Firmly believe that the green mountain does not relax, and the root is in the broken rock. --- "Bamboo Stone"
<h1 class="pgc-h-center-line" data-track="3" > preface</h1>
From an early age, our parents taught us that men and women should not be intimate, that men and women should maintain a certain distance and that they should properly maintain gender relations.
Especially in ancient times, if men and women were too close, it would be considered a bad thing.
Even in the open-minded 21st century, men and women should keep their distance, and if they are too close, there will always be someone pointing behind their backs.
<h1 class="pgc-h-center-line" data-track="8" > sit back and forth</h1>
When it comes to the upright style of gender relations, it is necessary to say a word and not sit in confusion. This word comes from Mao Heng's "Book of Poetry, Xiao ya Xiangbo", the original text is as follows: "Why don't the sons of the children be like Liu Xia Huiran, and the concubines do not arrest the daughters of the door, and the chinese people do not call them chaotic." ”
But in fact, the earliest way to sit still is from the "Xunzi Dayu", which is recorded as follows: "Yanagisha Hui and the backdoor are clothed, and there is no doubt, not a day's news." ”
The verse mentions Yanagi, so who is Yanagisha Hui? Is it true or not to sit still?
Let's first look at The two appearances of Yanagishita Kei, the earliest appearing in "Xunzi Dayao". For these few words recorded by Xun Zi, in fact, there is no figure of a woman.
It can be seen from this that the reason for sitting in disorder should come from Mao Heng's poetry.
There are two versions of the story for Mao Heng's record of sitting still.
In the first version, on a very cold night, Yanagishita was staying at the city gate when she happened to meet a woman who had no place to stay.
Yanagishita opened the door to let the women live in, but the weather was too cold, the women were frozen and shivering, And Yanagishita Was afraid that the woman would freeze to death, so she undressed herself and let the woman sit in her arms to warm her.
After sitting like this all night, the two did not commit any transgressions.
In another version, Yanagishita is out visiting friends and suddenly it rains heavily, and he wants to go to the temple to take shelter, but when he enters the temple, he finds a woman who is also sheltering from the rain.
Moreover, the woman's upper body was bare and she was twisting wet clothes, so he hurried out and hid under the locust tree, allowing himself to be wet by the rain and not entering the temple to avoid the rain. There was a sitting locust that was not chaotic, and later it was slowly spread to sit and not chaotic.
Liu Xia Hui Spring and Autumn period people, Xunzi Warring States period Zhao people, Mao Heng Warring States period to the beginning of the Western Han Dynasty.
If sitting in confusion really happened to Liu Xia Hui, then why did it not take shape until Mao Heng's dynasty that sitting in chaos began to take shape?
<h1 class="pgc-h-center-line" data-track="20" > Yanagishita Huihe He xu people</h1>
Yanagishita's real name was acquired, because his fief was in Yanagisha, and his posthumous title was Hui, so he was called Yanagishita Hui later.
Yanagishita was an upright person with high moral character and did not pander to things, but it was precisely because of this style of handling things that he often offended the powerful and was deposed from his official position three times in succession.
But because he was very knowledgeable, the princes of various countries tried to win him over, but he refused.
The reason for the refusal is that I am like this in the world, integrity will not turn, so no matter where I go, I will still be deposed, so why not stay in the country of Lu, where I was born and raised?
<h1 class="pgc-h-center-line" data-track="24" > is true or false</h1>
It has just been mentioned that sitting in peace did not take shape until the early years of the Western Han Dynasty, and then it was not perfected until the Yuan, Ming, and Qing dynasties, and then widely circulated.
Why is this fake story widely circulated? Mainly because during the Yuan, Ming, and Qing dynasties, the idea of different men and women was strengthened, and the historical background at that time made the story of Yanagishi Kei sitting without chaos perfected.
Using a celebrity from the Spring and Autumn Period as an allusion to the story is more convincing, and everyone will do the same, so the story is slowly spreading.
First, a story that has been perfected over dynasties and generations is bound to have deviated from its original direction.
Second, Yanagishita is a man of integrity, even if the princes of various countries throw an olive branch to him, he is not willing to change his style of dealing with the world. Therefore, using him as the protagonist and extending the story can play a multiplier role with half the effort.
brief summary
From this point of view, we are all deceived by false stories. This is actually just a false story that has been passed down for thousands of years, in order to let people learn Yanagishita's decent style in the face of gender relations.
Men and women do not receive kissing, in ancient times, when men and women pass things to each other, do not be too close, so as not to touch each other's hands.
Since ancient times, I have been a civilized and ceremonial country, so there will be strict rules for etiquette between men and women, and no matter what dynasty, men and women are not allowed to be too intimate.
In today's society, people are open-minded and have close contact between men and women, and some people do not grasp the degree of it.
The relationship between the sexes is not like the ancient times, and many bad things have happened with it, such as getting pregnant before marriage, or cheating on the third child, and so on.
Although the ancients deceived us with a false story, the starting point was good. The relationship between men and women, whether ancient or modern, should maintain Yanagishita's upright style of sitting and not messing around.
Reference: Book of Verses