. What are you afraid of?
Besides, you're not the only one in this world who's entering middle age. Although you have to face pressures from other things in your life, if you love yourself, you will not be afraid of those pressures.
Is it wrong for our own lives, for us to aspire to the way we are? As parents, we all want our children to be happy, and in the same way, children who know how to be grateful naturally also want their parents to be happy, don't they?
In addition to those negative, negative, and unworthy examples, in our lives, there are more sunny, upward, positive examples.
Learn to love yourself, learn to face your inner fears, learn to bravely face those "troubles and sorrows", you are strong. After entering middle age, you are also fearless!
I love you, it's simple. That's three words. If the man you tell him these three words to, he can't afford it, then you say it to yourself. Sometimes, falling in love with yourself is also a beautiful thing.